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To not get my baby anything for Christmas this year

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Mommmytobe19 · 15/06/2019 08:34

So I’m due December 1st and I’m debating whether or not to get my new born baby some
Presents for Christmas this year. The youngest he or she would possibly be is 2 weeks old roughly. I’m telling myself that I should save the money and baby will have all of its new things and gifts from the baby shower but one half of me is saying buy it a personalised dressing gown or my first Christmas gifts! It is my babies first Christmas and I’ll obviously never be able to buy anything with ‘first Christmas’ on again and I don’t want to miss out on the magic (albeit baby won’t know what’s going on) and I don’t want my little one to miss out.

I was thinking of getting the following:
Personalised dressing gown
My first Christmas Eve box (soft toy, pjs)

And that’s where I’ve got to.

What do you guys think?

OP posts:
Cuppycakes · 15/06/2019 10:44

DD was 9 days old for her first Christmas. We picked her up a few little bits like first bauble for the Xmas tree, a my first Christmas baby grow, and a personalised stocking. There memories and thing that can be re used.

MRex · 15/06/2019 10:44

My first Christmas bib and decorations, plus a festive outfit will be nice for photos. Wrap up your baby gym for tummy time, that will be a lovely present to open and just the right age to enjoy it.

agirlhasnonameX · 15/06/2019 10:44

Mine was born on Dec 4th and I bought a few practical outfits and a keepsake tree decoration.

She got clothes from most of the extended family.

I think it's really silly when they are completely oblivious and a waste of money. If you do end up buying something I'd get things you can use/need.

Would also recommend getting all your shopping done before December, I had it all to do with cluster feeding, sleepless baby in tow 😂

Shelbybear · 15/06/2019 10:49

I'm due 14th December and I've already said similar. My husband was 😮 you need to buy baby Xmas gifts. We will buy some stuff but nothing big and expensive as we already have lots of stuff as this is our second baby. All family will buy Xmas gifts for the baby too as well as getting new baby gifts so we really won't need anything!

Get things that you may have bought anyway. So Sophie the Giraffe for teething. Some Lamaze toys or a baby gym, donut ring etc would be a gd idea if you don't have one already.

mummmy2017 · 15/06/2019 10:49

Why not put £1 a week in a box and decide Xmas week if you need something for baby. Congratulations by the way.

Wearywithteens · 15/06/2019 10:54

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December2019 · 15/06/2019 11:01

@Mommmytobe19 hey there!
Last year I had my LO on December 23rd and I got a baby's 1st Christmas stocking and put little cute things like Christmas baby socks, little reindeer teddy and first Christmas outfit (it was mainly for me so I didn't feel like I wasn't getting him something) he won't remember but I will... it's all in his memory box so he can look through it when he's older, he's also got a little snow-globe and a bauble, little keepsakes that will be nice to look through when they're older and not as cuddly lol
You won't be able to do baby's 1st Christmas again so why not get a few nice things that's just personal preference though 😊

Yabbers · 15/06/2019 11:01

Two weeks after baby is born, are you really thinking you’ll be full on doing Christmas?

And please, can people stop with the throwaway novelty outfits for Christmas. There’s enough waste in the world without that tat going to landfill too.

December2019 · 15/06/2019 11:04

@Yabbers I can't tell your a joy at Christmas!

NewAccount270219 · 15/06/2019 11:06

And please, can people stop with the throwaway novelty outfits for Christmas. There’s enough waste in the world without that tat going to landfill too.

Again, would agree with this in general, but a couple of weeks' wear is how much wear a newborn gets out of a baby grow whether or not it's Christmas themed.

JenMumma · 15/06/2019 11:07

Hi 👋 congratulations! Our baby is due on Halloween and I don't think we'll be getting him anything except a token, teddy bear momento and a sleepsuit for nice pictures 🙂. I remember from having my first WHOS now 11, they'll be chuffed with just watching the Christmas tree lights 😁 xX

NewAccount270219 · 15/06/2019 11:07

And OP doesn't say she's hosting, which would indeed be ambitious (though doable if she has a partner who could do most of it) - assuming she's going to someone else's house for Christmas day, though, why couldn't she do 'full on Christmas'?

WhiteRedRose · 15/06/2019 11:15

Babies dont need dressing gowns. Around 3 is when you start buying christmas presents tbh as before then, they are mostly interested in the paper and the cardboard. We got our DS a couple of books to open each year as he loves books and that was it. He'll be 2.5 this christmas and he'll be getting the same and maybe a balloon in a box 🤷 because that's what he'll love.

Betty777 · 15/06/2019 11:23

Again, would agree with this in general, but a couple of weeks' wear is how much wear a newborn gets out of a baby grow whether or not it's Christmas themed

Yes, except when stuff is NOT Christmas themed can be passed on to other babies or given to the charity shop for others to actually wear Confused

PLEASE can people stop buying into the idea that we need to celebrate and mark every event/milestone by buying more novelty stuff. Thought we were finally learning to get past that?

OP your new baby will be happiest with a nice toy/thing they can actually use - like the playmat a PP suggested - and you will see their enjoyment of it for 6-12 months so it's a win-win and a good use of money if it's tight

NewAccount270219 · 15/06/2019 11:25

Yes, except when stuff is NOT Christmas themed can be passed on to other babies or given to the charity shop for others to actually wear confused

Christmas isn't exactly a one-off event? If OP wants to buy a second hand one then she'll find plenty available (though it'll be much easier close to Christmas) - she'll be neither the first or the last person to have a newborn in December!

Mryog12 · 15/06/2019 11:26

Instead of wasting our money on plastic tat and clothes the baby grew out of straight away we got a small personalised comforter and opened a savings account for relatives to deposit in to if they chose, it's working fab and come 21 dd should have a nice amount squirrelled away x

pikapikachu · 15/06/2019 11:30

Will baby have a sibling? An older sibling may be upset if FC doesn't leave a gift for the baby. You could wrap up some clothes and other necessities in the next size up so that the sibling doesn't worry that baby was naughty.
Don't get hung up on the first Christmas thing. You'll find each Christmas after this get increasingly awesome as the child grows up.

Yabbers · 15/06/2019 11:33

Again, would agree with this in general, but a couple of weeks' wear is how much wear a newborn gets out of a baby grow whether or not it's Christmas themed.
Nonsense. Clothes last more than two weeks at newborn stage. Ridiculous to suggest otherwise.

I can't tell your a joy at Christmas!
Assuming this was supposed to read as an insult to me, it is entirely possible to have a great Christmas without buying throwaway tat.

Whatsername7 · 15/06/2019 11:34

My kids wear their Christmas themed PJs all year round. My eldest Christmas jumper has lasted 3 years because she only wears it in December, this year it will go to my best friends lg and then come back to me for my youngest. I recycle all of my kids old clothing, or donate to charity shops/clothes banks. You can be environmentally conscious and still partake in the fun.

janetforpresident · 15/06/2019 11:37

you could get a nice empty photo album and put some photos of their first Christmas in it. A cute bauble that you wrap up and put on the tree for them on Christmas morning.

Just any toy that you are getting anyway. They won't need toys before that so maybe a buggy toy and a teether and a soft comforter that kind of thing. Also just wrap up some age 3-6 months clothes.

Have a modest limit of say £30. Baby won't care. It will sleep and poo most of the day.

I get why you want to buy something though and think some posters are being mean

MRex · 15/06/2019 11:37

My DS still wears the one pair of his Christmas trousers that he hasn't grown out of, they're cute. The others are with his cousin for this year's Christmas. The Christmas jumper that will still fit him this year is in his nappy bag as his emergency jumper. Being wasteful is about what you do with clothes, not what design they have on them.

Original poster
Mommmytobe19 · 15/06/2019 11:38

Thanks for all the great advice some really good suggestions for keep sakes and things to use year in year out.

It is tricky having a baby near Christmas time as I agree with a pp who said they didn’t want to feel like they wasn’t getting their little one anything for Christmas. the magic of this Christmas (until the baby is old enough to know what its about) is secretly for me! I won’t get another chance to have my first Christmas with my first baby (who is so longed for) and I want to make it count!

I’d much rather start early in the year (I don’t know why everyone doesn’t) as someone pointed out it wouldn’t be great trying to Christmas shop whilst trying to breast feed my little baby!

Love the idea of the wooden advent calendars and stockings! Maybe I’m just super duper excited and impatient to meet my little one but it’s not a bad thing at all 🥰

Thank you all x

OP posts:
BabyDueDecember2019 · 15/06/2019 11:39

Christmas tree decoration

user1486131602 · 15/06/2019 11:39

Just get a baby bro with 1st Christmas. Then buy all the things for
1 st Christmas in the sales for the next year!
I was 2 weeks old at Xmas and my parents chose the Xmas I was 1 as my 1 st Christmas!
Congrats!

GlamGiraffe · 15/06/2019 11:40

Easch of my children had a christmas decoration as a baby, as did my sublings and i( long before the baby's first christmas baubles, just a family traditional where we were ach given one on our first christmas) i still have mine many many years later, its rwally precioys to me and my k7ds have theirs. Its lovely you can getvthe with a date on now and theycdtill all get put on our tree. It's the tree of our family.
You be got to have a 1st Christmas babygrow IMO the baby is the best ever vmas present you'll have!!

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