To be utterly sick of the concerned head tilts...

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When I tell people that my 11 month old is neither walking or crawling. And yes they have asked.

They all do the tilt, tut, some have even said "oh dear" and then gone on to recount tales of babies they knew that practically tap danced out of the womb.

I wouldn't even be concerned if it wasn't for these reactions. 11 months is perhaps on the late side but surely it's well within normal, given crawling isn't even technically a milestone? What exactly are they trying to imply about my baby, that she has shit knees or something?

Both mine were crawling at 6 months and walked on their 1st birthday, and day after their first birthday. They were in the middle of other friends babies- some were earlier then my two, and others later. Exdp was walking at 7 months, his sister 17 months. So it shows there is no Normal- they will do it when they are ready, and you can’t push them. Just give people evil 👀 back when they make comments.

4 children and a massive variation!
1: crawled at 11 months and walked at 16
2: never crawled but terrified me by standing up and walking just before 9 months as if she had been doing it for years!
3: Never crawled but bottom shuffled and didn't walk until 17 months
4: Crawled around 8 months and walked at 12 months.

You cannot compare one child with another.. there is no 'normal' They all do it in their own time. Oh, and they didn't have shoes at all until they were walking outside. Tell your SiL to go boil her head.

Funnily enough the comments/looks rarely came from people with babies the same age, because they had a pretty good grasp of what to expect. It was people whose DC were a few years older - they all seemed to have lost track of what their kids could actually do as babies.

I've found this too, to the extent that I've wondered if we're actually now doing something that delays baby development (or they did something that accelerates it) because everyone of my mum's generations claims that their DC were far, far ahead of DS, but he seems entirely average for the babies I actually know. Like you I concluded that it was probably them forgetting or exaggerating (DPIL claim DH said his first word at 8 months - 'tacta' for tractor. When I enquired further it emerged he'd never seen a tractor before, ie this story is total bullshit wishful thinking) rather than some actual mass slowdown in baby development

Yanbu.
Dd was a year old before she crawled.
I had a loss of temper moment in mothercare when a staff member said in loud and shocked tones 'she's a YEAR and she isn't CRAWLING YET???!!!!'
I was looking for soft soled moccasin things.

She was fine. She just couldn't be arsed learning to crawl

Mine didn't crawl, but cruised from about 12 months, but didn't walk on own until about 18 months, well actually she didn't walk independently she went from walking with something to hold on to to running in one supermarket shop. They are all different.

Mine never crawled walked independently at 16 months all good !

YANBU - it's maddening when people do that.

@AngelsOnHigh congrats to your amazing daughter. We get the head tilts and concern when we tell people our DC are home educated, along with 'how do they manage to socialise?' Erm, a lot better and more naturally than when they were at school, actually!

My son bum shuffled at 13 months, and then got his feet and staggered at 14 months, only because there was food on the table he wanted. Every child is different ffs. People's comparisons piss me off.

Well within normal. Just (even though it’s hard!!) smile broadly and say “yes I got a good one, don’t want to be running around headless chicken. It’s so great to have such a content baby, my mum thinks its because he loves me so much he doesn’t need anything else” The trick is not to laugh midway through!

Solidarity OP! My DS didn't crawl until 12 months, didn't walk until 18 months. 11 months isn't late! They can go screw themselves. Keep on keeping on with those lovely soft soles, it's good for DC's feet to not constrain them at this age :)

I know what you mean op. It's so annoying. Both mine were 'late' crawlers/walkers but both 10 & 4 now are perfectly fine and well co-ordinated.

My DC 10 even gets picked for sports stuff at school

It's annoying but some people can't seem to NOT say something!

11 months isn't late .. 2 is Late ffs

My 17mo has only just started walking and he can’t crawl. It’s all I’ve heard since he was 6mo! People are obsessed with getting babies moving. Even the health visitor went on and on about it. I feel your pain.
I say enjoy having an immobile baby! They all do it when they are ready!

I also find it v annoying when people do the humblebrag thing of telling you how annoying it is that their children are SOOOOO advanced

Oh and he couldn’t even roll until last week so honestly don’t worry!

"That's right, my child's not at all precocious", might stop them in their tracks.

By the way I have a son with sn who didn't walk until he was 3 . I guess that's what they are implying although it's rude and cruel ...
a lot of babies don't crawl and go straight to walking quite ' late ' try to ignore and not worry.. I do feel your pain though .. it's horrible being the last baby doing stuff ( sn or not )

People are shocked, empathise with you and don’t know what to say. If you want them to react in a specific way you should tell them.

Have you had your child diagnosed for possible causes. It could be nothing or not. One if our DS did not walk for a long time and never seemed to master crawling. One day he just stood up and walked. I put it down to make laziness syndrome.

I never crawled. Apparently I went through a stage of hopping on all fours like a frog but never managed to crawl. I then started walking and was a complete menace and have the scars to prove it...

Those who say their babies were walking at eight months , just head tilt back and muse "Oh, yes, I wonder what they were trying to run away from " ?

And your SIL deserves a Paddington Bear Hard Stare/Poke In the Eye With a Shitty Stick with her "proper shoes" advice.

Not until they are three months into walking ( and I know a tiny bit about feet, professionally )

11 months is a bit early for walking anyway. Some babies do; but I know more who've walked at 14 or 15 months. And many babies don't crawl at all. If you have any concerns, you could check with the doctor, but otherwise ignore the nosey buggers with their comments.

I had one that never crawled and didn't walk until 22 mths!
He is still quite a lazy boy tbh 😂

I had the same op, DS was late doing everything, didn't sit up for ages, didn't roll until late, took him forever to crawl and walk etc

everyone was all "have you had him looked at" - erm no!

he is 3 now and fine, no different than any other 3yo!

my dd was late at absolutely everything!! Never crawled, didn’t walk until she was 16 months old, didn’t say more than a couple words until she was 2 1/2. I was so worried at the time, and everyone had a opinion on it, none of them helpful. I honestly began to think there might be something wrong, everybody else seemed to have an all singing all dancing baby pretty much from
day 1!! and my little toddler looked like she couldn’t be bothered doing anything! 😂 anyway fast forward 14 years, she is super intelligent, in the top set for all subjects at school and is absolutely perfect. Moral of the story - babies develop at different rates, it means absolutely nothing, and people will always have opinions about your child and your parenting that you have to just tune out

DS did not crawl until his first birthday and is now a talented climber! Ignore them