To have found this rude?!

[willynillypie]

I am a SAHM with a baby. I was ja king small talk with my neighbour this morning whilst taking my baby for a walk. She has already made a few snippy comments about my “perfect life”. She was moaning about work so I said “yay it’s the weekend though” and she looked at me and said, in the bitchiest voice “well every day is a weekend for you.”

Not sure if I’m being sensitive or if this is rude.

*making, not ja king! (Whatever that is)

So rude. Obviously jealous but that is no excuse.

Yup, she's snippy. Disengage with e small talk and keep walking next time

she was rude, having a baby is hard work

Can’t stand people with massive chips on their shoulders. They are always dull and small. One to avoid op

She's an arsehole. Laugh at arseholes, it upsets them no end.

Also, there are many, many threads about SAHM's on MN and many end up in arguments/judgements on WOHM/SAHM. You're damned no matter which one you are; I teach and went back after maternity leave each time. The stuff I've had from MIL and her sisters is unreal "your children won't know who you are", "how will they ever grow up happy with a Mother who works". The thing to do is to stop caring what other people think. You can't do it overnight but once you practise it gets easier.

She's being rude, it gets lonely with a baby so the weekend when your DH or friends are off too is definitely still the weekend

What would people have said as a response? I am curious! I wussed out and said “DH is home at the weekend so that’s nice”. I’m annoyed with myself.

What is worse is she has a child! He is grown up now but she KNOWS how hard work it is. She is supposed to be coming to DS’ first birthday soon I wish I hadn’t invited her.

It's rude. I wouldn't bother with the small talk.

This is the second thread I've read today on SAH v working. It's a subject which is always a trigger for a good froth. Anyone who makes unsolicited and/or judgmental comments about another person's choices is rude. Bitch, bitching are unpleasant words.

I've done both and they both have pro's and con's. I would have said 'No it's not'

No it's not

Simple, but effective! Whyyyy didn’t I just say that!

I'd have said "No, every day with a baby is a working day. I don't get two days off at the end of the week". Sweet smile then on my way.

I love playing up to this. I'd grin and say 'I know! I love it! I can do what I want! It's shit having to work. Poor you! You must be really, REALLY jealous!' etc. etc. Rub it in her face.

tixieilix codemonkey both great options too!!!

She wants you to justify and defend yourself so that she can then make more digs. So agree with her. Tell her life is wonderful and hers is shit.

Some people are bitter. Just ignore her or say, “No: today is Tuesday” and pull this face

Yep, that's so rude.

I would have laughed and said “well with a baby this age, its a 24-7 job. I have NO time off EVER so have no idea really what a weekend is”. But this woman is rude, snide and bitter so would avoid in future.

codemonkey

That’s true, yes! I’m pleased now that I told her I was off to get a coffee when DS was asleep (her response was a very sulky “I wish I was going to have a coffee now”)

'Helen, fuck off will you'

foreverhanging

HA!!!!

It's more like every day is a weekday with a young baby!

hollowtalk

Yes! And DH is only home at weekends so my week has 0 respite and I am so pleased everyone is agreeing she is rude, I was just speechless.

She's jealous of you. I found that quite a lot when I had my first baby. Strangely they weren't as jealous when I had two!

Ask her when she went back to work when her son was born, and whether his dad lived in the house all week.