To say Fathers’ day cards are generally a bit shit and sexist?

[BorisBadunov]

Disclaimer: I’m not in the UK, so maybe there’s a better selection there, though I doubt it - i don’t recall it being different when we lived there.

But the vast majority of cards here seem to follow the following themes:

-HA HA. You’re clueless dad, but we love you anyway. Let’s take the piss out of you! Happy fathers’ day!

• You’re massively into [football/golf/insert MANLY hobby], and that’s all we know about you! Happy Father’s Day!
• today is the day you can be LAZY, as you usually want to be (but can’t). Happy Fathers’ day!

AIBU in wishing there would be more cards that would be focused on positive sentiments, without overplaying a macho role model that many modern men don’t aspire to? If I compare with Mothers’ day cards, it’s really striking how massively gendered they are - MDCs focus on love and tenderness and wanting to make the mum feel wonderful, whereas FDCs are mostly about taking the piss, or conversely depicting the dad as a high achiever in spheres of life unrelated to fatherhood (eg hobbies).

Where are all the FD cards saying thanks for helping with my homework/ you’re a great cook/ I love it when you hug me?

That pisses me off. AIBU?

YANBU.

The only thing YABU about is thinking Mother’s Day cards are any better. They’re all bloody awful.

If they’re old enough, get your children to make their own cards.

Lol there is much more variety in card factory but I do get were your coming from though....

One thing that pisses me of is they all say Great/Best/Amazing Dad.... sorry but my dad is shit but I still want to get him a card 😂 why cant is just say Happy Fathers Day dad, have a nice day? 😌

Mother's Day cards are as bad tbh. Both are ridiculous stereotypes generally so I agree with you.

That said I got shit hot ones for my Dad and DP. My dad's promises unlimited tech support in a coupon (much needed!) and DPs is an irreverant football one for our team of choice along with another baby shark one because I'm evil and want to get it stuck in his head

But I had to order them online.

I will NEVER understand who has 'that' kind of relationship with their dad to send him this 🤢

My toddler has been making various Father’s Day cards at his various groups and classes and they are all the exact same card with the shirt and tie you make from folding over paper
Because all Dads wear ties most of the time.

I agree, so many of them are just depressing - I've seen loads that are some variation on "champion farter" which I find really weird and childish. If I sent my dad a card that said, essentially "I wish to draw attention to the fact that you, like all other humans, occasionally have flatulence" he'd be quite hurt and embarrassed.

I was on the look out for a step dad card this year and there were two in paperchase. Out of about 100. Made me realise I’ve never seen a step mum one either (not looking for one though). Seems a bit of a missed opportunity as there must be loads of people who’d buy one

One thing that pisses me of is they all say Great/Best/Amazing Dad.... sorry but my dad is shit but I still want to get him a card 😂 why cant is just say Happy Fathers Day dad, have a nice day?

Yes it’s so much effort every year to find Mother’s and Father’s Day cards that just say Happy Mother’s/ Father’s Day. I get on ok but not brilliantly with my parents and I find the “best Dad ever!” thing a bit awkward.

PinguDance I get a stepmum one from DSDs but I think they get it online rather than in the shops. You make a fair point!

YANBU
I am in the UK and I looked in Paperchase and Sainsburys and honestly 80% of the cards were about farting.

I totally agree. It’s the same with “Brother” birthday cards- all centred around farts and football and craft ale.

YANBU, I make my own photo ones on Moonpig.

It's the same with cards for sons, grandsons, nephews. Impossible to find a card that doesn't have on the front a football, golf paraphernalia, fishing stuff, vintage cars, beer or other crap.
Card makers please: just put the words (Happy Birthday Son or Happy Father's Day) on the front with a background colour.

There seem to be loads about farting this year!

I usually buy mine from eBay. I always se to find the right sentiment. Some years I want funny, this year I wanted something meaningful without being soppy. Found the perfect card (a lot cheaper than in shops!) and you are supporting a small business ☺️

When did farting become such a popular subject for cards?? Its like cards are all designed by five year olds.

I laugh at a good fart joke as much as anyone, but a fart joke (like all jokes) is all about timing. Not just "tee hee, farts exist".

Yes, farting! That’s a main theme apparently?!
Who the fuck buys these

@PinguDance this is the problem I have! My partner took on my kids (one calls him dad the other doesn't) but we aren't married so technically isn't stepdad! So confusing! Found a beautiful card on eBay that said "we may not have the same genes or last name but you're the best dad I've ever had" . Last year I got him one that said happy Father's Day from the kids you inherited when you shacked up with my mum. Which may seem crass but that's our sense of humour and last year the kids weren't quite as close with him as they are now. We all found it hilarious and he loved it!

I agree with PP who said MDCs are shit too. Where are the cards about being a positive role model - having intellectual pursuits, achieving goals in life? Nooo- that’s for dads only. Seriously, it’s fucking depressing.

I've seen loads of lovely ones for dads so not sure I agree and also as men have the upper hand in almost every other aspect of life, a few cheeky fathers day cards is hardly going to upset the gender balance or lack of, in the world is it ?

One thing that pisses me of is they all say Great/Best/Amazing Dad.... sorry but my dad is shit but I still want to get him a card 😂 why cant is just say Happy Fathers Day dad, have a nice day?

Same problem with cards for teachers, they’re all for the ‘best teacher’ ... err no, some of them are just (barely) okay (or worse) but I still want my kid to say thank you because that’s etiquette.

Thank you all, I’m glad it’s not just me!

I agree it’s okay to make fun of men, and they have the upper hand in virtually every aspect of life, but not every man is a sexist pig that needs to have the piss taken out of.

I spend every Father's Day trying to find a basic card for my less than great dad. This year I bought him a card that says 'dad, without me today is just another day'.