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To not get my baby anything for Christmas this year

155 replies

Mommmytobe19 · 15/06/2019 08:34

So I’m due December 1st and I’m debating whether or not to get my new born baby some
Presents for Christmas this year. The youngest he or she would possibly be is 2 weeks old roughly. I’m telling myself that I should save the money and baby will have all of its new things and gifts from the baby shower but one half of me is saying buy it a personalised dressing gown or my first Christmas gifts! It is my babies first Christmas and I’ll obviously never be able to buy anything with ‘first Christmas’ on again and I don’t want to miss out on the magic (albeit baby won’t know what’s going on) and I don’t want my little one to miss out.

I was thinking of getting the following:
Personalised dressing gown
My first Christmas Eve box (soft toy, pjs)

And that’s where I’ve got to.

What do you guys think?

OP posts:
janetforpresident · 15/06/2019 11:40

Yes, except when stuff is NOT Christmas themed can be passed on to other babies or given to the charity shop for others to actually wear confused

Charity shops sell plenty of Christmas themed clothing. My 3 kids wore the same Christmas babygro despite all being born at different times. I just made it fit!! Obviously this depends on birthdays but 1 in 12 babies are born in December so it's hardly beyond the realms of possibility that the op will have someone she can pass her stuff on to

BlueBrushing · 15/06/2019 11:41

Ah, of course you should get them a little present!

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Mommmytobe19 · 15/06/2019 11:41

Baby doesn’t have any older siblings either sorry missed that part off, it will be my fathers first grandchild (mums 3rd) and be a first niece or nephew for my brothers but second for my sisters so I’m sure they will buy something if they see fit (their choice) I’ve actually told my family not to buy anything for the baby as I will probably struggle for space but if they insists I suppose a small deposit into a savings account as pp suggested is a wonderful idea.

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Whatsername7 · 15/06/2019 12:12

Good advice above about looking for online sale items- there will be Christmas bits in there as its June. Argos a pretty good too - can you tell I start early?

NewAccount270219 · 15/06/2019 12:54

Nonsense. Clothes last more than two weeks at newborn stage. Ridiculous to suggest otherwise.

Maybe DS was unusual - he was born a bit small and then piled weight on - but I promise his didn't. He went from tiny baby to 0-3 month clothes in four weeks, with newborn/0-1 month stuff in the middle. He went from 9th to 75th centile...

DrDentyst · 15/06/2019 13:29

she'll be neither the first or the last person to have a newborn in December

I posted earlier to say don't bother with presents but I'll add in response to the above that I was due before Xmas. I received numerous 'baby first Christmas 2018 items as gifts. My dd was born after Xmas. The items were pointless because it wasn't her first Xmas. The babygrows purchased were also too small (I would have used them regardless) and went straight into the sale for pennies. I can't give items with BFC2018 to a charity shop because who would buy them?!

Mamamooligans · 15/06/2019 14:10

She won't have a clue what's going on and at 2 weeks old won't even be able to play with a rattle, not alone open anything! If you were going to get them anything, I'd get weaning stuff, clothes in the next size up or maybe a keepsake. But I wouldn't say necessary at all. I hate the consumerism thats so deeply incorporated into society, you don't have to buy things just because the media/shops tell you its that time of year to buy stuff it. Especially for a baby so young. I only know 3 people who Christmas is actually a religious holiday for!

40andfeelingit · 15/06/2019 15:17

We bought both of ours wooden advent calendars, the ones you put your own chocs in, and a first Christmas bauble for the tree. They get used again every year and a nice memory for them without wasting it on stuff that will never be used again.

ElizaPancakes · 15/06/2019 15:20

Honestly don’t give it a second thought.

Ask a friend or family member if they’ll get a little Santa or elf suit for the day and just concentrate on the stuff you need. Your baby won’t know or care. Maybe a ‘first Christmas’ bauble would be a nice idea.

MaxNormal · 15/06/2019 15:28

You're giving her the gift of life Grin

bellabasset · 15/06/2019 15:34

I would buy your baby a tree ornament(s) every year and as s/he gets older they can have them on their own little tree. I have bought Steiff year bears for family children when they are born. These have the year embroidered on their foot and are suitable for babies. The bear might be bigger than the baby.

formerbabe · 15/06/2019 15:35

Nah, don't bother!

EdtheBear · 15/06/2019 16:26

For the people who say "don't bother". What age do you start buying Christmas gifts ?When do babies get their first toys etc?

Thurmanmurman · 15/06/2019 16:26

I wouldn’t. My DD was 12 weeks old on her first Christmas and the pile of gifts she had was ridiculous! Obviously she had no clue what was happening and fell asleep while we were opening them. Why not put the money away in a savings account or treat yourself and your partner.

Cuppa12345 · 15/06/2019 16:30

Babies get first toys when they are born and for their birthday and Christmas from others. We aren't saying don't give them presents but there's no point wasting money you don't have on a baby that won't care for tat that won't last.

moofolk · 15/06/2019 16:34

Just adding to the noise of PPs saying no, don't bother. I saw the title of your thread and thought your baby would be a year or 18 months and I would still say don't bother. They won't get it, appreciate it or understand

Do something nice for yourself. Thanks

December2019 · 15/06/2019 16:36

I think this first Christmas should be about your enjoyment too at the end of the day! You've grown this gorgeous baby, birthed this gorgeous baby so you deserve a lovely day and if that means buying nice baubles & a Christmas outfit and baby's first gifts then you do that hun I'm not religious so Christmas to me is about spending time with my family and my baby!
I'm due my Christmas baby number 2 and I'll do exactly the same thing as I did last year and if that means buying more baubles & Christmas mementos then that's what I'll be doing 😊

Original poster
Mommmytobe19 · 15/06/2019 17:00

@December2019

Yes you are so right I suppose there’s no right or wrong and I’ll get him/her a little something xx

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Purpleartichoke · 15/06/2019 17:23

Tree ornament
Small soft toy that can get destroyed, not an heirloom.

Dd was 9 months old for her first Christmas. We barely spent any money on her. Just a small toy, something practical we needed anyway, and some cute pjs.

There is something magical about those early Christmases. Even if your child doesn’t know what is going on, it will be meaningful for you. Don’t buy a ton, but have something for baby. When the time comes, it will mean something to you.

Grumblepants · 15/06/2019 17:41

I got ds a personalised book of 'the night before Christmas ' and we read it together every Christmas eve. Really cheap and hopefully something he will love forever.

GrandTheftWalrus · 15/06/2019 17:47

All I got my dd for her first Christmas was a letter from Santa, a 1st Christmas stocking and a card.

She was 6 weeks old.

The following year I class as her first real Christmas as she had dinner, opened and played with presents etc.

crosstalk · 15/06/2019 17:50

OP agree with PP's posts about something in a savings account. Also a wooden advent calendar - saves spending on all the rubbish that comes later. And a nice play mat that keeps them entertained - it neednt be new but should be superclean. Just take photos. Good luck and enjoy!

Starlight456 · 15/06/2019 17:51

I have no idea what I bought my Ds for his first Christmas except a personalised bauble so yes don’t bother . If people ask get next size clothes.

hopelessatthinkingupusernames · 15/06/2019 17:58

My first was 11wks old for his first Christmas. I got a jumperoo in the Black Friday sales and a couple of little bits for him. Bits I would have got anyway but Christmas was a good excuse!

Chilledout11 · 15/06/2019 18:02

We got ours lullaby cds (probably not used anyone with Spotify etc) and some lovely books. You could get them a nice bowl and spoon- stuff you will buy anyway.

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