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To think people spend too much on their children

67 replies

VictoriaRo · 27/06/2019 23:05

I'm in my late 20s with no children.

I've started a new job were there are 3 people in their early 20s. 2 with children and 1 pregnant.

They earn the same as me £25-30k. One said all three of his children had versace dummies £90?? And another is looking at £130 Gucci shoes for her new born. The other said her little girl has loads of stuff and shell buy £100+ items.

What in the world?!

I'd maybe consider it if I was taking home a 6 figure salary after tax for a baby but AIBU to think its ridiculous?!

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YouSayPotatoesISayVodka · 27/06/2019 23:11

I know people who started having children at all sorts of different stages in life and I’ve yet to meet any who would spend 90 quid on a dummy Confused

I do know a few who spend what I consider to be a ridiculous amount on baby clothes and turn their noses up at anything secondhand but different strokes for different folks.

NoSquirrels · 27/06/2019 23:13

Where on earth do you work, OP?

Surely they were winding you up!

MysweetAudrina · 27/06/2019 23:16

I know people who would spend 90 quid on cigarettes in a week or a night out or a meal out or a haircut or a manicure and false tan or a pair of Jeans etc... it's their money they can spend it on whatever they like. I just spent 90 quid today on food so my 11 year old could invite 15 of her classmates for a garden party to celebrate end if school year.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 27/06/2019 23:16

Some spend too much. Some spend too little. Some spend nothing at all

Why does it matter to you what people spend on their DC?

I guarantee you spend too much on something in your life.

AnneLovesGilbert · 27/06/2019 23:16

I read your title and thought I disagreed as I’ve greatly enjoyed shopping for my baby DD this week. But by shopping I mean I got 6 dresses in the next size up for a fiver and am planning to buy some baskets for her cupboard and a pretty box to put tiny mementoes in, not a £90 bloody dummy Grin

Wildorchidz · 27/06/2019 23:17

I have just searched for Versace soothers and they seem to cost about $35. What’s that in sterling ?

Wildorchidz · 27/06/2019 23:19

It’s approximately £28...

Stardustmoon · 27/06/2019 23:26

I hate paying £5 for two dummies as my boys lose them so often...

RosaWaiting · 27/06/2019 23:30

I would laugh at Versace dummies because I'd honestly think it was a joke!

ICanWearMyBoobsUpOrDown · 27/06/2019 23:32

I think they are having you on op.

However, it's not up to you to decide people are spending too much, they will know what their finances are like and adjust their spending accordingly.

IsabellaLinton · 27/06/2019 23:32

It’s their money to spend as they please. What business is it of yours? Confused

Borisdaspide · 27/06/2019 23:34

Haha you got taken in by looking so judgy Grin

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MsMustDoBetter · 27/06/2019 23:34

I know that I sound like a raging snob, but spending outrageous amounts on designer goods for children is actually a very "common" thing to do.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 27/06/2019 23:36

Ooh we must all try very hard not to appear common. Mustn’t we? Hmm

SuzieQ10 · 27/06/2019 23:37

I don't think this is representative, at all.
You just work with a couple of spendthrifts!

I had my child at 24 and was at that time on a similar salary to you and can confirm I did not have spare money to spend on silly luxuries like designer dummies. It was hard enough getting all the bills paid on time and the three of us fed.

Now late 20s and things are improving financially but I'm still very careful with money. If anything I worry I don't spend enough on my child, her clothes are well worn and it shows. Perhaps a trip to next..

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 27/06/2019 23:37

And before it gets said Grin I’ve never bought a designer thing in my life!

Chocolate35 · 27/06/2019 23:37

I walk around in supermarket clothes, DH and I have a joint income of £40,000 and I’ve just spent about £700 on a 16th birthday party; it might be stupid to some but I couldn’t care less. I choose to spend my money on my kids. Judge away.
Btw they must have been winding you up about dummies. No one I have ever known has spent anywhere near that on dummies.

TheHandsOfNeilBuchanan · 27/06/2019 23:41

You work with either idiots or liars. I earn double that and wouldn't spend £90 on dummies, or any so called designer brand that's essentially just a name printed on something. I'm happy to pay a bit more for quality, John Lewis, M&S, Next, a few things from boden, POP, JoJo etc but that's ridiculous. Do they own their homes?.

PositiveVibez · 27/06/2019 23:42

I don't know anyone who would be that braggy, but really I would just think they had more money than sense, and think nowt more of it.

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EarlGreyOfTwinings · 27/06/2019 23:43

I think it's a wind-up Grin

EarlGreyOfTwinings · 27/06/2019 23:45

Mind you, that gift set is £95 and comes in a choice of 4 colours

dollydaydream114 · 27/06/2019 23:46

It's their money and they can do what they like with it. Would I buy £130 shoes for a baby? No. Do I care if someone else does? Also no. It has no impact on you whatsoever.

Kashali · 27/06/2019 23:48

MsMustDoBetter

I agree, I see it on the estates near us, I'm quite poor, but it's considered common, I don't like the other expression often used.
I'm not a snob, just wc poor, deprived area.

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