To be raging at DH and UC meeting? Are we getting sanctioned?

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Sorry, here for traffic really

Meant to be at UC right now.

DH had to do something, said he'd be 10 minutes (about 50 minutes ago) and I'm left in the car (can't drive) with both kids waiting. Tried calling 20 times, no answer. No, not an affair as he's with his mum (she was in the car with us and went with him. I have no idea when they'll be back, we're 7 miles away from the job centre. What's going to happen to our UC now we're either going to be quite late or not attend? Fuming doesn't describe how I feel. I'm freaking out. AIBU to be raging at him? Not a surprise birthday thing either as my birthday isn't for months and we're skint.

What's UC?

Universal Credit

Well there are still some job centre staff who can act like human beings, so hopefully OP encountered one. Unfortunately, the system at present is set up to punish the poor and so the centres often get given targets to sanction as many people as they can.
Is your H in work of any kind, or does he have access to money if you do get sanctioned? His attitude does seem pretty worrying.

OP, not a great afternoon - I'd have been worried sick and I guess if you need UC you can't afford taxis. Your DH prioritizes keeping his Mum happy over ensuring his family have enough money for food, fuel, clothes etc. But then, maybe she's got enough money to support her son and his family if there's no UC, so it wasn't really a problem!

"Well there are still some job centre staff who can act like human beings, "

Well yes, but someties there must be other appointments is more what I was thinking.

What a pair of feckless bellends.

To be fair, my DS once overslept and rang up the jobcentre to say he would be very late and they were absolutely fine with him. They are not all horrible and unreasonable.

DH still doesn't understand why I was mad

Is he thick? Surely it's not difficult to work out that after nearly an hour of stressing whether you were going to be sanctioned it would be positively strange if you weren't furious?

Next time, if you go with him tell him that if so much as dares to suggest stopping on the way he'll be on starvation rations for a year.

Shitting hell, his behaviour could be the difference between eating or not.
Is he usually this much of a wanker?

Your DH is an inconsiderate, selfish oaf who considers himself a bigger priority than anyone else I commiserate because I'm married to one too 😡

Your dh is an idiot then. Hopefully the job centre will cut you some slack as you have a newborn.

If you have a 6 week old and 2 year old and are named as the main carer of them on your claim you do not need to attend appointments.

Do you know what the appointment was for? If the appointment today was to provide further evidence (provide verification of baby's identification etc) there is no power of sanction attached to this type of appointment. All that happens is if you don't provide the information you don't get the extra child amount added.

They appeared about 10 mins after I created the post. DH's mum is fine; he literally said 'sorry, didn't realise the time'. DH's mum said it's her fault, she kept looking at something but didn't end up getting it

No, it could've waited 100% she just couldn't make her mind up whether to buy something and kept changing her mind DH's phone had died and hers was on silent, didn't realise the time blah blah blah. DH still doesn't understand why I was mad

I'd be seriously considering telling him to pack his fucking bags. This is so far beyond inconsiderate and selfish, it's unbelievable tbh.

I'd have kicked off at her too.

What did he stop the car and get out for in the first place?

i forgot to attend an interview and didn’t click agree to my responsibilities or whatever, I rang and explained why I didn’t go, my job needed me and they still sanctioned me but because it was a first offence type of thing you’ll only get sanctioned until you’re next appointment so I wouldn’t worry too much if it was a first time offence