Not to want to be refered to as "Guys" when it is clear I am female

[ivykaty44]

Went to John Lewis today and had a coffee, the assistant came up and asked what can I get you guys? Why? I am not a man and don't want to be refered to as a man.

Guys and Dolls was the hit show refering to male and female so if anything Doll would be better at least it donates I am female.

Is it just me that finds it rude?

doesn't bother me that much

YABU.

When grpup emailing my mates or collegues at work I oten say 'Hi guys' if it is informal.

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Is it really worth getting worked up about?

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The term is used in the US all the time. It is just an informal way to address a group, usually people you real well.

Better than "ladies" imo (something horribly smarmy about ladies).

I say guys for girls sometimes - I think I've said it on here.

i often refer to my pupils as 'guys' when i am getting the groups attention, boys and girls. I find it has helped to build a relationship with them.

I use guys to mean both sexes ( I picked it up from some Australian friends years ago)

'Ladies'

DP's brothers refer to laydeeze. Worse, they refer to me as a Laydee. Which is, quite apart from anything else, patently inaccurate.

Just seems strange to me to be called a man...

Though ladies is fine if used by a female for female friends - so I might say "night ladies" on here.

But I don't like "ladies" when used by smarmy waiters etc.

yabu

Guys is unisex
as is chaps these days

I do think it's a fairly gender-neutral term, though, not like ChairMAN or suchlike.

DP's youngest brother apparently recommended me to their mother as 'a very clever lady'. FFS.

A spotty oik on the till in Tesco called me "love" the other day. I disembowelled him with a cucumber.

"ladies" is a polite term in the US. It is used as plural for Lady.

Defined as, "A woman of refined or gentle manners; a well-bred woman; -- the feminine correlative of gentleman."

But I was on here the other day and someone got mad at me for using the term. So I try to avoid it now.

My favourite thing was when the very funny entertainer at ds's birthday party referred to a certain MNetter guest as 'madam' then said, 'funny, and I don't even know what you do for a living'

Don't find 'guys' rude.

He was so fab

I think lady is a children's word - ie 'say hello to the lady'.

Wasn't going to name names MI!

there are two points here:

YABU for not wanting to be refered to as guys BUT that said, i think it is very inappropriate for someone serving you to refer to you as guys - what happend to Sir and Madam!!

I would never refer to someone i was serving in may place of work as 'guys', no matter what my job was!!

lots of people from other countries use 'guys' to refer to people

I do it all the time

Can't see why you'd want to summon up the energy to find it rude, when it is clearly not intended as such.

No, I can't stand guys for girls. Makes me think of Sabrina Duncan in Charlie's Angels.

In fact, I'm very shocked this happened in John Lewis