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To think green is unisex?

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Katiem1234 · 14/06/2019 11:30

I'm pregnant with my first baby, a girl. Green is my favourite colour and I've bought a fair few green baby clothes, I always thought green was a very unisex colour? However a friend has asked me why I've bought so many boy clothes and I presume jokingly said she takes it I was hoping for a boy... We've also got pinks, purples, yellows, creams etc.
Green is totally fine for a girl right? People aren't going to assume I just wanted a boy so dressed them in 'boys' clothes?

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NCforpoo · 14/06/2019 12:19

Isn't it strange. At what point are you allowed as a woman (or a man) to wear any colour? My wardrobe is pretty much blue... am I cross dressing?!

TheDarkPassenger · 14/06/2019 12:22

My daughter suited navy blue from the moment she popped out so she was always in ‘boy colours’ anyway

RitmoRatmo · 14/06/2019 12:25

All colours are unisex. End of.

GreenTulips · 14/06/2019 12:30

All colours are unisex. End of

Tell that to the toy manufacturers

WilyMinx · 14/06/2019 12:31

I think all colours are unisex. It's the design that counts. I've bought my niece blue leggings and dresses, and my son has a pink shirt. I love green and have never seen it as a 'boy colour'.

GlossyTaco · 14/06/2019 12:31

How ridiculous. Put whatever you want on your baby , as long as she's warm and comfortable.

I suppose I ought to send back the pink set of mega blocks I just ordered for my 18 month old , I wouldn't want him feeling less of a boy.

sugarbum · 14/06/2019 12:35

Ignore her. Its 2019. Buy your baby whatever your want. There are no colour restrictions that I'm aware of.

I had a red flowery car seat for DS1. Because I liked it. Its not like he was going to notice. A lot of people thought he was a girl because of this. I chose to ignore it. This was in 2007.
DS2 wore velour and jersey cuffed leggings for his entire toddlerhood. Because they are perfect toddler wear. Again, lots of comments about boys in leggings. All bollocks. He also wore tiaras quite a lot. and accessorised with a toy vaccum cleaner. Pretty pleased that was a phase actually. (the vaccum cleaner. it was pretty bulky)

My point. People seem to give a f*ck but its just narrow mindedness. Ignore and carry on.

TheBrockmans · 14/06/2019 12:38

At what point are you allowed as a woman (or a man) to wear any colour?

I would say earlier for girls than boys. First wave comes around 3/4 when they can dress/ undress themselves and throw a strop because their favourite item of clothing is being washed. Second wave comes with them having the budget and inclination to go and choose their own clothes in a shop. I would say middle to top primary for girls. Not sure about boys because he is still quite happy to don whatever is put in front of him or stay in whatever he is wearing until forced to change.

In terms of being socially acceptable to others my dc have never worried too much about that but certainly by secondary school my dd have worn any colour, even dark blue, dark grey and dark green. You can get away with 'wrong' colours earlier for lower half (trousers, skirts) than top half.

Pinkmouse6 · 14/06/2019 12:41

All colours are unisex imo. My DS has a whole array of patterns and colours, I don’t discriminate Grin.

bluebluezoo · 14/06/2019 12:46

At what point are you allowed as a woman (or a man) to wear any colour? My wardrobe is pretty much blue... am I cross dressing?

When other external signifiers are apparent. So long hair for girls, short for boys etc. Babies tend to be bald so clothes are the only way to signify gender.

Imo it’s getting increasingly gendered, even for adults. You must present so people can tell your gender by looking.

cranstonmanor · 14/06/2019 12:53

My niece lived in bright blue dresses the first years because that colour suits her so well (and auntie loves buying mini clothes Grin) . I wonder what your friend would have made of that.

I have another nephew (different parents) that followed after three girls. Just like his older sisters his preference is for pink, silver glitter and unicorns.

User12879923378 · 14/06/2019 12:57

All colours are unisex. If you dress your baby in darker, more sober colours (especially if you have tractors or dinosaurs on them) be prepared for any number of people to ask how old "he" is. Ditto if you dress your baby in pink, especially if unicorns and rainbows are involved. My little girl got dressed in whatever was clean and cute and sometimes was mistaken for a boy and sometimes was recognised as a girl.

Thingsthatgo · 14/06/2019 12:59

I dressed my dd in lots of bright colours, except pink because I dislike it. People were often mortified when they mistook her for a boy... i wasn’t in the least bit worried. Why is it such a big deal what sex a baby is? You should treat them the same anyway.

Rainbowknickers · 14/06/2019 13:00

I bought my son a bib saying ‘before you ask I’m a boy’ on it teamed with his blue snowsuit and people STILL asked if he was a she
My daughter wore a lot of pink (she was born ten years after my other girl and 4 boys I went a bit mad)
And people STILL asked if she was a boy!
She’s the least girly girl I know
Dress YOUR baby how YOU want and stuff anyone else
Colours do not define the sex

MulticolourMophead · 14/06/2019 13:04

It was my mother's favourite colour. It's DD's favourite colour. It's not my favourite but is up there in the top 3.

We're all female, all have (or had) some quite feminine stuff at times, so no, green is for everyone.

SimonJT · 14/06/2019 13:17

Anyone can wear any colour.

My son is four, he is wearing a flowery hoodie and leggings because he likes them. Yesterday he wore a monster trucks t-shirt and jeans.

They aren’t girls or boys clothes, they’re his clothes.

If someone can’t cope with a girl having green they need to get a grip.

MorondelaFrontera · 14/06/2019 13:23

Why does it matter why other people think?

I would never put my son in a flowery outfit, and I got tutted at by a woman when she heard me telling one of mine that we wouldn't buy any clothes for a boy in the girls department. That's my choice, why did the harpy think it was any of her business? It did make me laugh and I might have added a bit just to wind her up but seriously. None of anyone's business how I dress my own kids.

wheresmymojo · 14/06/2019 13:34

All colours are unisex.

I wear mainly navy blue because it suits me and I like it. Haven't sprouted a beard yet!

SooticaTheWitchesCat · 14/06/2019 13:43

My DD had quite a few things in mint green, it's a lovely colour.

Mommmytobe19 · 14/06/2019 13:51

I find out the sex of my baby on the 17july and I just just purchased a green pram. I think it’s unisex

NCforpoo · 14/06/2019 14:11

DDs favourite colours are blue and pink. Particularly dark blue and bright pink
But her favourite tops are orange with aeroplanes on it. And pink with a monkey on it. She has a straw hat with a monkey on it from m&s because she loves monkeys. The store assistant did a big stage whisper that it was "from the boys section"... Hmm

NewAccount270219 · 14/06/2019 14:14

I would never put my son in a flowery outfit, and I got tutted at by a woman when she heard me telling one of mine that we wouldn't buy any clothes for a boy in the girls department. That's my choice, why did the harpy think it was any of her business?

I don't think the 'harpy' (nice to know that you teach your children gendered insults, too!) did think it was her business, she just thought you were a bit pathetic.

I never get why people are at once so insistent that boys and girls are completely, innately different 'and that's just nature', but on the other hand they have to be constantly policed to make sure they don't traverse those categories.

ilovecatsabittoomuch · 14/06/2019 14:21

Green is more masculine than feminine but it's not like you've bought her a load of blue stuff. I reckon it can pass for unisex.

hammeringinmyhead · 14/06/2019 14:37

It has never crossed my mind that prams signify the sex of the contents. Do people think like this? I have a grey and yellow Cosatto which is fairly neutral but don't assume the black one with big red poppies on contains a girl. Surely they get used for several children in some cases?

Celebelly · 14/06/2019 14:45

My four-month-old daughter has been mistaken for a boy a few times! She has a lot of dinosaur stuff and doesn't really ever wear girly clothes. And she's bald as a coot. So not sure which factor is to blame!