Why does she do this?

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Would others be pissed off my this?

I have a friend who does this really annoying thing of repeating what I've just said in a stupid exaggerated voice. So for example if I was talking in a group and someone asked the group if they like Game of Thrones and I said "oh I love game of thrones!" She would parrot "l LOVE game of Thrones" taking the piss out of the way I've said it. It's normally when I've said something with enthusiasm or feeling (so could be something negative too). Or if I laugh at something she will repeat that laugh that I've done back to me but really exaggerated.

I have noticed her doing it to maybe one other person but not everyone. I find it really rude and it pisses me right off because it stops me in my tracks when I'm talking and makes me self conscious that I've sounded like a twat and that's why she's repeated in in a piss takey way.

Why do people have to immediately jump in saying that the person annoying someone is an 'utter bitch' I mean really??

Have the others noticed (I'd from it hard not to notice something like that), have they ever said anything about it?

Groups where low level bullying happens and people tolerate it are sadly quite common but it also doesn't say good things about the people in it.

• I'd find it hard

She is a good friend

It doesn't look as if she feels the same OP.

She doesn't like you stepping out of place OP.

She is trying to make you feel like shit so you shut up and let her take back the attention.

She is no friend of yours.

As you get older you often realise that a good friend is someone who treats you with respect. She does not.

She probably just stays in contact (and spends 90% of the time talking about herself or making arrangements) and you mistakenly think she's your friend.

People need to stop using the word friend in place of acquaintance.

Friend - .
a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of sexual or family relations.

Acquaintance - a person one knows slightly, but who is not a close friend.

I've known her and been very close to her for YEARS. Went to school together. She is a very good friend but yes this is very annoying and I often feel like we're back at school

It's really annoying and rude.

I think this is called echolalia. I knew someone who did it, especially with accents or unique/ stand out voices. She would mimic them exactly. I don't think she could help it. If it's just with you it's probably because she feels relaxed with you and is trying hard to suppress it with others. And you probably sound 'interesting' to her. I also think it's related to being on the autistic spectrum but I'm no expert. But yes it's really annoying and disruptive. I used to stop talking mud sentence and give her a weird look each time. It didn't stop her though.

If she really is a good friend you should be able to take her aside on a day it’s happened and say “I really don’t like it when you repeat what I say in that piss-taking way. It makes me feel like a dick. I’ve asked you to stop before and you haven’t. Don’t do it.”

In her mind she might be being pally/affectionate, and hasn’t registered it’s upsetting you. She sounds like an immature attention seeker, tbh...

Bawdrip yes it is related to ASC. This crossed my mind when reading this post, because of the woman with autism I support was just telling me she often does this because she doesn’t know what to say in conversation, and copies what others say in an attempt to be included.

Though OP says she’s very confident socially, so it doesn’t sound like that’s the case here.

No she is not a good friend - she may have had nice qualities at certain times so you could class her as a friend, but by continually doing this she is just a friend with history.
You have 2 options - ignore and have your own inner strength to stop letting it rattle you - e.g. the small put downs - like 'really', 'are you done', 'that's rude but never mind I'll carry on'.
Second one is you tackle her on it - next time she does it - make a big point about how rude it is, and although you've let it slide in the past you would really like her to stop. She will probably do is again - repeat as before. But this time you tackle her separately on it. Tell her you've told her its rude, its her trying to belittle you and repeat you would like her to stop if she is a decent person. Keep repeating. But start getting other friends onside - how it upsets you, you've tackled her on it directly but no change and can they offer any help/advice and you might find that lots of people start calling her out on her rudeness. Chances are she's doing it to many people but your subconscious only focuses on your incidents so it may be that she's pissing off lots of people.

Agree about echolalia. It can also be a symptom of Tourettes - "Vocal tics can also appear as constantly repeating the words of others (echolalia)".

I think you need to tell her. I would keep it simple and clear.

Tell her that you have noticed that she repeats what you say in public and that you don’t like it and want her to stop. There is no need to tell she is rude or being a bitch when you first speak to her about it.

I think it's a case of pecking order, and she is trying to belittle you. It's really awful, this sort of behaviour should stop after nursery school. I don't have time for people that behave like that, and it's one of the things I love about being older it's not allowing someone like that in my social circle. You can try using humour and really nasty back but in a joking way. But honestly I would find other friends. Or just invite the others out and not her.
You could start saying ok thanks I think they heard it the first time foghorn and roll your eyes.

I like to be centre of attention. So does my colleague I mentioned above... or do we... social anxiety manifests in many different ways.

I can't believe all of the "she's a bitch" "she's no friend" comments! Wow!

Quizzical look: 'yes?' expecting her to explain herself.

Tell her if you wanted a parrot you'd go to a pet shop
I'd follow this up the next time she did it with just "Pieces of eight, pieces of eight" in your best parrot voice.

Sounds like the Dr Who episode 'Midnight'!! She sounds very childish (unless she is an alien, of course!).

"I can't believe all of the "she's a bitch" "she's no friend" comments! Wow!"

Have you not read many AIBU threads? They are generally filled to the brim with utter nonsensical vitriol from posters vying with each other to be the most outraged/most "straight talking".

You could try doing it back to her, op? See how she likes it?

She really isn’t a good friend.

Good friends have got your back, enjoy seeing you confident and relaxed, and don’t try to socially sabotage you.

If a good friend had a problem with you they arrange to meet and say what it is honestly and kindly.

Really op, you can afford to raise your bar here and have supportive friendships. Are you assertive enough to call her out on it?

What makes you think she’s a good friend? Has she helped you out in a crisis etc? Length of time knowing her is irrelevant.

With friends like this... Who needs enemies?.She is trying to undermine your confidence Im afraid .Can you not see her as often ?.She may think its a joke bit probably wouldnt like it if you did it to her!

Maybe parrot her parroting back to her in a lighthearted way, so the thing you originally said will get repeated twice. If you do it consistently I bet she'll stop repeating you.