To be sick of this school mum!!!!

[Nothappyrabbit]

Apologies if this is a bit of a rant. I am absolutely sick of a mum at school. I try my best to see the best in people and to help out where I can. This particular mum, a single parent, I have helped out with childcare, given her clothes and toys for her baby, and now she is asking me for money!

I have never complained in the past but I am starting to see a different side to her. I feel like she uses people have witnessed her being mean to her oldest child on a few occasions and her child is the most miserable child I have ever met.

On the other side I have DH, who doesn't really know anyone at school apart from this woman, so will only speak to her on the school run. I have complained about her behaviour before to him but he says that he 'doesn't get that impression of her when he's spoken to her (for all of five minutes I might add ).

Anyway, she's just asked me for money. I have already lent her £20 in the past that she never paid back. I'm just so fed up that if I tell DH this, he will minimise it again. Yet, if it was a different friend he would tell me to get rid.

don’t lend her the money.

Get your dh to support you rather than this leech.

I have tried...but he thinks she's all sweetness and light and doesn't believe that we are talking about the same person. I told him a couple of months ago and nothing changed, he's still carried on

For goodness sakes, don't lend her money, and tell DH not to lend her money either.

Just say no. What do you want from her though?

Bees I don't want anything. I just want her to move on to somebody else and for DH to be on the same page as me.

Ahhh school run woes! I had my own yesterday.....
Slowly distance yourself from this woman. It can only end badly

Deadposh Believe me I am trying but dh just encourages it!! Chatting on the school run, liking everything on FB

I have complained about her behaviour before to him but he says that he 'doesn't get that impression of her when he's spoken to her (for all of five minutes I might add hmm).

Bet she’s not targeting him with the childcare/toys/clothes/money requests.

OP, just tell her that you can’t help and ignore all future texts and calls. If she tries to talk to you tell her you’ve got to go. Don’t engage with her.

It’s ok for people to see and experience people differently that’s why we fancy different people
It would be out of order for your oh to lend money when you’ve given good reason not to
Are you worried the acquaintance is inappropriate ?

No, i am just worried that DH is so insistent on being friends even after I've told him what a pest she's being.

But he doesn't see her as a pest so why should he drop her when she's the only one he talks to there.

He can be her friend if he wants to.
Doesn't mean you have to be.
Keep your purse closed, and keep right on walking

Tell him she wants £500.

Eh? You say he's only chatted to her for 5 mins, but then you say hes friends with her? Say no to her. If your DH wants to give her money let him as long as it's not joint. He's being taken for a mug. Or he fancies her.

Keep well out of her way. I had a school mum who was always claiming her ex had frozen her bank account & was asking to borrow money, I was daft enough to lend her some & got repaid by a cheque that never stopped bouncing. Years later I saw her picture in the local paper, she had been sent to prison for fraudulently spending her son's trust fund from his late dad. Just tell her you haven't got any money on you & are hard up yourself.

What Raven said.

The fact that he’s sticking up for her and not listening to what you’re saying. Be wary

Your DH will learn soon enough if she's as bad as all that.

It does sound a little odd that they are FB friends and she is the only person he knows at school yet they've only spoken for 5 minutes

You don't need to drop her. Just don't lend her money or do her favours if you'd prefer not to. I don't think it's worth making enemies, particularly when your children have to spend time together at school.

Work out the best way of dealing with her requests in a way that doesn't make you feel uncomfortable. Whether you say something like "sorry, but I don't feel happy about lending you money, so please don't ask me again" or you might feel happier just changing the subject and ignoring her requests, but find a way that suits you & stick to it. She will get the message eventually.

Tell her you can’t lend her money as she didn’t pay you back last time. Laugh and tell your DH that it’s not surprising that she’s still being nice to him as she’s probably lining him up as her next source of free money.

When I say 5 mins, I mean 5 minutes a day.

If he's so insistent on being friendly with her and completely dismissing what you're telling him I'd assume he has a bit of a crush, and I would also assume that she is all sweetness and light for the 5 mins when chatting to (or chatting up) a dad at the school gates.

So DH is facebook friends with a mum he only sees on the school run and has spoken to for 5 minutes.

How did that come about?

What you are really saying is that you're afraid your husband fancies this woman, right?

Are you sure its not just jealousy issues, you seem to be making a big whoop about their "friendship" which seems to be passing pleasantries at the gate.

I'm jealous because she pesters me, I tell my DH and just want her to jog on?