To feel annoyed that I missed out on a job because I am a woman

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I've just started back at work after 12 months off for maternity leave. Before I went off I had a meeting with HR and my manager to go over my rights etc. One of the things HR said was that they have to keep me informed of job vacancies.

I have now started back and found out that a promotion came up within my team 2 months ago. Four colleagues applied and one of them was appointed. AIBU to be absolutely raging that I wasn't informed?
I don't actually know what to do about it as it's all been done now and he is in this new job so I feel like complaining is pointless.

it is because she's a woman. The situation would not have arisen if she was a man.

What jobs do you all do that you think a year out means you can't do the work anymore? are you all 5% less efficient after your annual holiday? Skills and competencies are not lost while you're at home with a baby.

@Durgasarrow either you've got no kids or you've not got a job ffs

She should not be expected to have to go into work every 6 weeks to reset a password ffs.

notacooldad Please don’t patronise me. I understand what you said. You are spectacularly missing the point. Did you expect your wife to make the journey to work weekly/fortnightly/monthly with your child to check emails or do you expect her to be treated lawfully?
What on earth are you talking about???

And what point have I missed?There are some posters that have said some outrageous things such as she should get her feet back under the table after mat leave before applying for promotion. My original question was a neutral one and that was what was how was kit days done in her department and explained how someone protected themselves from being overlooked. I repeat it not right and it's not fair but it clearly happens.

notacooldad Keeping in touch days are completely irrelevant and has nothing to do with her being required to be legally kept informed of situations such like this.

It’s really inconsiderate of so many posters to be so ducking clueless. I want to go to sleep but the sheer fuckwittedness of some of these replies is making me mad at people being wrong on the internet.

OP, YANBU at all.

For reference, if any of you are managers, you shouldn’t leave out the woman on maternity leave because you assume she won’t be capable after giving birth, or even just if you think she’s the wrong fit. Not your call. Equally someone’s birthday party does not affect someone else’s earnings for the next 15 years (or if it does, it’s gone very wrong or very well). And if you are obliged to contact someone on maternity leave in these circumstances, and you’ve promised to do so, then you need to fucking do it.

God no wonder womens career potential falls off a cliff after kids. This thread shows how much discrimination there is against women, by women.

Exactly! Well said.

YANBU - I was promoted on return from Mat leave for a job I interviewed for while on mat leave. I wouldn’t have even heard about the job if HR hadn’t flagged it to me - I had a work laptop but sure as hell wasnt looking at the emails or anything else. They went out of their way to make sure I knew

my brain didn't fall out of my vagina when I gave birth
Love it!

notacooldad Actually you never answered my question. Did you expect your wife to be treated lawfully or did you tell her to get into work weekly/fortnightly/monthly?

notacooldad Actually you never answered my question. Did you expect your wife to be treated lawfully or did you tell her to get into work weekly/fortnightly/monthly?
And what wife would that be nicky?

@Durgasarrow she didn’t expect a promotion, she wanted the opportunity to apply for one. Which she’s legally entitled to have. Even if you ‘disappear for a year’ you are still employed.

notacooldad Ok, the mother of your child then. Assuming you have one given your user name.

Tragic all round. The situation and thread.

You got an email what did you want a personal call or a telegram?

She didn’t get an email. That’s the whole point

She did. She just didn't check them.

On her work email. She is not expected to access that and she couldn’t. Read the thread.

I've read it. Bang your head a bit harder.

pOk, the mother of your child then. Assuming you have one given your user name
No I don't have a mother to my child . Just give it up nick
I asked one e question and agreed that things are not right or reasonable for the OP in this situation. Other poster have said some really sexist things and have had some quite old fashioned and dated opinions but you are a at me like a Jack Russell at a post man because you have made some assumptions.

notacooldad at you like a jack Russell because I asked you questions? Ok then.

This is clearly and issue you have no experience or knowledge of.

Poloshot Somhaving read it, what else do you reasonably expect the op to do considering she has a new baby?

I didn’t access my work emails for 16 months while I was off.

Tell a lie. I looked at them at 14 months during my KIT days.

notacooldad there was a strong implication in your post that the OP should have worked harder at keeping in touch with her workplace. I didn't see any recognition by you that the workplace itself was it fault.