Not to want to be refered to as "Guys" when it is clear I am female

[ivykaty44]

Went to John Lewis today and had a coffee, the assistant came up and asked what can I get you guys? Why? I am not a man and don't want to be refered to as a man.

Guys and Dolls was the hit show refering to male and female so if anything Doll would be better at least it donates I am female.

Is it just me that finds it rude?

I have no problem with it and always used it when trying to get a whole classes attention rather than 'student' or 'pupils' or something. I think it may be an aussie thing perhaps.

but not in the context you have described though - would find that off putting.

Cliff Richard - bang on. That or teacher trying too hard to be trendy and discussing Top of the Pops on a Friday morning.

ok guys - i dont mind but fucking "MATE" gets on my huge tits. hugely

ivykaty -you've got your tongue firmly wedged in your cheek right? - right??

I usually call my team "guys", and they are mostly women. But I would be surprised to be addressed like that in JL, because it's an informal sort of term. The other day I had a window fitted, and the bloke kept calling me "babe". Now that was irritating!

Well my teenage dd has informaed me that really I should not be refered to as Guys, and that it is a term for a gruop of young people of mixed sex and I am far far to old for that term......

YABU. It's just a term.. I'm pretty sure it stopped being gender specific a good while ago regardless of the terms origins.

better than being called 'hen' [shudder]

I don't mind it really

personally I dislike 'pet'

I don't mind being one of the "guy" but that is a friendly generic term to refer to a group of people where I come from (Chicago). However, I do mind being called "doll". I might slap you for that.

YABU, it's only a friendly, generic term, as everyone here has said and these days it is gender-neutral.

I don't like it but people use it all the time. It's a kind of language of the street which is aggressive. I don't like the children doing all this high 5 stuff either. Studies have apparently shown it does lead to more aggression in people, the bashing on the arm, the force. Quiet politeness and a hand shake is better.

It's also a bit common but that's another point.

wouldn't bother me neither. I would object to doll too!

"Mate." I absolutely hate mate. Almost embarrassing to admit to having been called it.

some bloke called me sir once.

oh so very very

Wouldnt say it was rude to call you "guys", a little informal and inappropriate when being served in a cafe maybe, but definitely not rude.
Think your making something out of nothing.

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"Common" makes you sound like Enid Blyton, X.

I love that word. My mother used to use it too, in jest mostly as well.
Also it's an age thing. When we go on holiday next month all the young people my daughter's age always say "you guys". It's perhaps a generational thing but I don't like the change of language from deference to confrontation which is what I think it represents.