To think being married to a doctor is draining sometimes??

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I think we might be quite a rare breed but I’m a non-medic (City job) and DH is a doctor. AIBU to find it quite a draining position to be in sometimes?!

He works long hours, as do I, but inevitably our lives revolve around his shifts, whether he’s on call, whether he’s working nights that weekend, whether we can go to so and so’s wedding or will he be working etc etc. Not to mention the fact that when he has been on nights he’s in a terrible mood sometimes for days afterwards and I inevitably end up ‘looking after him’ a lot of the time!

I love him dearly and I’m so proud of his ambition and work ethic but sometimes it is hard! Our life revolves around his work!

I don’t know how two doctors together can manage sometimes as surely sometimes you’d both be working alternate weekends etc.?

Just a bit of a rant anyway and interested to see if anyone shares my pain!!

I do think my daughter and her fiancé have had it tough but I think about my son in the armed forces. He’s currently in Middle East doing fourteen hour shifts. He’s had one day off since he was deployed in May and has rotated to nights without a break to catch up on sleep. He’s not expected back until beginning of December and it’s rare he gets mobile reception or internet access. That’s really hard on his relationship.

When I first met DH who was in his early thirties, I almost wrote him off as a weirdo as he told me on our second date that he’d never had a relationship before.... but now I get it! Ofc he didn’t- he doesn’t even get a lunch/bathroom breaks (can’t leave a patient on the table 🙈)

My ( non medic) DH says I am lovely and not draining

I think I have the better deal though!