AIBU to not want to buy DD the same raincoat as her friend?

[mamasosa]

First time poster but in a slight pickle. My 5yo DD (who is already quite fussy regarding clothes) needs a new raincoat and yesterday described one she wanted. I googled it and it came up with one which I saw her classmate wearing the other day. I asked her where she's seen it and she said the girls name. I've shown her a few other styles but she is adamant she wants that particular one and won't entertain the idea of any other ones. It's quite a distinct looking raincoat and I feel apprehensive about buying it for her. AIBU and how would you feel if someone "copied" your dc raincoat? I have mentioned to my DD that their coats would get mixed up if they have the same one but no, it's not deterring her and tbh it's putting me right off buying her a raincoat at all. I don't talk to the mum as she's quite exclusive but our dd's are playmates. A bit trivial but would love to hear your opinion. Thanks in advance for any comments

I wouldn't care.
If it's really worrying you just brush DD off,...say "They've all sold out sorry" and get her something similar.

Buy the raincoat your kid wants.

Just buy the coat if you can afford it... Make sure you put her name in it.

If its a suitable raincoat and at a suitable price then I don't see why you wouldn't buy it tbh. She loves it, you said she can be fussy so why fight her on it if the only reason is her friend has the same one??

Since when do 5 year olds get to choose fancy raincoats?? Just buy her a practical one that you won't fret over if she tears it or loses it.

Just buy it. It's a raincoat not a baby name. 😉

I wouldn't. When I was a child I had a friend who copied every single thing I had. It upset me a lot.

I'd buy your child what she wants. Just label it clearly to avoid mix-ups.

Lol! Buy the raincoat

I wouldn’t care at all. Buying an off the rack coat wouldn’t give me the impression I had exclusive rights to it, and anyone who is precious about another child having the same coat as theirs doesn’t have enough going on in their lives, frankly.

I really wouldn’t care- I see kids wearing the same stuff as my DD- god love H&M - as long as the names clearly in it

Good god I honestly couldn’t even bring myself to care whether someone had the same coat as my DD, or if I was buying the same coat someone else had. It would not fall in my realms of ‘things to give a shit about’.

I wouldn't care buy it would annoy me if the coats were mixed up. Just buy her the gain coat

Rain coat, sorry damn spell checker.....

Is it from a general high street shop or some very obscure artisans limited edition hand delivered from the Congo kind of place?

I wouldn't unless it genuinely was because she just really, really likes it. Does she think anything special might happen friendship wise if she has the same coat as this little girl? Has she considered that this little girl might not want to be "copied"? Just trying to think of small child logic here. I wouldn't spend on a coat that might be rejected after 5 mins.

I got my DD a coat early last winter and before she'd worn it to school, a girl in her class turned up in the same coat. A week or two later it was cold enough for DD to start wearing it, and we got filthy looks from the girl and her mum all the time until the bell went and the mum stopped speaking to me for a bit

It's only a coat and there's a limited choice in our town, plus DD and I loved it and we'd already bought it when the other girl turned up in the same one.

I'd just go with the one your DD wants.

Thank you for all your responses ladies

@LemonSqueezy0 yes that is the only reason. I wouldn't want her friend to get upset about it either which I failed to mention before.

@VanillaCoconutDove lol! No, it's from Hatley.

@DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops no don't think she does think it would do something in terms of their friendship. Dd isn't unpopular and I imagine she just really likes how it looks.

Honestly cannot believe you would think twice about this !!
Buy her the raincoat if it’s in your price range and clearly label it ...

And I genuinely mean this kindly ... try not to stress and overthink about relatively trivial things and enjoy motherhood now..

The stuff you really need to stress about will come soon enough at the teen stage !!!

@Glitterblue this is exactly what I fear might happen. Atleast you had bought your dd's before the fact. I wouldn'treally want to cause upset over a raincoat

@babbi I know you are totally right. I've made a habit of worrying over these things that really shouldn't matter. Thanks for the reminder

Kids love having the same things as their friends. Unless she's copying every single thing of this girls it would nt occur to me to even be an issue. Wonder if it's more a middle class thing? Honestly in a class there can be easily 3 or 4 of the same coat or bag.

To much thought regarding a rain coat, she likes it, you have the funds to buy it, I don’t see the issue.

Yabu
Let the child have the coat
They'll probably be delighted they have the same one

It's just a coat. But it if she wants it and you can afford it. I would not be upset at all. I think there will always be some children/adults wearing the same item of clothing, as many buy from the local high street shops/supermarket. Make sure you label it well, so they dont get mixed up. Once a new class mate took home my daughter's coat by mistake, as they were identical, only one size different. Because my daughters names was in it, they exchanged them. They actually became best friends after this!