To think you should clean up as soon as you can after a meal

[Twolittlebears]

My DH and I split household jobs. When cooking the rule is if you cook, you clean as well. (To avoid the messy cook never being incentivized to be tidy!)

On my cooking nights I clean right away - usually before going upstairs for young DCs' bedtime, but certainly as soon as I come down if they are tired and need to go straight up.

On his nights my DH comes downstairs and starts emailing or watching TV before cleaning. It drives me nuts!

So tell me, AIBU to say after cooking a meal most people clean up straight away before relaxing?

As long as it gets done by the person who is supposed to be doing it then I don’t think it matters too much

I have zero intention of jumping round immediately Ive eaten, it digests then I clean up. DH on the other hand faffs immediately in the kitchen getting under my feet.

So long as the cook cleans up, so what if it is in his own good time?

Nope, we sometimes clean straight away other times we don't, if it annoys you clean up.

Whoever's turn it is decides when it gets done

Yabu, dinner, but of a sit to digest, so long as it's done before bed and you're not making breakfast in a dirty kitchen it doesn't matter. But potentially HIBU for not doing his share of bedtimes etc?

I'm still sitting on my arse watching a show 2 hours after eating.

No, not always. Though I’ve never heard this rule before - we always do one person cooks, the other clears up.

UNCLENCH!

Seriously, he cleans his way, you clean yours. The end.

Why are you getting so excited by such a non-event

YABVU.

I’m with you OP, that’d do my head in too. My life’s motto is “if you clean as you go there’s no mess to show” 🙌🏼

Nope, usually done before bed. Out of sight, out of mind. Unless you're sitting on the worktop you need to chill

Needs to be done before bedtime IMHO

Why are you getting so excited by such a non-event

^that's AIBU for you

LTB
Get a cleaner
Have a spa day

Agree with everyone else, I don't see what difference it makes if he cleans two hours later. If my partner insisted I clean at once I'd tell them that if it annoys them that much, they can do it. Otherwise let me do it in my own time (within reasonable limits obviously).

Also yes, I always clear up straight away so it’s not on my mind.

I tend to clean up the next morning or much later on that evening, as long as it gets done, I don't see the issue!

I don't think it's a big deal. Our dinner dishes are often left for the next day though, so I obviously have lower household cleanliness standards than you. As long as the cleaning is done before the next person needs the kitchen then all is good in my book.

I dislike going into the kitchen after an evening and then realising I still have all the dishes to do. So I tend to do it straight after, too.

But you do seem over worried that your oh does them to his later preference rather than yours - how come?

“if you clean as you go there’s no mess to show”

You’d faint if you came to my house

Sometimes we don’t clean up until #gasp# the NEXT DAY!

Nope often we don’t until just before bed or even the next day. If he’s cleaning up then he can choose when he does it as long as he does it

It depends. I was too full after dinner tonight so I sat on the sofa for an hour. Then my parents dropped round so basically it's all still on the kitchen side ready to be cleaned up in the morning.
Other times I'll get up and start clearing up.
I must admit it bothers me more if there's lots of pots, pans and greasy bowls to wash.

I like to clean up after everyone has finished dinner. That way there is nothing that needs doing once the kids are in bed and I can just relax.

I hate cleaning straight after. I’d always rather sit down and avoid getting indigestion. We eat relatively late (usually about 7.30) and so long as I’ve had a bit of a clear round before bed I’m happy. Dishes are usually washed the next day. So long as it gets done I think YABU to want it done to your schedule. Sorry.

As long as it gets done before he goes to bed I don't see the issue. It's annoying to come down in the morning to a messy kitchen.

Coldtatty we don't eat until 9pm! That's almost the next day!