To be raging at DH and UC meeting? Are we getting sanctioned?

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Sorry, here for traffic really

Meant to be at UC right now.

DH had to do something, said he'd be 10 minutes (about 50 minutes ago) and I'm left in the car (can't drive) with both kids waiting. Tried calling 20 times, no answer. No, not an affair as he's with his mum (she was in the car with us and went with him. I have no idea when they'll be back, we're 7 miles away from the job centre. What's going to happen to our UC now we're either going to be quite late or not attend? Fuming doesn't describe how I feel. I'm freaking out. AIBU to be raging at him? Not a surprise birthday thing either as my birthday isn't for months and we're skint.

Have you called the UC people? They may be able to move your appointment?

Yep you're going to get sanctioned

Have you rung them and explained you're stranded?

Surely he knows the time for UC?

He's left you and the kids waiting in the car for 50 minutes while on the way to a UC appointment?

Unless either he or his mum is seriously injured there is no reason for not coming back, or calling you at least.

I hope they're ok.

Could something have happened with his Mum, is she elderly ?
I don’t know what UC is so can’t comment on that.

Yanbu, I feel stressed just reading your post. Where did he get out of the car, are you outside a shop or something?

Get a taxi. I honestly wouldn't leave it or you really will be skint

I'm afraid it sounds very likely that you'll be sanctioned.

How far did he go if he was only meant to be 10 minutes? Can you go check?

Well you obviously don’t need the money then? No that’s right of course you do, he’s a arse how does he intend to feed his dc now?

Unless his dead not really sure he has an excuse not to of called you at least

You may be sanctioned, we can't give you an answer.
Contact them immediately and explain the situation (sure you have done this already).

I would ring DWP tell them you had some family emergency and re-schedule.

Oh and I agree with a pp, find another way, any way, to get there! Even lateness looks better than complete non attendance.

Get a taxi and let the prat sort out his transport. A taxi is going to be cheaper than being sanctioned.

Can you log into your account and send a message to your work coach?

Can you get a taxi there?

You'll probably have to choose between losing a limb or not feeding your children for a fortnight, such is the current ideology we live in.

What on earth is your husband doing??

Get a taxi and contact them immediately!

As an aside, I wonder about this situation for families who move from tax credits to UC. About the situation when one parent does not comply with the interview arrangements and leaves the family without the money (which with child tax credit went to the mother)...along with the new payment arrangements. I hope you get it sorted OP

I assume before posting this on MN you rang the UC people to explain?

Is it possible there has been some emergency with his mum?

If it's an appt for both of you, one turning up isn't going to stop you being sanctioned. Also if you turn up after your allocated time they can turn you away, some Jobcentres you won't even get past security.

Hopefully he's turned up now, but if not do call. Don't make anything up because they will ask for evidence if it comes to a potential sanction.

Phone the Job Centre.

@user87382294757 The joint claim is still sanctioned. It's one of many reasons why women in abusive relationships are made even more vulnerable by the UC changes.

(Not suggesting the OP's relationship is abusive, more of a general comment about the system.)

I dread being moved onto UC. What happens if they want you in when you're meant to be at work. I can imagine my employers will be thrilled if I have to pop out in works time to go down to the job centre.

I hope you get someone sympathetic when you finally get the job centre.