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To stay in a hotel without booking?

262 replies

ps1991 · 01/07/2019 20:19

My husband is away with work in Manchester from yesterday to Thursday, I had planned on travelling tomorrow to stay with him and then come home together on Thursday.

I’m really worried about staying in the hotel he’s at with our baby as the hotel is only booked for him. Will the hotel say anything? I have looked for other hotels locally and can’t find anything that we can afford, especially once we say we have a baby with us 🙄.

Am I right to be worried or will the hotel staff not care?

OP posts:
FuriousVexation · 01/07/2019 21:32

ION, if he's not getting even fucking breakfast then he should squeeze the maximum he can out of the booking.

No breakfast!!!!! seriously that is piss poor

lyralalala · 01/07/2019 21:32

Someone at my husband’s work was sacked for this

I bet they weren’t sacked for doing what the OP is planning.

I know someone who was given a written warning for taking their other half when it was a per person charge. He also tried to claim the whole food and drink bill for dinner and breakfast on expenses.

That you could deservedly get bollocked for

FuriousVexation · 01/07/2019 21:32

OMG is he getting an evening meal at least?

StCharlotte · 01/07/2019 21:32

I used to run a B&B (obviously not a hotel). This would have pissed me off as I charged more for double occupancy. In fact we (unusually) literally charged half for single occupancy. Also our occupancy was limited due to insurance so a baby (who would count) could invalidate it. No doubt a large hotel is different but you should both come clean and pay the difference.

OralBElectricToothbrush · 01/07/2019 21:33

Gawd, I once met a friend who was in town for work for dinner. We got utterly wasted and as I was about 2 hours from home, I just went back with her to her hotel and we crashed out. But according to MN I should have slept on the street. Such histrionics!

Gatoadigrado · 01/07/2019 21:33

So OP... you’re now saying it would be ok with the company if he’d told them from the start. So why would it be a problem telling them now? Either they’re ok with it or they’re not.

Tbh it comes across like you were worried you might have to pay a supplement and now you’ve checked it’s just a flat rate for the room you’re moving the goalposts

starzig · 01/07/2019 21:34

They need a register of all guests for insurance.

FuriousVexation · 01/07/2019 21:35

@babysharkah Can you quote what you were replying to? Makes dicsussion easier :)

Riverviews · 01/07/2019 21:36

I often turn up at hotels where my partner is staying. I have always gone to reception and said "I'm visiting Mr. His name"

They've never said anything although I'm sure there's a hotel in Guildford where they believe I'm a call girl. There's something odd about the way they always react

C8H10N4O2 · 01/07/2019 21:36

Its decades since any of the mainstream hotel chains have charged per person in UK hotels unless you want an extra bed/cot provided.

What won't be included usually is breakfast for you but you can pay yourself for that if wanted. I do more hotel nights than home nights most years, large percentage in the UK and no one bats an eyelid at this in the main chains. Can't speak for individual B&B places.

Company policies generally don't have an issue with a visiting spouse for a worker away from home so long as it dosn't cost them money (tax implications) or their work. Its often encouraged if over weekend stays are needed. However if worried check his company policy.

LovelyJubblee · 01/07/2019 21:37

I've told my staff if they are staying away for work and I'm paying a room rate that they can take their partner so long as pay for own food

However they've always told the hotel about the extra guest.

FuriousVexation · 01/07/2019 21:38

starzig
They need a register of all guests for insurance.

No they really don't., Who told you that?

Surfingtheweb · 01/07/2019 21:40

Done this lots & lots of times and never been a problem, if it's booked for 1 you'll just have to pay for an extra breakfast.

LovelyJubblee · 01/07/2019 21:40

Hotels have never asked for the guests names for my husband and son when staying in the UK. Rubbish about wanting all guests names

C8H10N4O2 · 01/07/2019 21:42

If I were his employer I'd be annoyed. He's been sent on a business trip, not a family getaway.

I encourage mine to have a partner to stay over the weekend if a project runs over that time. Travelling for work all the time is stressful, puts a strain on relationships and it helps morale when hours can be long and they are seperated. Most of my peers do the same.

Baritriwsahys · 01/07/2019 21:43

They need a register of all guests for insurance.

Not in my experience, both as a traveller and hotel manager.

HundredMilesAnHour · 01/07/2019 21:44

It's really simple. OP's DH contacts his employer to confirm it's okay. Assuming they say yes, the DH lets the hotel know that his wife and baby will be joining him for one night.

It's hardly rocket science OP. 2 simple tasks to complete then you can sit back and enjoy your freebie break. Or don't do them and create a mountain out of a molehill on MN.

AppleTartlet · 01/07/2019 21:44

Not being funny, have none of you ever had a one night stand? Gone back to a hotel with someone or brought them back to yours?

Funnily enough. No.

Gatoadigrado · 01/07/2019 21:44

C8H10N4O2 Your post is a perfect example of why the OP’s dh needs to check with his company, because clearly different companies have different policies

DramaRamaLlama · 01/07/2019 21:47

It won't be an issue.

I frequently travel for work and will often take one of the DC or have a friend/sister stay overnight with me and it's never been the slightest issue.

YourVagesty · 01/07/2019 21:49

Had my partner stay with me in hotels for work loads of times. Never an issue. Also, like the pp said, I've also ended up unexpectedly in other people's hotel rooms (ahem), obvs when I was single. Again, never an issue. Nobody cares.

thegreylady · 01/07/2019 21:50

I used to stay in hotels in Manchester when I was working for an exam board. My dh used to stay over with me the first night so he could drive me up and keep the car.The rooms were always double and the hotel made a nominal charge for him to cover breakfast if required, otherwise a room rate is just that. They need to know you are there for safety reasons so they know who is meant to be there.

OralBElectricToothbrush · 01/07/2019 21:51

Not being funny, have none of you ever had a one night stand? Gone back to a hotel with someone or brought them back to yours?

EXACTLY! When DH and I got together I frequently met him for the weekend at his hotel after I finished work for the weekend.

GlamGiraffe · 01/07/2019 21:59

Having worked In a hotel in the dim and distant past, it wasn't unusual for a person to book a room for just themself and then arrive back at night with a friend or two in tow who would only then re-emerge sometime the next day, or for guests to turn up a short time after them. They did not need to inform the hotel.
Look at the hotel online. See if rooms are charged at a rate for a double room or by occupancy. If its just a rate for the room you are absolutely fine. Your husband's room is paid for by his employer and by being in it no further cost will have been incurred. Just remember not to have breakfast or drinks in the hotel unless you pay in cash or it will show there were two of you there.
Is it a big chain hotel?

Benes · 01/07/2019 22:06

If I were his employer I'd be annoyed. He's been sent on a business trip, not a family getaway

Most organisations don’t expect their employees work 24/7 ......travelling alone can be lonely and it can make the world of difference having company on an evening. Lots of organisations encourage this as they understand the importance of work/life balance