Nursery sending DS home when he's not THAT sick

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He's been a bit under the weather all week, his temp a bit higher than usual and he's got a slight cough but he's okay in himself (otherwise I wouldn't have been sending him to nursery).
Today was the second time this week I'd been rang to say he's really unwell and to come and get him, I wasn't even able to get out of work today and had to make arrangements with a friend, the way it was worded made it sound like he was badly unwell and I was expecting my friend to call me and tell me to keep trying to get out of work to be able to get him home - but apparently he was fine, excitable even when he was picked up, asking to go to the park, his usual self (just with a slightly higher temp). He was also fine the other day when I was rang. You could tell he wasn't 100% but he wasn't ill enough to sit at home and rest all day etc, he wants to be out and up playing and stuff.
AIBU to feel that they're being a bit over cautious or something here? I'm left stressing about continuously taking time off work because he doesn't feel in 100% health (which would be a lovely and ideal situation but not when you're employed!)

My childcare provider done the same thing. It's them being overcautious because small children spread germs like little plague factories What is a sniffly nose to one child can be a dose of bronchitis for another. It is done for the benefit of all kids. Irritating? Yes. Understandable? Also yes.

If he's got a cough running around will make it worse and them he will be coughing on all the other children, plus if he's got a raised temp they will send him home just for that because its usually a sign of infection x

What is a slightly higher temperature? Does he have a fever? If yes then YABU.

@opeo my DD ended up in hospital because another mum sent her DS in with "just a cough" turns out he had tonsillitis and spread it to 3 other children, it just didn't effect him in the same way it did my DD..

What is his temperature? I think most nurseries and schools will send home a child with a fever, as a precaution.

Temp was about 38.5 and he'd cried and they'd rang. Didn't feel warm when he was picked up and temp is normal now!

They may also be providing childcare for children with low immunity and have to be alert to childhood diseases that can start out with a high temperature.

There are a few alerts out for measles at the moment as well, with a few outbreaks of cluster cases around the country

38.5 is quite high. I would assume an infection of some sort. You wouldn't get a temperature like that with just a cold. Did they give him Calpol?

anybody know the symptoms of measles? chicken pox before spots come, tonsillitis etc - if your dc has that high a temp (& its high!) you should: take him to gp if it has continued on/off over a week, & keep him off nursery until it comes down - infections could spread - to dc who are vulnerable like asthmatics, those with low immunity etc - & they can go round in circles at nurseries if parents don't keep their dc off - the nursery isn't there to look after sick children - he needs to be home with you

I don't think they've done anything wrong. Have you read their illness policy, because I've used four childcare settings and they've all stated a fever (temp of over 38) involved either a call to parent (and giving Calpol) or child to go home?

In my experience, often small children have to be seriously unwell before they'll actually accept sitting still for prolonged periods. My oldest DC has needed hospital treatment for an infection, and he really wasn't well, but still spent some of the time we were in A&E pegging it up and down the corridors and playing with the toys. I think we need to make a judgement as adults and encourage them to rest. The same way some children simply refuse to go to bed, doesn't mean they don't need to sleep...

38.5 is a pretty high temperatue

Feeling ill in nursery, or school, or work is never good is it? Better to be at home sometimes.

38.5 means the child has fever and really needs to stay home no matter how cheerful they are.

Really annoying- my nursery has the same policy of banning children with a temp of more than 38 for 48 hours

My daughter used to hit that temp from teething. It was such a pain

Ffs 38.5! You shouldn't have sent him! YABU.

38.5 is pretty high. of course he should stay at home .

also want others have said. germs spread so quickly and some kids have low immunity. yabvu

Blimey, my GP classes over 37.5 as a fever in pre school children so he definitely should not have been sent to Nursery.

Poor thing

They are paid to look after healthy children so you are being unreasonable.

38.5 - no wonder he was crying.

That temp isn't horrendous but it's too high for nursery. He needs to be at home.

I certainly wouldn't like to go to work with a temp like that. I know bairns are pretty resilient but they can sleep when they want when they're poorly.

In the first nursery dd went to she was once sent home on a claim she had a temperature of 39. Fair enough, rushed there, thinking she might need gp etc. As soon as I got her out of the boiling hot nursery the temperature came right down!

That said I agree about nurseries not being there to care for sick kids and about immunosuppressed children.

I'd be pretty pissed off if we all got sick because you sent your sick DC to nursery so you could go to work. YABVU

Ugh .... I would feel ill with a temperature like that OP .... children - particularly small ones don’t behave the way adults do when they are ill . They don’t pace themselves, abd can get sick really quickly. A child who is not 100% has no place in nursery I’m afraid . Could they be looked after by their dad / granny / auntie - absolutely. Because your granny can stay at home, cuddle them , give them calpol and let them rest...

That’s not what nursery is - so whilst it might be irritating, they are there to look after many children not just yours. It’s also an inevitable part of going back to work / small children / nursery care I’m afraid. Ours would get excluded for 48 hours for loose stools ... problem was ours got like that when they were both teething. So weren’t actually ill at all ... but the rules are there for a reason

It is not a medical ward, a child who is poorly takes all of the time and attention of a member of staff and leaves the class short. Your child is not the only child in the room !

The thing is he has a high temp so although he seems ok he actually is fighting some thing. My little boy has febrile convulsions with a high temp so obviously if he caught it he could be pretty unwell. Most schools and nursery won't take with a high temp it should be in the policy. I understand it's difficult for you aswell.

I would say a temp of 38.5 is fair enough to warrant a call for collection.
When I get chest infections I can carry on as normal near enough where as I know others who end up very poorly with them. Illness effects us all differently. And they have to look at the children as a whole, so if one is ill, even if appearing ok, it may spread to the others making them very unwell.
Annoying as it is being called out twice, I think it's fair enough.