Nursery sending DS home when he's not THAT sick

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He's been a bit under the weather all week, his temp a bit higher than usual and he's got a slight cough but he's okay in himself (otherwise I wouldn't have been sending him to nursery).
Today was the second time this week I'd been rang to say he's really unwell and to come and get him, I wasn't even able to get out of work today and had to make arrangements with a friend, the way it was worded made it sound like he was badly unwell and I was expecting my friend to call me and tell me to keep trying to get out of work to be able to get him home - but apparently he was fine, excitable even when he was picked up, asking to go to the park, his usual self (just with a slightly higher temp). He was also fine the other day when I was rang. You could tell he wasn't 100% but he wasn't ill enough to sit at home and rest all day etc, he wants to be out and up playing and stuff.
AIBU to feel that they're being a bit over cautious or something here? I'm left stressing about continuously taking time off work because he doesn't feel in 100% health (which would be a lovely and ideal situation but not when you're employed!)

I hate people that do this.
An acquaintance put a post on Facebook she’s been up in the night with a vomiting toddler. Later that day, a post saying look what my son made at nursery today!
Earlier this year most the children there had chicken pox and the nursery had to email parents to not send contagious children in as they had a child having cancer treatment. You can’t send an ill child in even if they seem fine!

38.5 is a fever, why on earth do you think it’s ok to send him with a fever?
Poor thing, nursery were totally correct.

Don't turn into one of those parents who sends their child into school infecting everyone else then proudly show off their 100% attendence award while the other parents are seething behind your back.

38.5 is a temperature, they were right to send him home - they’ve got to have parameters.

That said - I do think you have a point overall. One of my colleagues got a call from nursery yesterday to collect her son because he was complaining of a stomach ache. It’s happened quite a lot recently, because he’s potty training and he’s constipated - but he’s absolutely fine. The impact on her work is really difficult for her.

My DC’s old school went through a phase of this last year with DS. I think I was called to pick him up three times in the space of 5 months. Each time I would arrive expecting to be greeted with a very sick child only to see a fairly happy DS. As soon as we got outside to the car he was completely normal! One time they asked me to collect him because he was ‘a bit warm’ .

I had to have words with the teacher and explain that I also teach and I’d had to find cover for my classes when they asked me to collect them so I really needed it to only happen when he was actually ill. They never did it again.

I agree with everyone else. 38.5 is too high to be at nursery. They were absolutely right to send him home.

Actually thinking back they did try it again one more time and I was in the middle of a lesson so I took the phone call outside the classroom. The students (adults) asked if everything was ok because I got quite heated with the receptionist. I knew he was fine, she was doing the classic ‘he’s looking a bit peaky to me’. We all have olive skin which can look a bit grey in certain lights, I think they mistook that as him being ill or something .

38.5?! That's a fever! Poor lad, you absolutely shouldn't have sent him. Our daycare would take a very dim view of this.

Ah, we have a mum at school who loves showing off her child’s 100% attendance badges and banging on about it. She sends him in bloody ill though! D&V, temps, coughs colds, whatever - he goes in. So bloody annoying and everyone complains. The school have had words, but she still brings him and tells him not to tell the teacher if he’s been unwell. If my kids ever caught any of it I would be harsher words with her than I have so far. It’s part of your job as a parent, to be available for them when they’re sick etc. It is what it is, you factor it in when you have children.

38.5 is a high temperature. I would hope if my son had a temperature that high that the nursery would call me.

38.5 is a fever.

My DD gets very high temperatures. She can appear fine with anything up to 39, but her body is clearly fighting an infection. My niece on the other hand is miserable with a temp of 37.8.

It’s difficult juggling work and an ill child but the bottom line is you shouldn’t have sent him.