AIBU to not want to buy DD the same raincoat as her friend?

[mamasosa]

First time poster but in a slight pickle. My 5yo DD (who is already quite fussy regarding clothes) needs a new raincoat and yesterday described one she wanted. I googled it and it came up with one which I saw her classmate wearing the other day. I asked her where she's seen it and she said the girls name. I've shown her a few other styles but she is adamant she wants that particular one and won't entertain the idea of any other ones. It's quite a distinct looking raincoat and I feel apprehensive about buying it for her. AIBU and how would you feel if someone "copied" your dc raincoat? I have mentioned to my DD that their coats would get mixed up if they have the same one but no, it's not deterring her and tbh it's putting me right off buying her a raincoat at all. I don't talk to the mum as she's quite exclusive but our dd's are playmates. A bit trivial but would love to hear your opinion. Thanks in advance for any comments

I can't see the problem. My dd has the same bag as most of her friends.

As a compromise, could you perhaps get a similar one... at five am guessing it’s one of the ones with say strawberries or whatever on, so if friend has strawberries you get her the ponies or whatever

You are over thinking this. Just buy your DD the rain coat and clearly label it.
If the other Mum gets snotty about it it's her problem, you can always say you didn't know her DD had the same.

Just buy it

God help you when your DC is 14 and wants to turn into a little clone of all their friends if you feel like this now!!

It's just a coat. DD had the same coat as 3 of her friends at school.
Just make sure it's well labeled!

When my dd was little she had a friend who copied virtually every item of clothing she had, and it really grated on her. It was the final straw when in the last year of primary school dd had her hair cut into a short stacked bob, and her friend did the same. She hasn’t spoken to her since and they’re now in their 20s. Dd felt totally smothered by it

I wouldn't worrying about 'copying' the friend. It's normally the occasional Mum who is childish and doesn't like other children having the same things as their precious angel. Get the coat if that's the one she loves.

JudgeRindersMinder it’s one coat.

When i was a child our local "cheap Jack's" sold a red white and blue striped dress with a side split. I'm not kidding every girl in the class had that dress. I'm still traumatised by my mum's resistance. I did get it in the end but the damage was done by then.

If it's suitable and you would have bought it if you didn't know about the other girl, but get it. There are only so many affordable girls' raincoats on the market. It's just a coincidence. You can Fashion/trends are all about copying anyway.

As long as it's a one off and your DD doesn't start wanting everything her friend has I don't see a problem. Buy her the coat and it'll probably finally stop raining anyway ,sod's law

Huh? Is this a thing? We live close to an m&S and Gap and 95% of the kids at DS1 and 2’s school all have one of 4-5 coats. Literally no one has ever commented on this. Don’t they go into school, take it off, and wear it when they come out?
Or is this the kind of thing mum of boys don’t worry about? Although I have never seen the mums of girls worry about this stuff to be honest as well...

Wish this was me, my daughter is asking for vans you can design online for 90 euro because her friend has them. She went for a sleepover for same girls birthday this weekend and I forked out 30 euro as they were all getting matching pyjamas and outfit for the next day! We all live on the same street and I get on great with other mums but said to them if there's another birthday sleepover I wouldn't be getting into this and they both agreed.

Just buy the raincoat if she needs one.

I would just say that it had sold out (especially if it is still full price as I would not spend £40 on a raincoat for a 5 year old). There will be a similar one some that is cheaper, won’t risk offending the other mum and would be matchup enough for your dd to like it.

Thanks all your comments have been very helpful! I have just spotted the coat in question on sale at another outlet I think we'll get it and then get a super cheap one for dd to wear to school. She's going to need one for the summer holidays and dd2 will eventually wear it to school so wouldn't be a total waste. Have had a chat with dd about her friend possibly getting upset and she's agreed that she doesn't want that. I know it's not a big deal but as it's such a distinct coat I don't want to ruffle any feathers or upset the other child as some of you have mentioned. Hope you are all having a fab Sunday xx

If it's the horse or shark ones, they're on sale just now! buy the coat!

I honestly don't think a small child is going to be upset about someone copying their style, more likely to be pleased at being coat mates

@Crapplepie it's not but don't worry I'm on it Have located it and it's in my basket at 30% off

Why would a 5 year old child get annoyed if someone else has the same coat? My ds loves dinosaurs as many other children in his nursery. There are at least 3 with the same dinosaurs coat.
Children don't care about that, they just want what they like. It's the adults that complicate things.

@KinderSurpriseBump @Runmoreorless I didn't think so either but can never be too sure. Guilty overcomplicating adult here

@Aprillygirl definitely not a recurring thing as I would be very uncomfortable with that, she just really likes rainbow colored unicorns. And if it will make this rain stop it will be worth it!! 😅

If it's suitable and in your price range then I would get her the one she wants. Children often want the same as their friends. If a child is upset by their friend having the same item of clothing then they need to be told to get over it.

@Myheartbelongsto a glimpse into my future

@JudgeRindersMinder that sounds awful

@Fatted I'm dreading it tbh