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To consider a nose job/rhinoplasty? Photos

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Fawnsett · 02/07/2019 23:34

So I have been bullied for my nose in school, and although externally I stayed calm, it was pretty hurtful. I know it's not the worst nose in the world, but I keep coming back to an idea of rhinoplasty. I'm 29, and after a considerable break (8 years!), I am going to start my masters this September (and I am very anxious about it).

I don't have spare money, and initially, I thought that I'd do that later on in my life.. But the closer to September the more anxious I am.

My friends say I am an idiot. My husband says go for it if you feel better that way (although I wish him to say the same things as my friends do)...

I know shorter nose will look better on me..also the hump. But do I need it? What do you think?

To consider a nose job/rhinoplasty? Photos
To consider a nose job/rhinoplasty? Photos
To consider a nose job/rhinoplasty? Photos
OP posts:
whifflesqueak · 03/07/2019 10:54

You’ve posted similar before, I recognise the black and white photos.

I’ll repeat what I said last time. You have a lovely nose. It’s all in your head.

humblesims · 03/07/2019 11:01

100% no need to have anything done to your nose. You are beautiful and your nose is fine. I dont think that changing it will change the way you feel. Be brave and get your masters. If one person bullies you for the way you look come back and tell me and I will eat my hat.

Sinn · 03/07/2019 11:06

Absolutely not

My friend had hers done and something happened to the skin around her eyes and she looks tired and not as pretty now.

Tentomidnight · 03/07/2019 11:09

It sounds to me as though you are nervous about starting your course and you are channelling your feelings into another area, your nose.
I do this, so I understand.
Changing your nose will not make you feel less anxious about returning to studying.
Start your course and then give it 6 months before you make a decision about (painful, unnecessary) surgery.

MirriVan · 03/07/2019 11:17

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Aprillygirl · 03/07/2019 11:21

Your nose suits your face perfectly and I can't see a hump at all! I think 90% of the time people's faces end up looking really odd and out of proportion after a nose job, so considering you don't even it you'd be silly to spend money on something that could potentially make you look a lot worse than you do now.

MiniMum97 · 03/07/2019 11:26

You are beautiful and your nose is lovely. You should see mine lol! Personally I wouldn't risk surgery for this. What if it goes wrong and you are disfigured.

Also I wouldn't have surgery for something that you are anxious about. It rarely resolves the anxiety and you are likely to be just as anxious, if not more, with your new nose. When you are anxious about something, if you respond to that anxiety (by checking, hand washing, asking for reassurance etc etc) it feeds it.

You need to stop looking at your nose, stop asking people about it. Consider CBT and mindfulness to keep your anxiety under control and work on the effects of the bullying.

I have BDD from bullying about my appearance and I now have it under control from it being unbearable and taking over my life by doing the above.

Did you know that recent research shows that the effects of bullying are as bad or worse that the effects of sexual abuse in terms of the impact in ongoing mental health in adulthood.

Good luck.

WMPAGL · 03/07/2019 11:46

OP, you are lovely-looking - no need to change anything at all!

Whenever someone brings up rhinoplasty, I always think of Jennifer Grey who, in my opinion, was lovely and striking before her nose job.

After it, although there's nothing wrong with it, she looks totally different, and I honestly couldn't pick her out of a line-up without a caption. I've always thought that was such a shame.

MargotsFlounceyBlouse · 03/07/2019 11:49

You should see mine!!! Your nose is fine.

TenAndFive · 03/07/2019 11:50

Huh?

Your nose is fine!

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Fawnsett · 03/07/2019 11:51

Thank you guys.. that's quite a different perspective.

I was posting B&W before yes, because my aunt made a comments about my "roman nose".

I can't say I am too traumatised overall, because I learnt that self-esteem should not be equal to appearence and appearence is even not the second thing in the world..

But seriously thank you. It's a lot to think about. I know that my life won't be all moonlight and roses with a different nose, I just thought that it ruins my face and people see nose on my face in a first place..

But so many of you said opposite things.

Thank you very much again.

OP posts:
LadyBumclock · 03/07/2019 12:02

The thing is you could actually ruin your face with a nose job that doesn't give the results you imagined. Or like Jennifer Grey, you could lose your "youness" and look like a completely different person, which could be really upsetting. That's why when you have a beautiful and distinctive nose that adds to your beauty, everyone thinks you should keep it!

Pixie2015 · 03/07/2019 12:07

You are stunning and your nose looks amazing. All surgery is major so consider the possible risks

Weirdpenguin · 03/07/2019 12:26

The trouble with bullying is that it gets into your head and you start to believe what is said. I hope you have had enough feedback on here to counteract what was said to you at school. A lot of bullying stems from envy. Don't believe bullies. You look lovely.

spicypickle · 03/07/2019 12:30

Your nose is fine mine is awful but I wouldn't ever change it i was bullied for years over it but it's part of me now

To consider a nose job/rhinoplasty? Photos
spicypickle · 03/07/2019 12:32

I think with my nose front onwards you can't actually see the bump but sideways it's so bad Grin

Yeahnahmum · 03/07/2019 12:35

If YOU feel insecure about it: change it.
As long as you do it for yourself.

LadyBumclock · 03/07/2019 12:38

If YOU feel insecure about it: change it.
As long as you do it for yourself.

The problem with this is when does it stop? You could get your nose done and then start feeling insecure about something else. That's how people end up losing sight of reality and looking really odd because they've had so much done and can't stop.

It's better to fix insecurity by working on your feelings instead if you can, at least as a first plan of action.

Huskylover1 · 03/07/2019 12:39

There is absolutely nothing wrong with your nose! Could it be that you grew in to it? My DD teeth looked huge when she was in school, but as her face grew everything became in proportion and her teeth now look totally the right size. iyswim.

ScreamingLadySutch · 03/07/2019 12:44

Remember it is the talented people that get bullied.

Your nose is beautiful. Full of character and class.

You can really see nose jobs later in life, don't do it!

Treefloof · 03/07/2019 12:58

Ah not the same at all but i was bullied at school for having eyes different colours. Made my life miserable, I bunked off all the time because of that and other stuff. It's only fairly recently that I realised they would have bullied me for anything. If my eyes had been the same colour maybe they would have used my nose, mouth, clumsiness, hair, pick a body part or anything really. And now I'm grown up (apparently) no one comments on my very different eye colours. Amazing.

itbemay1 · 03/07/2019 13:02

You are beautiful. I don't think you need a nose job, you've a great nose!

timeforakinderworld · 03/07/2019 13:07

I think you're beautiful in part BECAUSE of your nose. You would be a fool to ruin it!

LoafofSellotape · 03/07/2019 13:07

There's nothing wrong with your nose but I think you know that already.Smile

WhoopiGoldbergsCat · 03/07/2019 13:12

You and your nose are lovely, please don't change!

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