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To not get my baby anything for Christmas this year

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Mommmytobe19 · 15/06/2019 08:34

So I’m due December 1st and I’m debating whether or not to get my new born baby some
Presents for Christmas this year. The youngest he or she would possibly be is 2 weeks old roughly. I’m telling myself that I should save the money and baby will have all of its new things and gifts from the baby shower but one half of me is saying buy it a personalised dressing gown or my first Christmas gifts! It is my babies first Christmas and I’ll obviously never be able to buy anything with ‘first Christmas’ on again and I don’t want to miss out on the magic (albeit baby won’t know what’s going on) and I don’t want my little one to miss out.

I was thinking of getting the following:
Personalised dressing gown
My first Christmas Eve box (soft toy, pjs)

And that’s where I’ve got to.

What do you guys think?

OP posts:
BillywilliamV · 15/06/2019 08:36

Babies don’t really need dressing gowns. Why not get a bit of art or something, but really I wouldn’t bother. Get yourself something nice.

lazymare · 15/06/2019 08:37

It is June

AJPTaylor · 15/06/2019 08:39

Yabu. It's June.
Of course you will get your baby gifts for Xmas.

ILoveEurovision · 15/06/2019 08:39

I would say don't bother. However, a relative got us a Santa suit for our DS and we got some lovely photos of him wearing it. He won't fit into it again this year though! Maybe pick one up second hand on eBay?

Purplestorm83 · 15/06/2019 08:39

Can you get a personalised soft toy for example? Baby will probably play with it and it’s a nice keepsake. Really wouldn’t bother with dressing gown, will be a big faff to get on. Could get a personalised baby grow

cestlavielife · 15/06/2019 08:40

Your baby won't care
You will get given loads of baby stuff
Get yourself a momento like a personalised bauble

Original poster
Mommmytobe19 · 15/06/2019 08:40

Yes I know what month it is. I’m a single mum so will need to start buying early (to be fair I start early every year to avoid the rush and spread the cost). There’s a few other things like I want to move house all of which costs money.

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ILoveEurovision · 15/06/2019 08:42

There’s a few other things like I want to move house all of which costs money.

Then definitely don't waste money on things your baby will use once and not remember.

If there are any toys you were going to give them anyway, those could be the Christmas presents.

tigertiger10 · 15/06/2019 08:43

Don’t bother, don’t even bother thinking about it.

ILoveEurovision · 15/06/2019 08:43

I should add the baby won't be interested at all in toys though at 2 weeks. DS doesn't even really have any interest in soft toys at 8 months!

TheGoogleMum · 15/06/2019 08:44

I had a November baby and didn't get anything. Relatives got presents and we'd not long had birth presents for her. Baby doesn't know difference. I'll get her something this year though!

IVEgottheDECAF · 15/06/2019 08:44

I would get a couple of nice keep sake bits, bauble, christmas eve box etc

We are expecting dc5 early september so he will be 3-4 months at christmas, i will probably do similar

CruellaFeinberg · 15/06/2019 08:45

If you must, maybe a tree bauble, first Christmas or something?

Tellmemoretellmemore · 15/06/2019 08:45

Personally I think "my first Christmas" stuff is totally pointless - after 2 weeks you'll just stick it in a box as clutter.

I don't think dressing gowns are useful until they can walk.

Maybe get him/her some stuff he/she actually needs or can use and that you'd need to get anyway? Clothes, books etc.

And maybe get one nice memento item. But it's for you reallyWink

Congratulations btw!

hammeringinmyhead · 15/06/2019 08:46

My DS was born in Nov. We got a personalised dino soft toy and his grandparents gave him money for his new bank account. You only need a token gift if that.

Original poster
Mommmytobe19 · 15/06/2019 08:46

The keepsakes are a great idea and thanks for the advice on a dressing gown ha ha might go with the personalised baby grow instead

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PostNotInHaste · 15/06/2019 08:47

Well I think you’re very sensible to think of spreading the cost and in December when people are complaining that they have no money people go on about they should have thought about it before.

You’ll have lots of things at that point and I think the suggestion of a personalised bauble is a lovely one. Dressing gown share more bother than they are worth at that age. What I would do is open a savings account and put a few pounds on there that you would have spent.

Young children don’t cost much the first few years after getting the main things they need but at some point things start getting much more expensive and I think if you’ve put a little bit away there will be a time when you’re pleased you have.

bridgetreilly · 15/06/2019 08:49

I wouldn't, honestly. I think the 'My first Christmas' things are naff, and there won't be anything that the baby needs or wants. And really, what's magical for a 2 week old? Just relax about it and wait until they're old enough to start enjoying Christmas.

keepingbees · 15/06/2019 08:49

I wouldn't get much, save it for the years they will know what's going on and want toys.
I'd go for a nice first Christmas keepsake and maybe something like a nice play mat that baby can lay on and use straight away but will last until older, some baby books as you can start on those very young, or a nice soft toy they can use and keep.

AyBeeCee10 · 15/06/2019 08:49

Yanbu. It would be absolutely silly of you to waste money on something she wouldnt even be aware of or care about. My ds was 4 months at his first Christmas and we just bought a little toy and an outfit. He didn't care for anything except his milk and sleep!

Yogurtcoveredricecake · 15/06/2019 08:49

I say this kindly. Save your money. The gifts you've suggested are for older children, wait a couple of years till baby can appreciate them or need them. Don't put pressure on yourself.

There's always some super cute Christmas baby grows or outfits, or a baby first Christmas toy, buy one of those. A neighbour brought us a personalised bauble unexpectedly last year and I love it.

Tootyfrooty35 · 15/06/2019 08:50

My first was less than two weeks old at Christmas, born at 42+, and I didn't get her anything although I now wish I'd got something personalised like a bauble for the tree or similar for her but don't bother with actual gifts for baby imo.
Enjoy... It's a lovely time to have a baby and mine loves having her birthday near Christmas 😊

Hedgyhoggy · 15/06/2019 08:50

1st Christmas decoration for the tree and start a tradition x

SheldonSaysSo · 15/06/2019 08:53

How about a nice Christmas decoration with baby's first Christmas? Either an ornament or tree decoration which you can get out every year. It shouldn't cost too much and means you'll have something saying 'Baby's first Christmas'

AlmostAlwyn · 15/06/2019 08:53

Seconding a tree bauble! There's some really nice personalised ones on Etsy. That's all I got my baby for his first Christmas and he was 8 months!