DH just used the term ‘Reached out’ to mean contacted.

[LarryGreysonsDoor]

Should I LTB now and never look back.
He’s 45 and should know better.

Mine once asked me to stop dissing him. He was 47. I continued dissing him about saying that as well as what I'd originally been dissing him about.

It's time for him to review his domestic "offer" I think. What's he bringing to the table?

Maybe you can make a step-change👹👹👹

MrsGrindah

topcat Thank you.

Current fave amongst my pale male stale colleagues is 'let's put some structure to it' aka - I've had a shite idea but haven't yet thought about it properly (not envy)

YANBU OP LTB

It is horrific, but I think there is a reasonable chance that you can salvage something from this relationship.

I have never before recommended taunting a partner as a way to save a marriage, but I do believe you have no choice here. Tease him mercilessly:

"I thought we could go out to a restaurant on Wednesday. Do you want to Reach Out to them and book a table, or shall I? ()"

(on the phone in DH's presence) "Hello MIL, we haven't had a good chat in ages. Has your son Reached Out to you lately? ()"

Perhaps you have some friends or relatives who would rally round to support you in doing this. He needs to know that this isn't acceptable. You may be able to nip it in the bud.

Tell him to stick it in the toaster and see what pops up!

I'm sure many of your small children have one of those flip books, divided into three sections, heads, bodies and legs and they can make lots of different people, keeps them quiet for at least 5 minutes. Someone many years ago produced a similar thing for management speak, a beginning, middle and end. We used to have great fun with a Deputy Head who thought such things were very clever. I wish I still had it, it would still be as irrelevant toaday as it was thirty years ago,

Did he raise his voice at the end of the sentence, the antipodean full stop? Did he start the offending reaching out sentence with 'So....'? If No then he's redeemable, there are some advantages to having an OH who's idea of modern culture was the Suez crisis!

You may be able to nip it in the bud

aka you need to get your ducks in a row.

Get out whilst you can.
Does the man have no morals!? :-(
I think he might be broken.

Started a new job recently where everyone is reaching out, pinging emails, touching base, hitting the ground running (apparently that’s what I did 😬), looping me into things, everything is bloody flagged, quick wins all over the place, it’s soul destroying.

As part of my project I decided to make a list of organisations it would be useful to contact, and then to contact them. Honestly I got blank stares every time I said this until I reframed it as “creating an outreach list and reaching out to them”. Then they understood, and all offered to ping me helpful information. I cringed all the way through saying that sentence. Still cringing now. None of us are the Four Tops.

I’m finding it v concerning 12% think you are being unreasonable. 12% of are pure evil!. No wonder the world is in the state it is!

LTB. No question. And quickly, before he starts cascading pleas of temporary insanity to you.

Does he talk about people ‘welcoming’ their babies too? This always conjures up a strange scenario in my head. I hate all these Americanisms in our language now. The papers in particular seem obsessed with them.

Weirdo raises hand. In my defense, I assumed that LTB meant Lying Tory Bastard.

Do keep up. There are lots of threads about Boris.

There is a lot of ‘reaching out’ and ‘leaning in’ at my work, it’s an epidemic

Well, you've sprayed this over a lamppost to see who gave it a sniff and 88% recoiled in horror.
Can't get my head round the 12% who didn't. They've obviously drunk the Kool-Aid.

LTB.

Once we’re out of the EU can we pass a law allowing the public execution of anyone who utters such sentences

LTB

One of my colleagues says "Let's put a pin in that." Always makes me think of the evil publicist in the kids' film Bolt.

@thenightsky

Oh... and what the hell does 'the business case might just wash its face' mean? I hear that a lot. Washing faces.

It basically means to break even. So you're not expecting to make a lot and it'll probably just cover the costs.

I think that may actually be a British phrase rather than American. I used to work for a US company and I don't remember hearing it ever used there.

As to its origin I really don't know although I have heard the phrase "doing a wash up" which means doing a review of a project or campaign after its finished and maybe the two are linked?

Once when I was moaning about how much housework there was my DH said "anyone can eat an elephant if you do it in bite sized chunks". WTAF? Another gem he brought home from the office " don't bring me problems, bring me the solutions". My reply on that occasion was "well you're the solution, get off your fucking arse and help".

Kill Him

He’s made a cup of tea so I might forgive him

Noooooooo! This is how they get you.