Why does she do this?

[TwinkleWings]

Would others be pissed off my this?

I have a friend who does this really annoying thing of repeating what I've just said in a stupid exaggerated voice. So for example if I was talking in a group and someone asked the group if they like Game of Thrones and I said "oh I love game of thrones!" She would parrot "l LOVE game of Thrones" taking the piss out of the way I've said it. It's normally when I've said something with enthusiasm or feeling (so could be something negative too). Or if I laugh at something she will repeat that laugh that I've done back to me but really exaggerated.

I have noticed her doing it to maybe one other person but not everyone. I find it really rude and it pisses me right off because it stops me in my tracks when I'm talking and makes me self conscious that I've sounded like a twat and that's why she's repeated in in a piss takey way.

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I have pulled her up on it in the past but don't know and just ignore because I don't want to look like I'm being over the top/ miserable cow when she's being lighthearted. I feel it really ruins the flow of a conversation though and can't work out why she does it. Is it to undermine me? It's normally at a point in a conversation where I'm feeling really relaxed and being myself and it's like she's pulling me up on that.

Would this piss you off? Would you say something? Am I being over the top?

Should say *dont now and just ignore

Ummm. That's really rude. She's obviously insecure and socially awkward so tries to take a shine off your confidence and enthusiasm. It makes her feel better. Which is awful! Straight after she does it and in the same crowd, ask "why do you keep repeating what i'm saying?" As if you find it baffling rather than offensive. Put her on the spot, be calm and confident about it. She'll soon stop when it doesn't have its desired effect. And stop being her friend!

I would just look at her and say "stop repeating everything I say. It's rude and immature".

I'd definitely call her out. It's rude and very immature. She needs to grow up.

I’d just stare at her - like, are you serious - and wait for her to explain herself.

God she sounds tedious. I’d phase her out if I was you.

It is rude and yes ask her why she does it.

God yes, I'd snap. 'What is your problem?' 'Oh, you haven't got one? Then stop trying to mimic me, it's boring.'

Not much of a friend, is she? What do your other 'friends' do when she's this rude?

Actually I'd probably tell her to fuck off, but that's just me.

I’d say something each time like “oh why did you just repeat what I just said” in a confused way. The more you do it the more she’ll get the message and it’ll make her think twice about doing it

I have social anxiety and recognise it when I see it in others also. I also have a colleague who does something very similar to this - she mirrors the end of sentences, as you're saying them.

eg.

Me: "I can't believe Donald Trump is such a cock"
Her: ...................................................."such a co...ck"

Perhaps that's not what's happening. But it might be.

When you've called her out on it, did you do so in the group and/or in a relatively confrontational manner?

Maybe try having a quiet word.

If you found out she couldn't help it or found it hard not to do it, and is aware of it and hates that she does it, would you perhaps find it easier to deal with when it does happen?

She's really confident socially and likes to be centre of attention. She doesn't do it ALL the time so it's not like everything I say. But it's a couple of times each time I see her I guess. And it'll always be at a point of me being really relaxed and maybe talking about something with exuberance. I'm not as outgoing or "loud" as her.

She is a good friend and part of a wider friend group so can't "phase her out"

I can't even remember what was said when I called her out on it as it was years ago. It was probably just a quick "dont do that"

I have a friend who does this really annoying thing of repeating what I've just said in a stupid exaggerated voice. So for example if I was talking in a group and someone asked the group if they like Game of Thrones and I said "oh I love game of thrones!" She would parrot "l LOVE game of Thrones" taking the piss out of the way I've said it. It's normally when I've said something with enthusiasm or feeling (so could be something negative too). Or if I laugh at something she will repeat that laugh that I've done back to me but really exaggerated.

The bolded things are not compatible i.e she's no friend.

Start doing the same to her and see how she liked it. If she complains ask what's wrong; that's what she does.

Except there's no way to really resolve this because shes an utter bitch who has it in for you for whatever reason (jealousy?).

She is a good friend

No, she's not.

I would HATE that! ("I would HAAATE that") and would rapidly go off the person doing it.

Tell her if you wanted a parrot you'd go to a pet shop

I know someone who did this! It was weird. I think she didn’t know how to be funny.

I said ‘are you quite done?’ once and then she stopped

But it's a couple of times each time I see her I guess

Once a year would still make her a bitch; this is just ...

If you can't hang with the friendship group without her being there; perhaps other posters have some techniques for making her stop.

But she's a bulky ultimately and bullies don't stop or change easily or at all.

She's a bitch. Step to her! Next time she does it give her a pat on the arm (power move) and in your best patronising voice say, "Now, that isn't very mature is it Bitchyfriend".

*bully

I would tell her I really don’t like it, then if she kept it up I would drop her.

I knew a person like this. She would do it about the most mundane things. I'd walk up and say, "hello," and she'd look at me and say, "haha, you're like 'hello' hahaha!" Or she'd comment on what I was wearing or my facial expression.

I was senior to her and was usually giving her instructions or correcting her work, but we were around the same age and she was much prettier and cooler, so it felt very weird and high school!

I was socially awkward and shy so I didn't know how to respond to her rudeness. I literally just ignored it and acted as if I hadn't heard. I never laughed along with her. Looking back, that was probably the best thing I could have done.

It really shook my confidence though.

Or "Sorry Bitchyfriend, was the attention not on you for a second" but with a little laugh for plausible deniability.

Pull her up every time, she'll soon stop the cowbag.