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Made to feel like a bit of a twat

131 replies

HouseworkAvoider10 · 27/06/2019 10:02

My colleague is leaving his job, finishing tomorrow.
He does charity work, which involves sending stationery out to developing countries.
He has taken most of his stuff home and has also taken my whole tray of stationery to give to this charity abroad. It was on my desk yesterday.
I have been left with 4 small lead pencils and a black pen. Everything else is gone, including the actual stationery tray, my USB stick with stuff on it, all taken by him.
Its quite a lot of stuff, which I have collected over time.
Feel like a bit of a twat for asking for my stationery back when its going to charity, but these are the things I work with every day I will need them again.
He has admitted that he has it and says he will give it back tomorrow. He said its for the charity.
I do need my stuff back.
I think he's a CF.
AIBU?

OP posts:
MatildaTheCat · 27/06/2019 11:58

Is his name Robin Hood?

Clearly he’s a thieving CF who deserves to be bollocked. When the stuff is returned don’t allow one word of his charity excuses and demand an apology.

HappyNOTdriving · 27/06/2019 12:01

By his logic it would be perfectly fine to take £10 out of your purse because it's for charity and you can earn some more!

Cheeky arsehole!

Apolloanddaphne · 27/06/2019 12:03

What a CF. You can't just take stuff without asking to donate to charity. I hope you get it all back.

DuMondeB · 27/06/2019 12:12

Is there evidence of it going to charity? Only now I have visions of a man in a hoarder style home, stuffed to the brim with stationary stolen from every workplace he’s ever been employed at!

eddielizzard · 27/06/2019 12:15

bloody hell that's theft!

Hawkmoth · 27/06/2019 12:15

I've got a pen he can have...

Made to feel like a bit of a twat
Isitweekendyet · 27/06/2019 12:16

How very odd!

On my nelly I bet there’s no ‘charity’.

It sounds like you have lots of nice stationary that would come in handy at his new job and that’s why you’ve got it.

skybluee · 27/06/2019 12:20

The most disturbing part is he's taken a USB stick which could contain anything - any kind of personal files, work-related stuff.

ohfourfoxache · 27/06/2019 12:20

You have no reason at all to feel like a twat.

Your colleague is a thieving bellend

TheGrapefulDread · 27/06/2019 12:33

Stealing for a good cause - ffs! Sure the charity would love to inadvertently be handling stolen property.

TheCatThatDanced · 27/06/2019 12:34

I've heard of a similar scenario - where someone has taken something and the 'it's for charity' is rolled out so the other person feels bad.

Hopefully the CF will give it back by tomorrow but if he doesn't then arrange for him to meet you on work time with the personal stationery he's stolen from you.

he really needs to know about work boundaries. What if he does this in his new role??!!!

SkintAsASkintThing · 27/06/2019 12:38

Just popping on to give ' the Robin Hood of stationary ' the credit it deserves Grin 😂😂😂

Yeahnahmum · 27/06/2019 12:41

Thats not cheeky. That is stealing!

BumandChips · 27/06/2019 12:49

The Robin Hood of stationary. 😂

Seriously though, he’s a twat.

MulticolourMophead · 27/06/2019 12:53

I would be onto the police if it had been my stuff. I use fountain pens and right now have pens to a combined value of £100 plus inks that I use daily at work. I take them home at night, but anyone could take them during the day. Lucky for me, colleagues are nice.

This is theft, pure and simple. He needs to bring it all back.

babysharkah · 27/06/2019 13:04

He's stolen your things. End of. Is there anything that would come under GDPR on the usb?

EmNetta · 27/06/2019 13:06

If you don't get everything back tomorrow, I suggest asking work for his address and contacting police, although your employers would probably prefer you let it drop.
As others have mentioned, its likely there is no charity, and he just fancied your stuff, with a reasonable chance of getting away with it as he's leaving - please don't let him; be angry about this theft if necessary, and good luck tomorrow.

wotsittoyou · 27/06/2019 13:28

Woah! You can't just decide you're giving other people's stuff to charity! Can you imagine:

"Hi Sir, could you be a fine fellow and unlock your bicycle - I'm going to give it to charity!"

"That's a lovely scarf Madam, I'll just unwrap it and put it in my bag - It's alright, I'm giving it to charity!"

"Ooh, what lovely scented candles mum, have you anything to wrap them in so that I can give them to charity?"

As if! What a fecking chancer.

SavingSpaces2019 · 27/06/2019 13:37

he tried to argue that it was for charity and that it was just some stationery and that I could go get some more
Passive aggressive dickhead!

He wants to make out that you are not charitable!
How about he spends his own money on buying stuff for the charity instead of stealing yours?

DontCallMeShitley · 27/06/2019 13:39

Thieving bastard. That is all I have to say.

becauseimbatman · 27/06/2019 13:41

What kind of charity would spend good money sending half used pens overseas?

You could try and ensure he brings your things back by offering a donation when he does (imply it will be cash). Once the stuff comes back loudly ask him for details of how to donate directly since he is a thief and can't be trusted.
Details will likely not be forthcoming as a 2nd hand pen shipping charity is likely not real.

Sindragosan · 27/06/2019 13:43

Bet he 'forgets' to bring it back tomorrow or he's 'sick' and you never see him again. If he's leaving anyway hardly going to be sacked on the last day.

Ellisandra · 27/06/2019 13:44

That’s just weird as fuck!

I doubt sending stationery to developing countries is a good idea anyway. Just takes away a potential business from a local. Far better to have a charity that helps someone with setting up a small pencil selling business, help with business planning, loan for stock maybe.

Just weird to steal yours though!

Speckledhen10 · 27/06/2019 13:46

He’s a CF. So he’s going to work for a charity & has stolen your property. God help the reputation of that charity in a few months time.

MumW · 27/06/2019 14:04

He's not a CF, he's a TF - thieving F.

You are only a twat if you don't call him out and insist EVERYTHING is returned.
I'd also be telling him that, had he asked, you would probably have found/bought some stuff to donate to his cause but you no longer feel that generous.