To stay in a hotel without booking?

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My husband is away with work in Manchester from yesterday to Thursday, I had planned on travelling tomorrow to stay with him and then come home together on Thursday.

I’m really worried about staying in the hotel he’s at with our baby as the hotel is only booked for him. Will the hotel say anything? I have looked for other hotels locally and can’t find anything that we can afford, especially once we say we have a baby with us 🙄.

Am I right to be worried or will the hotel staff not care?

I travel a lot for work and DH often comes. Work always book a double bed and the room is always made up for 2. They have never cared. In fact when I book hotels personally DH never has to give his name.

Let me be clear. No hotel in the UK has cared over the 10 years I have travelled for work. That's probably about 100 hotel stays.

Only thing to check. That the room is a double and is charged by the room and not per person. The latter is very old fashioned so if it's a standard chain type big hotel no issues. Just check on their website.

If breakfast is included in the rate which it often is, DH usually has it instead of me as I never eat breakfast and I'm out the door at 7am.

My employer has a clear policy on this and it's perfectly acceptable however his employer may have a different view.

Price isn't always per room I'm a solo traveller always, and there's often a difference in cost between a double for two and a double for sole occupancy, on a room only basis.

Where I work, getting caught doing this (especially if booked at corporate rate) is gross misconduct. If, though, you've booked yourself and only claimed the rate (if one) for you, or paid the difference on the corporate rate/difference between sole and double occupancy if it exists, it's so fine that you don't even need permission.

It's the deception/bringing into disrepute that makes it a summary dismissal offence.

I would just join him and wouldn't think twice about it.

Not worried enough to give up the freebie though, OP

And what impact would it have on the company? Why are people talking about disciplinarys?!

It's doesn't cost any more and assuming the OP isn't going to raid the minibar and order Krug on room service then what's the issue?

I leave at 7 am and get back to the hotel at 6 then me and DH go for dinner. My employer would be delighted that I've maintained family life when travelling for work. It's lonely and depressing. Not glamorous. Eating alone in the evening is dreadful. My employer know that well.

Some batshit ideas here.

Oh you’l be fine op! Me and my baby regularly pop along for a few days and stay with my dp in Manchester whilst he works. He informs the hotel and they provide everything for us, travel cot etc. Just get your dh to inform them your arriving, there would be no reason for the hotel to inform his work I’m sure. Enjoy!

Most organisations won't care providing it doesn't cost extra.
My place encourages me to take DH and DS along with me!

Do people actually seriously do this? The contract/purchase agreement is between your husband and the hotel. It’s not open house!!

My old work would've sacked me for this. And I've also worked in a hotel. We would definitely have noticed a baby and a travel cot coming in!

As lyralalala said if the company policy says 'as long as it doesn’t cost us anymore it’s fine' however as you are trying to hide it from the company this doesn’t seem to be the case therefore you are on dodgy ground

As other people have also said you do get the option at some hotels for quiet rooms. These aren’t family rooms

I’d be very pissed off at my specially chosen 'quiet room overlooking the church' ended up next to a room that clearly wasn’t set up or meant for a family of 3

The room will only be insured for 1 guest, if there's a fire they would only look for one body,

This is complete bollocks, thankfully our fire service is a bit better than that.

The impact on the company is that if the OP's DH is allowed to take his wife with him, then there isn't a no guests policy. That then means that other staff members are free to bring whoever they please to stay the night whist away. I'm sure that would end well.

I’ve done this a lot, but it really depends on the hotel. If it’s a chain, especially premier inn, they don’t care. If it’s a little b&b they can be fussy.
Really depends on which hotel it is

I don’t know why I didn’t think of it before, but I’ve just looked on their website for the price for one adult, then two adults and a child. It’s the same price so I’m just going to tell them when I get there tomorrow :)

His company would be okay with it, if we had asked to begin with but my husband is worried that we didn’t ask and so they’ll not be happy 🙄🙄🙄😆

I worked in big hotels, in Manchester for many years. If its room only its highly unlikely that they'll charge you a supplement but you do need to tell them. Housekeeping will notice anyway, they have a list and it says how many people are in each room so they know how many towels etc to put in.

As I say, if its room only, they really, really won't be bothered but you should tell them.

if there's a fire they would only look for one body

Don’t be ridiculous.

That’s not how the fire brigade work at all. Because people have one night stands, groups in multiple rooms congregate in one room, because in a panic the people from the landing end up in one room, because staff are not in one set place in a building.

The fire brigade assume nothing until they’ve searched a whole room/building because people are unpredictable

I'd be more worried about his employer finding out tbh. It's against all of our policies for a spouse to stay over at the benefit of the company without special clearance, and that's how they'd view it. If you can't afford to book a room above board, don't go and leave him to his work trip!

Someone at my husband’s work was sacked for this

bollocks. Dismissal letter scan or it didn't happen.

OP go for it, nobody will give a flying fuck unless your baby screams all night in which case I'll probably kill you myself.

I'd phone ahead to ask. I'd feel too on edge otherwise!

In typical MN fashion, people eagerly jump on the thread to recount their own tales of their company and their company policy.

Which means jack shit really. Because all that matters is whether the DH’s company agree to families staying in the rooms they’ve booked for work trips. If they do agree- fine, no problem, OP just needs to check with the Hotel if there’s an additional person supplement and pay it. But it may be that the company don’t allow it. None of us know. The fact that the OP and her DH are planning to smuggle her and the baby in because they don’t want the company to know is the issue. And whether the rest of us agree or not, this type of thing could be deemed gross misconduct at worst, or a verbal warning or some other level of disciplinary.

It’s just batshit to not be upfront, check with the company and inform the hotel

If I were his employer I'd be annoyed. He's been sent on a business trip, not a family getaway.

It's against all of our policies

What, all of them? Like "Don't wear platform heels into the office"?

In typical MN fashion, people eagerly jump on the thread to recount their own tales of their company and their company policy.

....Surely this is the whole point of a discussion board?

@FuriousVexation the obvious ones. Gifting / bribery / corruption. Not hard to work that out.