AIBU to not attend wedding?

[thund3rbolt]

I'm in my 20s. Recently my mum told me very last minute that I have been invited to a very very distant family member's wedding. I have only ever met the bride 3/4 times. My parents have fallen out with many family members which makes social gatherings incredibly awkward as we are often ignored by extended family.

I have carved out my own lovely life (children and husband) and don't feel the need to put myself in uncomfortable situations. My mother is "forcing" me to go and manipulating me emotionally. AIBU to not attend? The wedding is next month.

Totally confused here.

Are CherryPavlova and thund3rbolt the same person?

I think cherrypav and thunder are the same person.
Cherrypavlova is a completely different person

Nope! Don't go & screw the threats of consequences! One of the many benefits of being a confident, self sufficient adult is that you don't have to do shit like this anymore if you don't want to!! 🤣

For clarity, there appeared to be two of us using the same name. Thund3rbolt kindly agreed to change her username when asked by MNHQ.

I had rather thought it was someone playing games but it seems not.

OP, I know it's hard but I think you have to come to terms with the fact that whatever you do, you won't have a functional relationship with your mother. I know you're concerned she'll stop you seeing your siblings, and that's hard, but you have to put yourself and your own family first now. You must not go to this wedding. You need to show by your actions that your mother no longer has power to manipulate you.

And then there will be chance to rebuild your sibling relationships when they are old enough to make their own choices about that. Good luck.