NDN complained about ball bouncing

[Bonkersblond]

DS15 Birthday today received a much wanted Basketball hoop, DH spent the morning building it, DS enjoyed using it for 45 mins, probably some novelty factor here, anyway NDN turns up at door visibly upset and says she can’t cope with the ball bouncing, we are detached house with garages in between. Of course we immediately asked DS to stop and he has since gone out with friends. Since NDN coming round we have discussed moving hoop to end of garden, DH will put a base down. AIBU in letting DS use his hoop in short bursts of 10/15 mins until this happens, he will be so disappointed if he can’t use today of all days since he’s only just got it. I was feeling really pleased that he’s getting into more sport and encouraging him rather than nagging him to get off his Computer and phone. Feeling a bit miffed and not sure who is being unreasonable here so would like some advice.

There's a kid walks past my house about 5.30 every evening bouncing a ball... I only hear it for a total of about 30 seconds but even that is irritating!

It would drive me mad too, but short bursts would be ok. It's just irritating repetitive noise like dogs barking all the time or a squeaky trampoline !!

It is really loud and very very irritating, sorry!!!

I’m pretty certain the Spanish Inquisition used the sound is a bouncing ball in their endeavours.

It is an annoying noise. Our kids have a hoop and we have moved it onto our lawn where they enjoy it. It was on the driveway for a while and my ndn did not complaint but then her two teenage boys and her dh had loud motorbikes for years so small scale in comparison.

You are nbu at all in fact you are a bit too soft here. Your ds has a perfect right to enjoy his present on his birthday and you sound understanding people.

What is not unreasonable and what I put up with for ages was my former ndn's teenage son kicking his ball at the metal garage door for hours on end. I couldn't even put my kids to bed. In the end dh went out and told him none too politely.

I would see this as normal neighbourhood noise, and this thread has far too many people who lack grips...

OMG I'd become quite murderous if someone was constantly bouncing a basketball nearby. They are not like a normal ball and make quite a racket. It's like water torture.

Balls bouncing really are incredibly irritating. Neighbours kids over the road incessantly kicking balls against the wall. It gives me the rage but I haven't complained, don't know how I could. What I don't understand is, there's a park literally 1 minute walk from their house..why not take the ball there?!

Doesn't the ball smack loudly on the backboard of the hoop?

I can imagine the noise is pretty irritating but frankly I think provided your son is only using it during reasonable times of the day it's something that's just part and parcel of having neighbours. I suppose it depends how keen you are to stay on good terms with the neighbour but I'd let my DS keep using the hoop.

l'm afraid l'm with your neighbour on this one. l live on (what is usually) a lovely quiet estate. Kids next door, three boys, who are lovely. l don't mind hearing them playing in their garden at all, occasionally their ball comes over the adjoining fence which results in them coming to fetch it (they ask very politely), then "can we come in and see the rabbits, please?" which l don't mind at all.
However. The family next door to them have two older boys who seem football daft, they're always in sporty gear with football tops. And one of them will occasionally spend literally hours outside their house, (next door but one to me, so quite close) on the main road thoruhg the estate, kicking and bouncing a football. Playing football l don't mind. lt's the constant thudding of the football that feels like nails on a blackboard to me.
Fortunately, it's not all the time, and also, they have their house up for sale now. l'm secretly delighted.

But at least she knows that you will be accommodating now. Just encourage your DS to play in short bursts of 15 minutes, then your NDN very likely won't mind too much. She also knows that she can complain if it's too loud and you won't ignore her.

The idea of moving the basketball hoop to the other end of the garden, as far away from the NDN's house as possible, is a good one, I think.

Whisky2014 That's exactly the situation we have. The constant thudding of a ball, but there's a park two minutes away.

Does the sound echo? Repetitive noises such as a basketball bouncing off concrete would drive me bananas. If your neighbour is usually tolerant of reasonable noise but came today and was visibly upset, I would assume it is genuinely bothering her and it probably took a lot for her to come and tell you and I would move the hoop.

If you consider the sound of bouncing basket balls not irritating then perhaps you should install the hoop right up by your house. As far away from any neighbours.

Some people at the back of me have a hoop. It's not the bouncing that irritates me but the metallic clatter as the ball hits the hoop. Fortunately the novelty seems to have worn off, as I've hardly heard it recently.

Aaargh. Bloody basketball! I work nights and get home around 7.30 am. Arsehole over the road has built himself a basketball court. The kids aren't allowed to use it. Every frigging day at 10 am he's out there. Bounce fucking bounce! And he's shit at it as well.

But I've invested in decent earplugs now so I can sleep.

But he's still an arsehole

Your NDN was BU, I'd politely say its his birthday and he'll be playing with the ball in his own garden however he wants. We live in a community and need to learn to tolerate other peoples general daily noise, grass cutting, DIY, parties, sports etc are all part of life and don't last forever.

Your neighbour is BU. Family sized houses have gardens for children to play in, they should be outside playing not stuck inside looking at screens.

It's your garden and it's the middle of the day!!!
8am - no
10pm - no
Middle of the day? Bounce as much as you like!!!

Sure it's an annoying noise. But kids have to be able to play outside. I am afraid I think she just needs to put up with it.

Is there anywhere nearby he can go if he wants to play a really long game, so he could just do e.g. 30 mins at a time at home?

YANBU
It's your garden, he's not doing anything wrong, he's not using it first thing in the morning or late at night, he's not using it for hours at a time.

Bouncing balls are horrendous. I'm with your neighbour sorry!

Honestly I can't believe the people on here that think someone has a right to tell someone else what they can do in their own garden. Tell your DS to crack on, its a bloody basketball not fireworks!! If it bothers her tell her to buy some ear plugs or go live on an island with no people.

Nacreous I can honestly say I played outside loads as a kid and never bounced balls!