Refusing prom bus money

[purpleboy]

My DD has organized her school prom (entirely on her own)
She has also organized a 16 seater Limo for her group of friends (about 9) and then invited anyone else who wasn't going with another group totaling 16 people. The cost was £45 per person.
Everyone paid then 2 people dropped out. DD was told they couldn't get a refund from the company so the 2 people didn't get their money back. They understood no problem. Then a 3rd dropped out she however wants her money back. She has been told that the company won't refund therefore there is nothing DD can do.

The girls is sending very abusive personal messages to DD demanding she pays her back?

If DD pays her back it would be out of her own pocket. I don't think this is right as the girl could still go if she wanted, she has just decided she would rather go with another group.

So is DD/myself unreasonable is saying we can't refund her?

TIA

I am somewhat amused that the Limo company has entered into a contract with a 16 year old!
Many moons ago when older dds were at that age I flat out refused to organise and sign for limos because it is not just the upfront fee you were also on the hook for but any damage e.g. vomit and any consequential loss if it needed extensive cleaning, e.g. lost bookings.

I am somewhat amused that the Limo company has entered into a contract with a 16 year old!
Many moons ago when older dds were at that age I flat out refused to organise and sign for limos because it is not just the upfront fee you were also on the hook for but any damage e.g. vomit and any consequential loss if it needed extensive cleaning, e.g. lost bookings.

Absolutely. It seems odd that they didn't make sure that OP's DD was over 18 before asking her to sign the contract. If OP did it for her then she is actually the one who is liable.

The school won't organize yr11 prom only the yr 13 one. It is left to the students to organize. When DD started she was doing it with another girl, then the other girl dropped out due to revision DD asked but no one else in the year group wanted to help so DD was left doing it on her own. I've run an event planning business for 20 years so to be fair DD is very clued up on how to organize things, I left her to it 100% and she has done an amazing job.
The limo was done entirely by her but payment was made on my card once she had collected all the money in.

From the start there was a WhatsApp group with everyone who was in the limo. Everything has been transparent and they all had input on what they wanted, how much they wanted to pay etc.. so everyone knew that it was non refundable and all agreed this, we have all the texts which have been shown back to the girl, every though she still has the chat on her phone. She just won't have it. The thinks she is entitled to the money back as she is no longer using the limo. If it was an unavoidable scenario I would certainly consider trying to help her get the money back, but as it's just a change of mind and the company are refusing to refund I don't feel there is anything else we can do.

I also paid an insurance out of my own pocket to cover any 'damages' although I'm confident there won't be any. They are a really great group of kids.

Purpleboy if your daughter organised this whole thing herself, ensure it goes on her personal statement when she's applying for uni - networking, organisation timekeeping etc are all useful skills.

If it was general visitors then I'd expect them to deal with it as it is my dogs home. However, if its for business reasons then get a lockable kennel for when you have visitors

It sounds like you've been beyond reasonable here. I hope you manage to calm things down by dealing directly with the mother (I mean frankly I imagine she's a nightmare too, but you can but try).

You and your daughter are far braver than me - a group of 16yo's is like herding cats.

@Omfgareyouforreal wrong thread I think!