To be bored by DH conversation and interests?

[changetherecorddh]

It’s driving me mad and I need to know if IABU?

The first interest is football. He’s always been really into it, which is fine, I like it too. Nowadays though he just seems completely obsessed. He is constantly on his phone looking at football related trivia. My dm even commented a few days ago that he’s never off his phone looking at football stuff when we’re round there house) He’s always talking about it. We had a friend round yesterday and the second I leave the room at any point the conversation turns immediately to football. It makes me feel like he’s just waiting for me to leave so he can talk about it. Over the last few years he has replaced all his clothes so they are 95% football tops. I HATE men in football tops. I always have. I know he should dress in what makes him happy but I just don’t find his style attractive anymore. He’s also filled our downstairs toilet with football pictures and is currently collecting autographs of his favourite players and hanging them on the wall in there.

The second is Germany. He’s obsessed with the place and talks about it none stop. He must have mentioned it twenty times last night, speaking in a German voice, saying he wants to go to Munich/Ocktoberfest etc. Unfortunately I can’t join in his obsession because Germany is the only country I’ve been too that I didn’t really like much!

I am honestly bored to tears with it all. I feel like they are the only subjects that really interest him these days. It’s driving me insane!

Hi there changetherecorddh Im glad you had a good afternoon yesterday.I sympathise with you, as I was brought up in N london and my DF and GF were massive Spurs fans)!.Guess what ,now DH and DS the same!!.No getting away from it !.However as you say he seems detached from you sometimes .When a baby comes along.It often changes the dynamics somehow, for the first 6 mo /a year or so .Maybe you can make it a regular thing, just going out together as a couple and reconnecting .He may possibly be ASD or maybe that he just "switches off ".Is he good at small talk ?,or does he find being at your Mums house a bit overwhelming ,if you are talking to Mum and Dad and he could feel a bit left out maybe?.Hang on in there and hopefully things will improve ! 1 small step at a time !

No idea what to do about the German obsession Im afraid!

I would start moving lots of baby jobs onto him. putting her in cot for sleeps/ walking in buggy if she's unsettled, praise for him if he makes her 'talk' or 'smile'. Dressing her.
And not with you standing over correcting just let him learn.
I think it's nothing to do with football or Germany and all about the new relationships which include the baby, the 3 relationships, you and baby, him and baby, you and him. They've all to be helped along.
If the baby is seen as HIS baby and HIS responsibility,and not something that takes your time away from him and your marriage, then he will probably soon start to bore everyone to death with tales of her amazing achievements .. That's where I think you should be heaading.