AIBU about lights and work?

[Rainbowknickers]

My dsd has the bedroom next to ours
This week her dad has been on nights (shift worker) so I’ve been going to bed around 10pm
Dsd has exams so goes up around the same time as he goes out to work
For the last 3 nights she’s been coming out of her room about 10:30-11:00 pm turning on the landing and bathroom lights then going back into her room leaving them blazing
My problem (apart from the leccy bill) is I’m up again at 6am for work and it’s been waking me up then of course I have to get up,turn them all off again and then I’m awake and can’t go back off to sleep
I’ve tried having a word with my dp but he just laughed and said
‘That’s teens for you!so thoughtless!’
I’ve tried having a word with her,I get a mumbled ‘sorry’ and it starts all over again
The light it so bright it’s like someone shining a bright light in my eyes
I’ve not slept for the last 3 nights and I’m snappy and getting into trouble at work

Aibu?

YABU a bit. A half asleep teenager is even more thoughtless than an awake one. Eyemask.

Can you hang something over your door? A blackout sheet? I'm the same with light and noise op, I'm a very light sleeper.

^^^ yes, good idea.

Is it going to help you even if she does turn the light off OP? If the issue is that the bright light flooding into your room is waking you, presumably this will happen even if she turns the light off after a few minutes?

I’m not saying you shouldn’t keep telling her to switch it off, but it sounds like the real solution lies in you sorting out your bedroom door so that it blocks the light better - or encouraging your SD to use her phone as a torch rather than turn the light on at all.

That was me 40 years ago. I went through a stage of being irrationally scared at night. My dad was happy to leave the landing light on and my door slightly open. My SM though made an issue of it and would get up, turn the light on and close my door leaving me with my fears and poor sleep.

It was a wicked thing to do and still now I can't comprehend her reaction. I was left petrified in my bed whilst she slept like a baby. The cost of electricity was much less compared to the emotional damage this caused.

If the light is really stopping you sleeping, how about dicussing it with her and finding out a mutual solution rather than making it a point that it is your house and you'll do what suits you irregardless of her she feels.

Eye mask would be the obvious thing. Or blackout door curtain. If you’re that sensitive to light, it’s kind of up to you to manage that...

Do what I do, scream "turn the fucking light off"!

Motion sensor lights that plug in from Wilko or B and Q. We have one in the cellar.

My teens do this as well.
They are not inconsiderate and selfish, they just forget.
It's annoying, it bugs me, but I know they're not doing it on purpose!

You can't blame her for you only getting four hours sleep a night and being rude and snappy at work, especially when you go on to admit you have problems sleeping anyway.

All you've done so far to manage the situation is moan at her dad and close your bedroom door - if the light bothers you so much, get those eco bulbs that don't give off loads of light (or get one that goes off after x amount of time) and buy a blackout curtain to cover your door and windows.

As an adult it's your job to manage your moods and irritability. If you have trouble sleeping in general, have you spoken to your GP to see what they suggest? Do you practise good sleep hygiene?

This would annoy the hell out of me too, but we have little windows over all the doors upstairs.