"If a husband wants his wife to raise his 4 children, service him in the bedroom AND keep house, then I think he probably needs to hire an assistant."
I gave up a ft career to take up a pt flexible job when dd arrived. I see childcare, keeping house and admin as firmly within my domestic job spec. I may not have much time to do all of it properly, esp since dd and ds are below 5. But if so, I try to delegate the workload, eg to cleaner, au pair, dh (when he is home, he does ironing). I use nurseries. But I do almost all of the menu planning, food shopping, admin, finances. I know the ins-and-outs of what happens at the nursery, organise the thank you cards, costumes, cake-baking, sewing of name tags, what-have-you. I budget, shop with coupons, try to get best deals, ebay etc
I pull the strings at home and dh leaves it to me to tell him if something needs doing.
That was the raison-d'etat of my justifying the drop in salary to go parttime, so my dh could concentrate on his career.
I know Xenia, you don't approve. That's ok - I wanted our lives to be less stressful and for dh's time at home to be more child-centred, rather than chore-centred.
So I wonder, those of you who are SAHMs, do you not see all this as your job spec as well?