The village I live in is regarded as a very sought after place. People move from all over the country because of its quaintness and top scoring primary schools. It is one of the least deprived areas in the country. The village had (say had because most were bought) a small council estate of about 20 houses on the outskirts. You were considered very lucky if you got a council house here. Nowadays about 3 of them are still council. The rest have been bought and have had the middle walls knocked through to make 2 houses into one. I live in one of the remaining council's, and I fucking hate it.
Me and DH both grew up on estates and didn't go to uni but we both have decent jobs. I'm a carer and he's a decorator. We got together young and were married with 2 DC by 24. We are good, decent people as are my neighbours on both sides, who are in the other 2 council's. However all of us are snubbed by the rest of the road and in the village. My neighbour often says she feels like they are waiting for us to sod off. I get ignored at the school gates and my DC are often left out of party invites at school and nursery. On DD's 7th birthday I decided to take her and 3 friends to the cinema in town. 2 of the mum's INSISTED on coming with us. I said "It's fine, I will pick _ up, we'll see the film, get something to eat then I'll bring her home." They made excuses as to why they had to come. So we at were Pizza Hut afterwards and as the kids were chatting, the 2 mum's conversed with each other and ignored me.
I have been shamed by other mum's because my kids do their activities (DD dancing and DS messy art) in the town centre rather than in the village. "Ooh why don't you go to the village hall? It's just lovely." Pfft. Yeah, you say that, but I'm sure when we turned up you'd pretend you hadn't seen us. Not to mention it's a hell of a lot cheaper in town. DH is a decorator and has a really good reputation in the local towns. He is constantly being recommended. Has he ever had any work offered to him in the village? Fuck no. Someone moved in a while ago and he went round and said he had his own business etc and he'd be happy to help them at a discount if they ever needed him. They've not spoken to us since. DD's teacher's patronize me on parent's evening. Even the dentist who lives and works here spoke to me and DC like shit then as we left the room another mother and child came in and she was lovely to them.
We speak differently to everyone, not chavvy, just normal. We're a decade younger than most of the other parents round here. My daughter occasionally has to go to school with a pen mark on her jumper because she only has 1. All these are little things but they seem to be such a huge deal. Even DD is noticing. She came up to me last week and said " asked why I go to this school and not a different one." Well that's clearly come from 's mum. AIBU to just want to put my house up for swap and move away from here? I'm fucking sick of us being looked down on, and I miss being around people who actually saw us as decent people. I miss my old town, where there was actually a mixture.