DP, DM and I have been invited to to stay with a family member (Fam A) in a few weeks time. Lives a few hours away. Another family member (Fam B), who lives locally to Fam A is having a small party over the same weekend which we are all invited too. Including Fam A. Great.
We haven't been away since my DD was born and I was quite excited about the prospect of visiting Fam A and seeing Fam B at the same time. (Fam C who live locally to us are also invited so bit of a family reunion). As Fam A and B don't live close we rarely see them and aren't particularly close but thought it would be a good chance to reconnect as well as giving us a nice weekend away that we wouldn't have had otherwise.
Text DP whilst at work to ask what he thought and whether he would get the Thurs and Fri off work as holiday. All done via text. He seemed initially a bit bewildered but said ok. Didn't say anything at first to suggest he wouldn't want to go. Even said he would take my car and not his and asked me to tell DM not to nag about his driving! All good. Or so I thought. Told DM who then phoned Fam A to confirm arrangements.
Spoke again to DP about 10 minutes later via text and he made a small comment that suggested perhaps he wasn't okay with the arrangements. Anyway, we had a small text arguement which resulted in him phoning me and explaining that he wasn't comfortable and didnt want to go. I then had to explain I'd already told DM we would go but that if he really isnt comfortable perhaps he could stay home.
Now he's pissed at me. I'm maybe a bit pissed at him. Haven't made DM aware yet. She assumes all good and happy.
Gah. Did I screw up here? I probably jumped the gun and should have waited to discuss properly when he got home before confirming but wanted to check he could get the time off work first.