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The verb 'to boob' makes me feel all kinds of terrible

217 replies

tenthstreet · 05/07/2019 13:48

God I fucking hate this saying.

OP posts:
LaMarschallin · 06/07/2019 17:49

I must give the baby her bottle is a pretty usual thing to say though

Fair enough.

Although "I must give the baby her boob" sounds odd to me.

PlatoAteMySnozcumber · 06/07/2019 17:59

We mix feed so we do tend to refer to boob or bottle as simply ‘feeding’ isn’t clear what the plan is.

lolaflores · 06/07/2019 18:27

Why isn't the word feed sufficient then? It's the act of giving the child nutrition...the word boob doesn't seem to have a clear reason for being in there. Unless you want a medal?

madcatladyforever · 06/07/2019 18:36

I can never unread this thread........thanks.

LaMarschallin · 06/07/2019 18:56

We mix feed so we do tend to refer to boob or bottle as simply ‘feeding’ isn’t clear what the plan is.

The one time it seems reasonable.

Why "boob" not "breast" though, out of interest?

PlatoAteMySnozcumber · 06/07/2019 20:51

Why "boob" not "breast" though, out of interest?

We use both... thinking about it we seem to talk about ‘breast feeding’ and ‘bottle feeding’ as general concepts but giving him a ‘boob’ or a ‘bottle’ specifically.

Breast just sounds really old fashioned and formal to me. No idea why I feel this way as it is just the proper word. I say ‘minnie’ instead of vulva though so should probably be shot by MN standards, but in my defence, we talk about it freely and without embarrassment.

My own mother was ridiculously weird and inhibited about all body parts and functions though, maybe this plays a part.

flumpdogmillionaire · 06/07/2019 22:52

LaMarschallin Fri 05-Jul-19 17:57:25
Especially as for my baby breastfeeding is more than just feeding, it's also about comforting.

I was just coming on thread to agree with those who find 'boobing' etc a bit cringe but ^^ this post stood out for me.

What absolute rubbish - I bottle fed mine and he was certainly 'comforted', being nourished and rubbing his little hand on my cheek, looking in my eyes while he did so Hmm

In my experiencing it's the cringy 'boobing' mothers seem to some how feel 'superior'. You're really not love Smile

Ivestoppedreadingthenews · 06/07/2019 22:55

Yep. I'm a breast feeding advocate and fed my latest one until past one. But it also annoys me. But I accept its my issue and just breath and ignore.

LaMarschallin · 07/07/2019 06:33

@flumpdogmillionaire

Thank you Smile

Please excuse me for re-posting the comment to which you refer. I'm a bit sensitive at the moment and don't want people to think I was being unpleasant.
So the post on which you were commenting (and, I think, agreeing with) read:

"Especially as for my baby breastfeeding is more than just feeding, it's also about comforting."

(Post quoted from elsethread; my reply follows)

And bottle feeding lacks that?

No axe to grind. I breastfed both of mine because I was basically too lazy to make up bottle feeds.
And, if they were crying, and it turned out itwasn'thunger, I'd not wasted a bottle.

Never have liked boob for breast (reminds me of those inflatable ones rugby players strap on) but have only just realised, due to reading this thread, that I loathe it in connection with feeding babies.

"I'll give him some boob" as opposed to "I'll give him a bottle".
Ooh. Guess who's breastfeeding.

Just feed him. Nobody cares how except you.

LaMarschallin · 07/07/2019 06:38

Oh god!

I may be overthinking this, but did you think I'd posted:

Especially as for my baby breastfeeding is more than just feeding, it's also about comforting. ?

I quoted that and then put my reply as above. Just noticed the time stamp you mentioned.

snowbrigade · 07/07/2019 20:48

See you guys below quoting my earlier post about comforting. Don't know how to quote earlier posts so will just explain below.

And yeah, still stand by it no matter how cringeworthy some may be finding it. Half the time (on a day he is sore, teething, having a growth spurt etc I'd say most of the time) my baby is latched on he's not feeding at all, he's just hanging around there comforting himself.

Never took a dummy, and I literally am so clueless at parenting that I'm glad I've got something that works to soothe him. I'm sure I would have had to be a lot more creative about comforting him if I didn't BF.

Of course a bottle feed is comforting, but I doubt FF feeding mums stick a bottle in their baby's mouth literally nearly every time the baby whines?

Whereas for myself and most of my mum buddies who BF latching the baby on is basically the solution to everything. Can be multiple times an hour on a bad day. Works for me as I'm pretty lazy.

Whatsername7 · 07/07/2019 22:33

FF mums absolutely do stick a bottle in babies mouth as soon as they whinge. When I had lactation failure with my first I still fed on demand. Lots of bottles wasted when all dd1 wanted was comfort. My ff sils both did the same. Breastfeeding with dd2 was much less wasteful. The comfort comes from being held close. If you breastfeed, bottle or give a dummy, it is still attachment growing, emotion stabilizing, security giving comfort. Those with little babies should enjoy being that comfort source (regardless of how you feed) because they grow so quick.

flumpdogmillionaire · 07/07/2019 23:24

LaMarschallin Sun 07-Jul-19 06:38:47
Oh god!

I may be overthinking this, but did you think I'd posted:

*Especially as for my baby breastfeeding is more than just feeding, it's also about comforting. ?

I quoted that and then put my reply as above. Just noticed the time stamp you mentioned.

Bookmark*

I'm not really sure what you mean? My post was that my son, FF, was also comforted?? we have a fab relationship and aged 26 we still say night night love you - breast fed children don't hold an advantage over formula fed - you can have shit parents who breast feed as well as shit parents who formula feed - it amazes me that some parents argue breast is best - well no - it really isn't if you have a militant parent opposed to a parent who nurtures (without a friggin breast).

MarthasGinYard · 07/07/2019 23:27

Yanbu Op

It's beyond grim

Serin · 08/07/2019 00:24

God, I'm picturing T shirts with "The Boobster" on them next.Blush
Horrible.

LaMarschallin · 08/07/2019 02:22

@flumpdogmillionaire

I'm sorry you don't understand what I mean.
I don't know how to put it more clearly.

I DIDN'T write:

Especially as for my baby breastfeeding is more than just feeding, it's also about comforting.

I QUOTED it. From what is said above, I think snowbrigade wrote it (sorry if I've got that wrong, snowbrigade).

MY opinion is this:

And bottle feeding lacks that?

No axe to grind. I breastfed both of mine because I was basically too lazy to make up bottle feeds.
And, if they were crying, and it turned out it wasn't hunger, I'd not wasted a bottle.

Never have liked boob for breast (reminds me of those inflatable ones rugby players strap on) but have only just realised, due to reading this thread, that I loathe it in connection with feeding babies.

"I'll give him some boob" as opposed to "I'll give him a bottle".
Ooh. Guess who's breastfeeding.

Just feed him. Nobody cares how except you.

I don't know how to explain it any more clearly.

LaMarschallin · 08/07/2019 02:41

So, I DON'T think breastfeeding gives comfort and bottle feeding doesn't.

Phew...

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