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about my clothes on the bed?

71 replies

Bunnylady53 · 01/07/2019 23:26

Long running argument/annoyance. We have downsized & have quite a bit less storage space so suffer from “ piles”. Our room has a lot of my clothes out & whenever I have time, I sort through & either try to find space for them or give them to charity. When I have a sort out, I tend to spread the clothes on the bed but then get sidetracked. DH often goes to bed before me & has a go because the clothes are all over the bed. I seem to be going over the same ground with him, trying to justify myself & saying that I will set aside enough time to do it all instead of starting then having to leave it. I can understand why he gets annoyed but he can be really negative about it too, saying that he doesn’t think I will ever get it all cleared. There’s stuff in the house that he leaves for ages but I try really hard not to nag him. It takes a minute to move the clothes.

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hormonesorDHbeingadick · 01/07/2019 23:28

Yabu.

Have you tried reading Marie Kondo book?

TokyoSushi · 01/07/2019 23:29

Yep, YABU, that would really, really annoy me!!

PookieDo · 01/07/2019 23:30

This would frustrate me, but then I am just more likely to get on and sort it out and not have piles. It would be annoying to go to get into bed (when tired) and have to clear someone else’s crap off it

Second Marie Kondo

PenelopeFlintstone · 01/07/2019 23:39

It sounds like a bit of a nightmare where you are moving the same piles if clothes on and off the bed every day. I admit that I actually have a similar but lower-scale nightly ritual.
If you don't have time to go through them right now, why not pull out your four fave bottoms and six fave tops and put everything else in a suitcase and set a date to go through the suitcase? Or pull out all winter clothes from the piles and then put the sumner stuff away properly?

PenelopeFlintstone · 01/07/2019 23:40

Excuse my typos - I can't preview on my phone.

Bookworm4 · 01/07/2019 23:44

Christ on a bike woman just sort them out and stop being a pita, no wonder he’s pissed off, what a bloody faff.

EAIOU · 01/07/2019 23:46

Any chance you can give a solid hour to it?

As in today I'm gonna sort out my dresses/blouses/trousers and do a bit more the next day.

Tbh I'd be slightly annoyed if it a regular occurrence. Things you're needing done from DH- tell him.

Merryoldgoat · 01/07/2019 23:47

Yes, YABU.

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Bunnylady53 · 01/07/2019 23:55

The winter stuff is done, apart from a little pile to take to the clothes agency ( too good for the charity shop). Decided to clear out the bottom of my wardrobe & bung some clothes in there, although I will then need somewhere to put the shoes & handbags etc! DH has also suggested clearing my bedside drawers as I don’t tend to use the contents, then I can put undies etc in them. I am a bit of a hoarder. I own clothes that I haven’t even worn once but hang onto just in case. Have to stop myself going to the charity shop near us as it’s 4 items for £1 & they get fabulous stuff sometimes.

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Bunnylady53 · 01/07/2019 23:58

DH has started to clear his office. Before he did so, I would always bring it up in the argument but he’d say it wasn’t the same thing. He would also remind me that some of the stuff dumped in there when we moved in is mine. I hate it when he’s right!

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cdlaivfifd · 02/07/2019 00:00

How often are you leaving clothes all over the bed? If my DH my doing that I would flick the duvet so they all flew off and get into bed Grin

noonarna · 02/07/2019 00:03

tend to spread the clothes on the bed but then get sidetracked yep not ok! Just do smaller piles at a time?

EatingBreadAndHoney · 02/07/2019 00:03

Things left all over the bed so you can't get into the bed is so annoying! You can't be that busy that you forget. Sort your shit out.

MrsEricBana · 02/07/2019 00:08

Yes sorry yabu. You can't leave stuff on the bed so he can't use it as a bed! Def don't buy any more clothes.

user1473878824 · 02/07/2019 01:05

You’re SO U!

nzeire · 02/07/2019 01:09

He can’t go to bed! Omg! Yes, you’re being unreasonable!

hmwhatsmynameagain · 02/07/2019 01:16

Easier to live alone, that way all the 'I'm sorting it stuff' is your own.
Sorry not helpful to your situation but works for me

AnybodysDude · 02/07/2019 06:24

I just love that you mention all the fab things you can find in the charity shop, whilst also saying your things are "too good for the charity shop" Hmm

Anyway yeah YABU dont be such a slob.

Vulpine · 02/07/2019 06:47

What does 'too good for the charity shop' mean?

Cherrysoup · 02/07/2019 06:50

Yabu and you know it. Just sort it out. The bedroom should be a clear room, he should be able to get into bed without having to clear your stuff.

VivienneHolt · 02/07/2019 06:52

Why should anything be too good for a charity shop?

YABU, this sounds really annoying. Don’t start the task unless you properly have time to see it through.

Stuckforthefourthtime · 02/07/2019 06:55

Yabu. This should take an hour or two so should never have to be a recurring argument. Could you get a friend to help if you struggle to organise yourself?

AuntieMarys · 02/07/2019 06:57

Stop fannying and get it done.

IsolaPribby · 02/07/2019 07:00

I think that your comment I am a bit of a hoarder is key.

How big a problem is this? Do you have piles of other things also?

joystir59 · 02/07/2019 07:06

I can't stand hoarder mentality! It's just stuff. Stuff that you don't need. Stuff that uscluttering up your space needlessly. GET RID OF IT!!!!!!!!!!