To think green is unisex?

[Katiem1234]

I'm pregnant with my first baby, a girl. Green is my favourite colour and I've bought a fair few green baby clothes, I always thought green was a very unisex colour? However a friend has asked me why I've bought so many boy clothes and I presume jokingly said she takes it I was hoping for a boy... We've also got pinks, purples, yellows, creams etc.
Green is totally fine for a girl right? People aren't going to assume I just wanted a boy so dressed them in 'boys' clothes?

I'm sure girls in 'boys' tops dont think they are Male. The tops in that section seem to be dinosaurs, hedgehogs, tigers etc. Not really male. Also trains and diggers. Why cant girls like diggers?

I bought a fair few green unisex items when pregnant with my first baby and painted the nursery green aswell!

Honestly don't worry. There's always some comment about something when you've got kids. My DS was our first son after DDs, we loved buying him fun 'boy clothes', but he has the longest eye lashes, huge eyes and he had longish curly hair... so even in head to toe boy gear he was very often referred to as 'she'. I just laughed it off.
Green is fine, loads of girls wear green, and boys!

@bluebluezoo can you really sink in a frilly swim suit?

did have pink washable nappies

You see pink nappies shouldn’t even be a thing!

@MorondelaFrontera actually there was a study done not that long ago where they dressed a 6 mth old boy in a dress and a girl in ‘boy clothes’ and got various people - including some who worked in childcare settings - to play with them. Most people not only gave girlier toys to the baby they thought was a girl but they found they were less likely to pick ‘her’ up or sort of rough play, swing round, put ‘her’ in the ride along toys etc. It was really fascinating to see how people automatically treated the ‘girl’ more gently than the ‘boy’.

@bluebluezoo can you really sink in a frilly swim suit?

Non swimmers will, yes.

If you ever did the lifesaving badges where you have to swim in pyjamas, or if you’ve ever been swimming in clothes you’ll know it’s much, much harder to stay afloat with wet material dragging you down.

Add to that loose material can snag, catch on filters etc.

Other than that it’s the simple fact that boys swim suits are designed primarily to swim in. Lycra, streamlined. Girls get, yet again, the strong message that looking pretty is more important than being able to do the activity. A girl in that swimsuit will find swimming very difficult, feeding the mindset that girls just aren’t very good at sport.

Pink nappies are what you get when a nappy sneaks in with the red wash!

I dressed mine in all the colours, and was very happy about it :)

My 11 year old purposely shops in the boys sections. Has done for a while.

She prefers hedgehogs, skulls and dinosaurs to princesses and unicorns. She also likes dark purple and green, not pastel.

Her choice. She feels restricted by the choice in girls stuff- i know many say there’s more choice but not if you dislike stereotypical “girly” colours and patterns.

She is fairly strong willed and is able to challenge those who question her sex- and it happens fairly often.

If the parents had recognised that there are boys and girls colours

There aren't. HTH.

KatharinaRosalie

If there aren't, why are we even have a thread about it?
The fact that you don't agree with something doesn't make it disappear. HTH you catch up now

Boys get all the fun colours.

Didn't know what we were having first time so I just brought what was cute. Bright oranges, reds, greens were all in the boys. Thry were lovely, with lions and ducks and dinosaurs on. Everything in the girls was very pretty frilly princess so I didn't bother.

DS came out a boy but a DD would have totly rocked an orange lion baby grow

My daughter wore green! I definitely think its unisex. I never put her in pink or anything frilly. She wore mainly babygrows and later jeans and dungarees.

@MorondelaFrontera - If there aren't, why are we even have a thread about it?

Because there are people around who are so invested in propping up the patriarchy that they insist cultural norms are in fact biologically based.

You still haven't answered my question about how, if colours are intrinsically linked to sex or gender, the colours associated with male/female vary over time and from culture to culture.

The fact that you believe something doesn't make it true. HTH you catch up now

MorondelaFrontera

Because some people realise that children are being contained by the manufactures and actually want nice practical non pink clothes for their daughters

They want them to be running and climbing, have dry feet and feel the freedoms of childhood

There’s nothing more sad than little girls preening themselves and worrying about their frock getting caught on a branch or covered in paint

Also some of us want our children to follow what they want to do, be who they want to be.

My child should be free to wear a blue coat, have long hair, ballet dance, be a nuclear scientist, a surfer, a nurse, without society telling them they can’t because “that’s not for your gender”.

Anyone who says a girl can’t wear a blue coat is an arse.

@MorondelaFrontera why is it so important to you that children stick to their stereotypes?

I was looking after a couple of children recently, and I was quite sad because the girl had a huge bedroom, but she had literally nowhere that she could do anything apart from dress up and put on makeup. Nowhere for putting books, no desk or table for drawing, painting, making things or even doing homework. But a huge pink dressing table thing that was totally impractical for using for anything else.

I am female and have managed to do many things without having a huge movie star dressing table. However, I have often needed a simple table and these are infinitely adaptable. With a mirror, a simple table can even be used for creative makeup.

No doubt she was delighted with the fairytale furniture- but parents also have to consider that their children need practical furniture, clothes etc that allow them to develop normally.

what's even sadder is little girls not being allowed to wear what they want because it doesn't fit in their parents narrow-minded agenda.

You can have a girl who loves pink and unicorn, and dresses and tutu and long hair, and climb trees just as as her brothers. You can buy waterproof shoes and boots in any colour of the rainbow for a start.

Being girly has never stopped anyone doing anything and achieving anything, that's is exactly the point. You are still a girl.

I am allowed to tell my kids that boys wear boys clothes and girls wear girls clothes without people commenting, because, once again, it's none of their business.

I would not tell your son he looks ridiculous in a pink dress. Even if he does and I feel sorry for the little man.

@MoronDeLaFrontera - what's even sadder is little girls not being allowed to wear what they want

The only one suggesting little girls should not be allowed to wear what they want because it doesn't fit in their parents narrow-minded agenda is you. You are the one insisting girls should wear "girl" colours and boys should wear "boy" colours. My dc, once they were old enough to express a preference, wore what they wanted. My ds' have worn blue, red, green, pink, purple etc. My dd has worn blue, red, green, pink, purple etc. My dd did ballet, kickboxing, soccer, drama, gymnastics, swimming. Ds1 did soccer, swimming, hurling, rugby. Ds2 did ballet, karate, soccer, swimming, hurling. They all got to try activities they were interested in. Some stuck, some didn't, but narrow-minded gender stereotyping played no part in the decisions.

what's even sadder is little girls not being allowed to wear what they want because it doesn't fit in their parents narrow-minded agenda

What, like your children who can only wear gender specific clothes because it fits with your narrow minded agenda?

My child wear what she wants. If some narrow minded idiot thinks she can’t wear a purple hedgehog t-shirt because it’s from the boys section that’s their issue. Especially if they don’t recognise the damage enforcing stereotypes has on children.

No one here has said girls can’t wear pink and unicorns. Only that other options shouldn’t be removed.

If the parents had recognised that there are boys and girls colours, they could have avoided the drama
So can someone give me a comprehensive list of which colours are for which sex? I mean pink and blue are easy, but who gets red? Or black? Which child should I dress in white and what the hello do I do with a pink and blue stripped top??

Colours are unisex in my opinion.

@SleepingStandingUp - what the hello do I do with a pink and blue stripped top??

That can only be used if the child is intersex.

If the parents had recognised that there are boys and girls colours, they could have avoided the drama

I hope your kids never get bullied. You’re a classic victim blamer.

It is never, ever the victims fault. It is always the fault of the bullies and people like you who enable them by supporting idiotic social norms and punishing those who dare to differ.

Personally I think sticking to convention is utterly fucking boring, and I will cheer on any child or adult who steps outside the role society expects of them.

Children like Ruby Bridges. If her parents had just sent her to the school she was supposed to go to they could have avoided all the drama.