Help - what is wrong with me?? Have taken an irrational dislike to bf face

[Swellerellamoo]

So bizarre wondered if anyone else had any wise words. We've been together for a year and I have always thought he was initially very handsome as well as then once getting to know him better and better , he is loving, generous, loyal, fun, shared interests and so on.

But recently I have been questioning the whole relationship as I have started to find the positioning of his nose completely off putting. He has a very short nose in comparison to the size of his face. I just seems the more I look at it like it's not quite right. It's making me question all my feelings about him. I'm not usually remotely body fascist and very easy going and don't understand this reaction at all. I don't know why on earth I would notice this / feel like this and welcome any advice.

Haha I will report back on the toes. I can confirm they are not webbed , as I have seen them fleetingly but for sure something isn't quite a right match between my subconscious genetics and his!!

Your body has gone off him. Your brain will catch up.

Did you count them?

I got The Ick a year into a relationship that had previously been amazing. I fancied the arse off him, the sex was phenomenal and we got on like a house on fire. Then, one day, The Ick.

I couldn't stand anything about him. His voice made my skin crawl. His hair, his teeth, his hands... he had to go in the bin

Trainer socks would seriously put me off

It sounds like relationship anxiety.

Not sure if allowed to post links here?

conscious-transitions.com/i-wish-he-was-funnier/

conscious-transitions.com/the-initiation-of-relationship-anxiety/

I once pursued a guy really hard - absolutely fancied the pants off him.

Until the pants came off him. Then suddenly, The Ick.

I pretended to be ill, waited for him to fall asleep and then snuck out of the door and got a minicab home.

There was absolutely nothing wrong with how he looked, it was far more subconscious than that. Like he didn’t smell right, but in some barely perceptible way.

That was late 90s and it weirded me out so much that I have never ever signed up to online dating - men can look great and have a fantastic personality but you can’t tell how they smell on the internet!

you can’t tell how they smell on the internet!
That's what kissing is for! You can do that on an OLD date too :)

Did you count them?

I never knew it had a name! I got it for my exH a year or so before he left. I just found I suddenly hated his mouth breathing, his walk, his face, his hairy back. I found him repulsive after 22 years together. No wonder he had an affair! I had pushed it down and would have stayed with him forever but I guess we both deserved better.

He's never let you see his toes?

Think about Charlotte and Harry in SATC- that’s the OPPOSITE of what’s happening here. She should be icked out by his sweaty head and his hairy back and his awful habits- but she isn’t.

And that’s true love. And lust. Importantly she’s in lust.

The ick is the antithesis of the above. It’s anti-lust.

In the dating bin with him!