AIBU to let nearly 16 y/o DD watch GoT?

[Funkyslippers]

I just watched 1st episode alone, it was as I suspected quite violent & sexual. DD is desperate to watch it. I watched similar things when I was her age but I was a bit more mature.

What's it generally like? I'm assuming an awful lot of sex & violence?

Thanks

Maybe watch some more clips on YouTube before you decide, like Oberyns death. It is all very violent and graphic.

I watched stuff like GOT at 15 and turned out perfectly fine. If it were a movie its certificate would be probably be 15 anyway.

Oh, and as the seasons progress there’s less and less sex in it.

It is a great show however a lot of violence and sex. I wouldn’t want my teenage daughter watching it.
My DSD’s mother has started to allow the 15 y/o to watch it (as “everyone at school is watching it”) and DH isn’t happy about it but she won’t let him have a say in the matter (but that’s a whole other thread). DSD has said she felt sick at a couple of the violent scenes and couldn’t get them out of her head........

Really graphic sex and violence. I struggled to process the latter as a 30 something.

Where's the harm in waiting till she's older? You know her brain will go on developing til she's 25, don't you?

I'd have watched it at 15. But ultimately only you know your daughter and if shes ready for it.

My dd read the books when she was 15.

I am a huge GoT fan, yes the sex scenes are a bit much but that dwindles out after season 3 thankfully! It is quite violent though. My 15 year old niece and her 16 year old sister watch it

I think the ratings for UK vary between a 15 and an 18 depending on the episode. There's a guide for parents on IMBD so you can make an informed decision.

www.imdb.com/title/tt0944947/parentalguide

It's the violence that's the problem imo and the reason my dcs will have to be at least 18. I always follow the age certificate anyway. I can't control what they see or hear out there in the wider world but I can make a principled stand in my own home.

I am a fan of shows like Rome and Spartacus, so I was about to say, “It’s not that bad!” But when I think about what I was actually wanting to watch at 15 it was very tame stuff: Buffy, Charmed, Sweet Valley High. I think she’s too young.

I can cope with some sex and some violence but when it’s violence and sex together, that’s very different.
I watched the first series and had just had enough of it.
I know plenty of teenagers do watch it, so if she’s robust enough, maybe watch it with her then you can talk about how awful the rape scenes are.

My 17 year old son watches it and has for a while. He’s also read some of the books. Tbh I wouldn’t tell a 15/16 year old what they could or couldn’t watch, I’d expect them to know themselves well enough to make that decision for themselves (same as I choose not to watch GoT as it’s not my cup of tea). It seems a bit silly that at 16 they can legally have sex, but not watch a movie with sex scenes in anyway.

Really,coldtatty? Did you know yourself that well at that age? I remember getting so freaked out by the Blair Witch Project at 17 I could barely sleep or go near any woodland (sadly I lived right near a forest). And that wasn't graphic at all - just psychological. Similar for Silence of the Lambs.

I'll just reiterate what I said about brain development continuing until the mid twenties. We didn't know that when I was a teen, but we do now.

My DS 13 watched the first episode, without my knowing, and was shocked at the incest so hasn't watched it since.

Will she even listen if you said no? I would’ve just ignored you and watched it.

Yeah, in the nicest possible way, if she's coming up to 16 it may not be a question of 'letting'.

When mine were that age I obviously couldn’t control what they watched outside the house. But there were things I wouldn’t allow in the house, and we discussed why. GoT was one of them.

Depends on your DD, and how well you think she can handle and process such things. I didn’t find GOT as bad as many made out though, to be honest. It’s fantasy violence, acting and fake blood 🤷🏻‍♀️

Then again, I watched horror films from age 9 or so and didn’t bat an eyelid. It was interesting that a PP was freaked out by Blair Witch Project. I kept waiting for it to get scary... it never did (for me)!

Let your DD know what’s involved and let her decide.
Forbidden fruit is always far more tasty and enticing.

@Rufflecrow I’m not saying that they always make the right choice (I certainly made some bad ones!) but I would give them space to make the choice, and hope that all the parenting I’d done up to that point, that all the open and honest conversations, made a difference. I wouldn’t try to control them down to what they watch on TV! And hopefully because of that they could tell me if they saw anything that freaked them out.

Surely at 16 she'll watch it anyway if she wants to. I think by that age you need to stop trying to limit what she sees but instead have an open relationship and put that kind of thing in context.

No one would have stopped me from watching whatever I wanted at that age. Let her decide for herself.

I found Blair Witch so scary I got a migraine!

And I grew up watching horror films.

What scares one wouldn't scare another.

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth I always struggled to find what was scary about the Blair Witch too. Recently watched it again, and I’m still none the wiser!

Ds19, started reading GoT when he was 13, then started watching the tv show when he was 15.

Dd read the books at 12 but she was always a mature and advanced reader, I know she skipped the sex scenes. At 16 I think you’re being a tad precious tbh. (I don’t mean that in a harsh way, I know it’s hard to step back and let them make their own choices.)