AIBU to think school should have called me?

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So, I will take my error in all this but I feel school should have called me or kept DD age 8 inside or out at least shaded the kids.

To cut a long story short,y DD school have had. A sports week this week, but due to the rather British wet weather it has been cancelled, and all activities off, we received an email to say that they would be doing sports today.

In the usual morning rush and remembering pe kit at the last minute I packed her off to school.

She has come home sunburnt to hell. I asked "have you been outside ALL day" she confirmed they had, I asked "did they ask if you had sun cream on"? She confirmed "they asked and I said No, they offered me some but I told them I'm allergic to that one"
(well done for realising that DD)

The school clearly knew the kids needed sun screen as they were offering it out, I feel at this point they should have called me for my views on what they should do (I would have taken some into school for her) I wouldn't want her to miss out but I feel they should have kept her inside or at very least, put the kids in the shade where possible.

I appreciate I should have put cream on her this morning but I wasn't aware they were going to be out in baking sun all day doing sports.

Should I approach the school about this? WWYD?

You knew it was sports week, you had an email saying they were doing sports day that day after it had been cancelled, you know we’re having a spell of hot days.

You should have packed her suncream, especially given that she’s allergic to certain types. How bad is her allergy to this specific cream? It might have been better for her to use it rather than get burnt?!

If you knew dd was going to be outside all day then you should have ensure she had everything she would need. Hat, sunscreen and a waterproof.

Yes, the teachers should have had sunscreen, which they did. They cannot carry every brand just In case of allergies. But they should have called you to get you to bring some. Maybe they planned to and forgot? Just like you forgot.

Your fault entirely and a massive overreaction to one touch of sunburn. If you’re really good about protecting usually one tinge of redness isn’t going to do much harm.
Next time send her cream in.

It was sports week. You should have ensured your child had sun cream on. It is not the schools fault. I can imagine if your dd has been kept in and missed it you would be complaining about that.
Admit your error and sort it for the future.

Im sorry once it turned and knowing your daughter has to be careful what brand of SC . You s should have dropped some into school . Entirely your fault. Not like there hasn't been weather warnings or thrown it into her bag. I mean teachers cant be mammy and onit with every child out of a 100 / 400 how ever many in the school

Yabvu. If you couldnt remember to provide sunscreen for one child do you think teachers in charge of 20+ children should be running around chasing you?
Take responsibility here. Why dont you leave the sunscreen in her bag?

Yes I absolutely would discuss it with the teacher.

Given she was asked if she wanted suncream and declined, they should have kept her in the shade or arranged for you to be contacted.

I would want assurances it wouldn’t happen again.

It's the summer term. Why does your child not have sunscreen in their school bag at all times?

I completely agree it is my responsibility and trust me I feel awful
So you have slipped up and you are complaining that someone else has as well?
You asked what I would do.
I would just make sure Dd Is ok and keep some sunscreen in her bag in future.

Also if all the class were outside who’d have been there to teach/supervise her if they’d kept her in? What would they have done with her while the rest of the class were doing something else?

I similarly got caught out with the weather yesterday, in my case at DSs sports day. It was only meant to be an hour, went on for over 2. Weather reports said it should have been cloudy and not that warm for most of it. Despite that DS and I were both creamed, hatted, etc. But the uncovered school field and the unexpected early sun/heat ramp up combination meant I still managed to get burned badly, through factor 50 in an area that was creamed. Several of the school kids were sent home with rashes, burns and signs of heat stroke. DS was a mess but managed the day and thankfully his creaming held up for him. There's several parents having or had not so polite words as OP is thinking of.

I don't think there's any harm in politely asking if a phone call to her would have been more appropriate in those circumstances.

Oh and in our schools case they have asked us to use one a day cream and for them not to bring lotion in. A friend of DDs has a disability and an allergy certain lotions, so can't apply to herself fully and her parents haven't yet found a one a day that doesn't trigger her allergies. The school will not apply it for her or anyone else. Thankfully the children took it on themselves to help her and each other with sun lotion.

My DD is also allergic to some sun creams however she has been taught that it’s better to accept it than have none on - this is also in her school notes. I’d prefer any sun cream over none at all

All mine have a solid sun stick they can apply themselves

We have a line up in the hall before we go out

I don’t think you have much of a case - kids can burn in 10 mins at lunch time

As usual on MN, people are glossing over inconvenient facts in their rush to condemn the OP. OP had no reason to know that her daughter would be outside all day. The school, who did, also realised that children would need sun cream. When faced with a child who couldn't use the brand offered, they decided it was OK to let her burn rather than spending half a minute getting the office to contact her parents. The fact that OP was at fault doesn't in any way take away from the fact that the school, which was in loco parentis and more directly aware of the risks, was also at fault.

So you forgot and its ok because it’s a human error.
The teachers didn’t forget but your dd has an allergy so couldn’t have that suncream but it’s then their fault if they forgot to follow on it (by ringing you, keeping her in the shade whatever).

I think of the two, you are the one most ‘at fault ’ (if that’s the right word) as your dd needs a specific suncream. And you WBU to be angry at the teachers.

Live and learn.

OP had no reason to know that her daughter would be outside all day
Is it always someone else's fault?
The OP knows it is s summer, she knows her Dd is allergic to sun scream so whether or not she knew they were going to be out that particular day sun screen should have been in the bag and have been in for a while.
I know it's easy to over look but hopefully lesson learned.

Isatis- you must have missed this line in the OP:

we received an email to say that they would be doing sports today.

OP had no reason to know that her daughter would be outside all day.
Errr... she did. It’s was Sports Day. That’s what happens on that day!

And the teachers basically tried to compensate for parents ‘forgetting’ the dcs wouod be in the sun and wouod need suncream. I think THAT was actually very good in their kart. It shouldn’t be in their shoulders to check the dcs have suncream on or provide some (see the issue of allergies for example....). I’m pretty my dcs primary wouldn’t have done that because of the risk of allergies and the issues coming with that.

OP YABU. The school offered suncream

Were you in a windowless room all day and incapable of seeing the sun was shining? Why didn’t you go up to school in the knowledge that your child was unprotected. Sports week or not your child should be protected for lunch and breaks

I agree with PPs you are seeking to blame the school to make yourself feel better

OP had no reason to know that her daughter would be outside all day.

It's summer - if DD is at primary she'll be outside at lunch/break and in PE (which OP knew about as she packed her PE kit) as well as before/after school. She should have been wearing suncream regardless!

maybe you are a teacher defending your industry

I’m afraid you’ve shown your true colours here, OP.

I'm a bugger for forgetting morning suncream - I make sure there's a spare of one the kids can use (DD1 reacts to a few brands) in school, and in their school bags. It's a pain - but I bought a few solar buddies containers and just decant a big bottle in there... it goes into school after the Easter holiday regardless of how shit the weather is, and stays there till the end of the year when they break up.

YANBU. If a child comes home sunburnt, and the teachers knew she had no suncream she could use, then they have not been supervised appropriately. I think a lot of people underestimate how easily others can burn.

(maybe you are a teacher defending your industry)

This is the giveaway line