AIBU about lights and work?

[Rainbowknickers]

My dsd has the bedroom next to ours
This week her dad has been on nights (shift worker) so I’ve been going to bed around 10pm
Dsd has exams so goes up around the same time as he goes out to work
For the last 3 nights she’s been coming out of her room about 10:30-11:00 pm turning on the landing and bathroom lights then going back into her room leaving them blazing
My problem (apart from the leccy bill) is I’m up again at 6am for work and it’s been waking me up then of course I have to get up,turn them all off again and then I’m awake and can’t go back off to sleep
I’ve tried having a word with my dp but he just laughed and said
‘That’s teens for you!so thoughtless!’
I’ve tried having a word with her,I get a mumbled ‘sorry’ and it starts all over again
The light it so bright it’s like someone shining a bright light in my eyes
I’ve not slept for the last 3 nights and I’m snappy and getting into trouble at work

Aibu?

Take the bulb out? If DP isn't on board with telling her off a little harsher then that might be the only option.

Yanbu at all, what's wrong with your DH that he cant understand the problem, it's not a teen thing, it's an inconsiderate selfish person thing.

Leaving the light on for a few minutes from 10-30/11ish is an incredibly poor reason for you to be so snappy at work that you’re getting in to trouble after only 3 days. So for that alone, it sounds like you have bigger issues!

Can you just stick something over the bit letting in light or wear an eye mask?

Call her on it when she does it? I wouldn't be speaking to my DP about it first...that's strange IMO. Just tell her to go and turn the lights off after she's left them on. eventually it will stick.

Get her a torch and take the bulb out of the landing, leave the bathroom bulb in.
I am a sod for leaving lights on, cupboard doors open, I've lots of annoying habits.

I don't know if YABU but I'd say you are being a bit OTT.

Practically though, I would (a) change the light bulbs to something less bright and (b) keep your bedroom door shut (c) totally lose my shit with said teen and scare her into submission.

Either replace with a bulb that's not so bright or maybe one with a sensor that will automatically switch off after a few minutes.

Have you tried telling her at the time?

It kind of is a teen thing, they are notoriously selfish I am on my third!

Not that I say that and let it ride, you understand. I most certainly set boundaries. They just keep testing them.

I tell my DD to turn lights off, endlessly. She mutters a 'sorry' too, which I swiftly remind her means nothing if she does it again!

She leaves her bedroom light on a few times, her Dad takes the bulb out. Then she remembers for a while.

Try taking the bulbs out. I'm sure she has a mobile phone that could be used as a torch!

I was brought up by eco warrior parents who turned off every light it didn’t matter if you needed it on or not!so it’s second nature to me to do it
I’ve tried an eye mask but I just can’t get on with them
I did think of taking the bulb out and she can use her torch but Disney dad won’t let me as she is clumsy and the stairs are to the right of the bathroom-and knowing her she would fall down the bloody things
I fell asleep on my break at work and snapped at someone i did say sorry) but my manager has had a go and to be fair-rightly so it’s not like me to be grumpy
I’m getting by on about 4 hours a night and it’s killing me-it’s ok for him-he just sleeps when we’re all out and then moans that 9/10 hours isn’t enough!
My son has told me to shine a bright light in his face next week when he’s on the early shift himself and see how he likes it!im that pissed off I might just do it

My son has told me to shine a bright light in his face next week when he’s on the early shift himself and see how he likes it

I don't understand why you think this makes sense?

If you can't take the bulb out, how about replacing it with a dim night-light bulb. Will be enough so no-one falls down the stairs, but may not be enough to wake you. (will also use less electricity)

How is this waking you up? If it's the hall light are you sleeping with your door open and the bright light is then coming into your room?

We have a plug in night light in the hall that comes on when it's dark, just enough to guide you to the loo. You could get one of those and then take the bulb out of the main light?

(Also tell her off etc, but suggesting as a practical solution)

Plug in light is a fab idea!thank you!
You step out of my bedroom door straight onto the landing (which is next to her room) she snaps the light on and the light just seems to flood in and wake me up my door is closed but it still seems to shine round it
My son told me to shine a torch in his face just as he’s dozing off as he loves his sleep more than anything and it would piss him off and it’s a taste of what it’s been like for me
He’s laughed at me and told me I’m obsessed with the light-I’m really not-I just don’t need to be woken up by the bloody thing I can’t sleep with any light on at all

Close the door or replace the bulb with a much dimmer one. I think you're being way OTT.

Or if you have to get up to turn the light off turn her light on. That'll learn her!

My son told me to shine a torch in his face just as he’s dozing off as he loves his sleep more than anything and it would piss him off and it’s a taste of what it’s been like for me

Again, why does this make any sense?

He isn't the one leaving the light on.

Just fucking shout 'switch the light off'

Shut your door!
I need dark to sleep and whenever there’s someone else on the same landing I just shut the door- easier than shouting out or getting up to switch lights off.

If your door is shut you must be exaggerating about the amount of light coming into your room. We always keep the bathroom light on at night. I hate to get up to go to the toilet in the dark.

The door is shut!the light seems to flood in from around the door frame
I even got him to fiddle with the handle so it shuts more firmly and it still floods in
Plus he moans about our leccy bill-we’d shave quite a lot off if she wasn’t so wasteful

My son has told me to shine a bright light in his face next week when he’s on the early shift himself and see how he likes it!im that pissed off I might just do it
You'd purposely sabotage your DPs sleep to teach them a lesson.
You and your son are a right grumpy pair.
My DC haven't slept an entire night in 11 years SEN, I work night and still manage to stay awake in work.

This truly is one of the most bizarre threads I have seen on here. Who gives that level of headspace to someone leaving the light on.

When she leave it on, simply tell her to switch it off. It will soon sink in.

All this stuff about shining torches on your partners face

Even if you got to sleep at midnight you would get 6 hours how are you getting 4 from her disturbing you at 10.30 to 11. I dont get it its inconsiderate yes but your figures dont make sense.

we’d shave quite a lot off if she wasn’t so wasteful
I see why she heads to her room when her dad leaves for work.

We have small nightlights in the hallways. That way anyone who needs to move around the house at night can do so safely.

They have light sensors so come on at night automatically and turn off automatically in the morning. Bulbs are led so low power draw and last near forever (we’ve had current lights for almost a decade). They are pointed towards the floor so don’t keep people up.