To want to skip to IVF after 3 months TTC?

[HelloKitty76]

I know 3 months is nothing but I'm 37 and so worried about the bio clock. If we don't conceive soon there may well not be time left for another.

We would fund it ourselves obviously. Yet would a clinic be prepared to treat us after only 3 months trying do you think? Would they think we were being ridiculous?

If you’re happy to find yourself I would wait a bit longer. IVF is not an easy process.

Why don't you see if you can start with tests to make sure there's nothing that might make it harder to conceive (eg thyroid problem etc)?

Yabu, it's stressful, intrusive, time consuming and expensive.
Give it at least another 3 months then go see a Dr. 37 isn't that old at all.

historyrocks we already both had fertility MOTs before getting started.

you would be mad! IVF is not easy, lots of side effects and doesn't guarantee a baby and costs £££

do you actually have any in depth understanding of IVF? sounds very naive to consider it after only 3 months.

I think you are being silly. I get you feel rushed but fertility isn't a fast road and is certainly not an easy one.
6 months is average time to conceive so i'd wait until then.

IVF isn't the easy road, you know.

Wait.
It took me 6 months of coming off the pill to get a routine going. I was mid 30s. It took about 3 months after that for a very straightforward pregnancy.
Be patient for a bit longer.

I believe that at the age of 37 your success rate for IVF is as low as 23%.

You would be unreasonable, yes. IVF is ridiculously stressful, intrusive and expensive. The process is all consuming and there is no guarantee of success. It is a last resort.

3 months is nothing! Give yourself at least a year before you put yourself through something invasive.

It took me 2 years to conceive. I was 36 when I did finally, had DS at 37. Sometimes it just takes a little longer. I'd wait until at least 6 months before you think about if there might be an issue and what to do about it.

TTC is soul- destroying enough without adding thousands of pounds into it.

I'd have thought that it would be quicker to try and conceive naturally rather than IVF wouldn't it? Admittedly that's based on anecdotal experience of IVF, but my understanding is that it's not a swift process and the odds are fairly slim compared to trying to conceive naturally while tracking ovulation etc and giving yourselves the best chance that way.

3 months is nothing, even at 37.

Sorry I can't remember the details, but there was some sort of lube that is supposed to help the sperm swim. We'd been TTC for 9 months the second time around, and got pregnant that month of using it. I remember finding out about it on here, but that was 10 years ago and can't remember exactly what it was. Sorry that's not particularly helpful! I'd forgotten all about it until now.

IVF is not the easy answer nor is it any guarantee of a baby. Having been through it I know how tough it is both physically and emotionally and I absolutely wouldn't go through it at this stage in your ttc journey without good reason to do so.

Only 30% of couples of any age conceive in the first 3 months! I understand your worry but honestly it’s premature. Just try to relax.

Having been through several rounds of fertility treatment (after initially trying naturally for 4 years - too long, I admit) YADBU. IVF is very expensive, has very low success rates, and takes a massive toll both physically and mentally. Try for close to 12 months then consider other options. Good luck!

Surely something like clomid to trigger ovulation would be a better first step, and lots of sex obvs.

We had IVF privately after 18 months of ttc aged 34. I remember the nurse saying that couples where one of them worked away a lot often went straight for ivf. We had various tests first, MOT, hycosy, loads of blood tests and I felt the clinic encouraged us to see ivf as a last resort but if we'd pushed they would have treated us and I think i would have done if I was a bit older. I definitely felt better knowing that we had some frozen embryos, it took the pressure off massively. It is gruelling though and not something to rush into. If I were you I would give it another 3 months whilst researching clinics.

Don’t worry yourself about running out of time to conceive a second child - get number one out of the way first!

Wishing you all the best. And yes, three cycles is nothing.

HistoryRocks, there's stuff called Pre-Seed - I've repeatedly conceived in four months (or faster) using it, between the age of 32 and 39. That's only anecdotal but it seems pretty effective to me.

How did the fertile MOT’s go?

Each round of IVF takes months, and generally has less chance of success then a natural cycle assuming nothing is wrong. We did a full cycle and a FET cycle back to back and that was almost six months. It’s also fairly grim. I’d far rather have conceived through having sex with my husband for six months.

Thanks everyone for understanding my worry.

We've been given odds of 46% (likely with embryos to freeze) from the clinic where we got the fertility MOTs and that is very tempting.

It took me over a year to conceive my second when I was 22. I’d give it a while longer first