Dreading holiday away with 'D'P

[dreadingit4]

Going abroad on Friday with my DP and leaving my 14 month old for 4 days for the first time. Not only am I dreading being away from her but I've just about had enough of his shit.

Needless to say if he had somewhere to live we would be separated but I booked and paid for this back in January for his birthday and as the day have got closer the dread and anxiety gets bigger 😒

AIBU to want to cry at the fact of spending 4 days with him constantly picking at what I do and being an all round C U Next Tuesday??

Help me get excited please 😔

Send him on his own?

Don't go with him, take a friend instead or let him take a friend if you feel charitable
Make plans for how and when he can move out
Break up with him

Don't go. It's not a holiday.

Let him go and take the time he is away to make plans.

Take DC with you and leave DP at home

Is the holiday in this country?

I would be very unwilling to leave my toddler for a holiday I wasn’t looking forward to got its own sake.

I’d be telling him that since I booked this his behaviour has been so horrible that I no longer want to spend holiday time with him and he can go on his own.

Leave him behind and take your daughter

Why on earth would you even go when your relationship is already over and you're dreading it? If he wants to go send him alone, or go yourself with the DC.

Jesus you don't have to go!
He needs to find himself somewhere to live. That's not your responsibility!

Don't go. Even though you've paid for it you'll have a much better time not going.

And break up with him, as you're clearly not happy.

Don't bother going together - tell him it is over, and suggest he uses those four days to move him and his stuff out whilst you're away with your DC?

I personally wouldn’t go even if it meant losing money. I couldn’t be arsed with being treated like shit

What on earth are you thinking? Don't go with him.

Does 14 month old have a passport?

The money is gone. Do you want a shit time or not? Where are you going? Can you explore it solo?

Bit short notice to take the kid abroad. It's tomorrow!

Paid for or not, I wouldn’t go if I didn’t want to be with the person I had planned to be with. What’s has changed in six months? Why did you book and pay for it?

Where’s the break to?

Where are you going? I would carefully plan to avoid him eg suddenly really get into an audiobook which necessitates headphones by the pool (if its that sort of break). Is there something that you really want to do but he wouldnt eg visit a particular museum etc? Then def get that planned! Does the hotel have a gym? Difficult to pick at you whilst you are on the running machine!

Alternatively, dump the fucker now, today. Get a mate on board and go and have a fab time telling him that he needs to get his shit out of your house over the next 4 days. Return to a brand new life yippeee!

Why are you going? Surely not just because it’s booked and paid for?

Don't go!

Think of the money as just a parting gift. Send him on his on and stay home. You do have a choice and don't have to go.

It’s not clear...... is she his daughter too?
Is your property jointly owned / rented?

You absolutely do not have to go.

Send him by himself. Stay with your dd. Make plans to leave him.

Don’t go simple