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To think no adult kids would agree to pay this!

419 replies

Cruelstepmother · 10/06/2019 23:51

Just found this 'how much rent could you charge your kids' calculator! www.comparethemarket.com/home-insurance/content/pa-rental/ - they suggested my cuckoo-back-in-the-nest stepson should be paying us £593.80 a month. What are your views?

OP posts:
Dontsweatthelittlestuff · 12/06/2019 20:32

It is pretty immaterial what someone’s mortgage is as a lot would have bought years ago and paid a large deposit.
I think the rent amount is pretty accurate on mine as if you were renting in my area you would expect to pay around £400 pm for a studio flat.
The food is also about right as I don’t see how a single person can eat 3 meals a day for less than £100 pm.
It is only the utilities that are a bit out of whack.

Glostergull · 12/06/2019 20:40

way back in 1977 when i got my first job my mother said either save and i wont charge you or pay £20 a week. which went up to £40 after 5 years. I chose to pay her

Glostergull · 12/06/2019 20:40

way back in 1977 when i got my first job my mother said either save and i wont charge you or pay £20 a week. which went up to £40 after 5 years. I chose to pay her

Dontsweatthelittlestuff · 12/06/2019 20:42

It is pretty immaterial what someone’s mortgage is as a lot would have bought years ago and paid a large deposit.
I think the rent amount is pretty accurate on mine as if you were renting in my area you would expect to pay around £400 pm for a studio flat.
The food is also about right as I don’t see how a single person can eat 3 meals a day for less than £100 pm.
It is only the utilities that are a bit out of whack.

shitpark · 12/06/2019 20:43

My kids should be paying £677. I think I'd rather they left home and lived their own lives when they're old enough

Dontsweatthelittlestuff · 12/06/2019 20:43

It is pretty immaterial what someone’s mortgage is as a lot would have bought years ago and paid a large deposit.
I think the rent amount is pretty accurate on mine as if you were renting in my area you would expect to pay around £400 pm for a studio flat.
The food is also about right as I don’t see how a single person can eat 3 meals a day for less than £100 pm.
It is only the utilities that are a bit out of whack.

HelpIcantfindaname · 12/06/2019 20:45

It says £580 for me.
DS30 moved out a year ago. (He had left & come back a few times). He was paying £130 a month! But he was studying at the time & skint.

ohtheholidays · 12/06/2019 20:47

I just checked and it would be £698.80 for my DS's and Our second oldest kicked off about us asking for £50 a week which would have just about covered his packed lunches,drinks for work and his suppers and the little sod kicked of over it and has been crashing at his mates.

We didn't kick him out by the way he stormed off in a huff!

We paid for everything including any and all toiletries he needed and wanted and I would pick him up bits when ever I saw anything I knew he would like,aftershave,clothes,shoes ect and what we asked for would have left him with over a £1,000 a month for what ever he wanted.

28 years ago I was earning £565 a month and paying for a wedding and I used to give my Mum and Dad £265 a month and I'd buy nice treats for them(food wise and flowers and bits for the garden)and I'd take my Mum out once a month(my Dad wouldn't come)and treat her to lunch and some new clothes or jewellry and it makes me laugh that my son thinks he's hard done by.

I'm going to show him the link when I see him,mayble he'll see then that he shouldn't be the one that's sulking!

Oneminuteandthenallgone · 12/06/2019 20:49

Houses on our road rent for £2000- 5000 but it suggested £565.57

You couldn't get a room in a house of multiple occupation for that without any add ons.

Ithinkmycatisevil · 12/06/2019 20:50

£574 for mine!! The gas and electric element is more than the total I pay!! I think £50 per week is plenty.

Dontsweatthelittlestuff · 12/06/2019 20:54

It is pretty immaterial what someone’s mortgage is as a lot would have bought years ago and paid a large deposit.
I think the rent amount is pretty accurate on mine as if you were renting in my area you would expect to pay around £400 pm for a studio flat.
The food is also about right as I don’t see how a single person can eat 3 meals a day for less than £100 pm.
It is only the utilities that are a bit out of whack.

Carrie80 · 12/06/2019 20:54

My mum could charge me £196 more than I pay rent on a 1 bedroom flat two minutes away from her

Dontsweatthelittlestuff · 12/06/2019 20:55

Whoops how did that happen?

HoobleDooble · 12/06/2019 21:03

Ours works out that (if he wasn't only 10) my son should pay £20 more than our mortgage payment and as much gas and electric as we pay during winter months. If he could afford to pay what they recon, he'd be able to buy a house on our street. I think half of what they've come up with is more realistic (and would allow them to save for a deposit).

babyno5 · 12/06/2019 21:07

£730 here rubs hands in glee 😂

SuzieQ10 · 12/06/2019 21:08

£776! Pm at my parent's 😂
Thank golly gosh they never charged me. I did take them out for nice dinners now and again.

Fowles94 · 12/06/2019 21:25

£545, that's my mortgage and council tax 😲 I'd only have to pay utility costs 😂

LeavesAndGreenTrees · 12/06/2019 21:29

My parents never accepted anything from any of us when we were still at home, or needed to return home for a year or a few months. I offered to pay rent, bills, food. They wouldn't accept it.

Do people really do this?

LeavesAndGreenTrees · 12/06/2019 21:32

Although looks like I could now charge my kids £677 (if they weren't preschoolers maybe)

rwalker · 12/06/2019 21:35

can't wait till youngest leaves school and works I'll be able to retire

DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 12/06/2019 21:45

According to this, my parents should've charged me £651 a month approx. I paid £100 when I lived at home and was reliably earning! (Looks back fondly to when I jacked in a vocational degree, ended up doing 12hrs+overtime a week in retail and made £500 in a good month and they stopped charging me at all until I had a stable pay packet. I love you, mum & dad!!)

StroppyWoman · 12/06/2019 22:01

£490 for us.
DS1 was paying £250, which seemed fair.

youarenotkiddingme · 12/06/2019 22:14

According to the calculator I should charge ds £664.80

£445 rent
£107 food
£46 gas
£66 electric

Ds is only 14 but even if an adult working that's....:

All but £35 of my rent.
Half the food bill (fair!)
£20 more than gas
£36 more than my electric.

I would be living the life of riley Grin

IABUQueen · 12/06/2019 22:16

I don’t understand how the rent is that high if the house is shared with so many people.

780 for us. We lived there paying bills and food. And our services. But they refused our rent.

mixedkebab · 12/06/2019 22:21

Dontsweat

Its not the same as renting a studio flat though...its one room and (usually) shared bathroom etc.

I agree with pp who have said its sometimes higher than the rent for the entire house but it depends on whether a family is renting or its rented on a room by room basis eg by students.

We get 550 pcm rent for a house from a family and the calculator suggested 537 for one room but when we rented same house to students we were getting 750 pcm and that was 5 years ago