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AIBU to let nearly 16 y/o DD watch GoT?

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Funkyslippers · 10/06/2019 08:51

I just watched 1st episode alone, it was as I suspected quite violent & sexual. DD is desperate to watch it. I watched similar things when I was her age but I was a bit more mature.

What's it generally like? I'm assuming an awful lot of sex & violence?

Thanks

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lilybetsy · 10/06/2019 10:06

my 14 year old DS has watched it ..... they see much worse on video games

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 10/06/2019 10:10

What scares one wouldn't scare another

Exactly. That’s why reading reviews or guidance is important so that well informed decisions, rather than blanket bans, can be made.

I’m envious of anyone who can be scared of a film... I’d love to be frightened but never am!

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 10/06/2019 10:12

SnowyAlpsandPeaks I was going to give it another go to see what I’d missed... don’t think I’ll bother now!🙂

HolesinTheSoles · 10/06/2019 10:12

In two years she'll be out on her own so I really think she needs to start to take responsibility for choosing what she can watch and what she can't. There will be nothing in GoT's she hasn't seen or heard of before. By all means warn her but I'm sure she can decide for herself what she's able to handle.

Fibbke · 10/06/2019 10:13

freaks I was pregnant at the time and I think everything was heightened. The only film that has really disturbed me since then was Melancholia. I can't watch torture porn type horror. I enjoyed It Follows, the Babadook and Hereditary.

InsertFunnyUsername · 10/06/2019 10:14

I would let her watch it.

RuffleCrow · 10/06/2019 10:22

Really, holes? Nothing she hasn't seen before?

Because personally I got to my mid thirties without watching a man's head cave in. I would hope to God the average older teen hasn't seen anything that disturbing. Outside of being a child soldier or something. Sad

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 10/06/2019 10:27

Because personally I got to my mid thirties without watching a man's head cave in. I would hope to God the average older teen hasn't seen anything that disturbing. Outside of being a child soldier or something

You do know it wasn’t real, right? Confused
Watching TV special effects is in no way comparable to a child soldier experiencing real human atrocity. How utterly ridiculous.

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 10/06/2019 10:28

Anyway, anyone who has ever watched Tom and Jerry as a child has seen plenty of heads caved in!

Fibbke · 10/06/2019 10:29

I think you are being a bit disingenous freaks

FreeTedHastings · 10/06/2019 10:31

I'm watching it with a DC of a similar age. I spend a lot of time behind a cushion waiting for the gruesome deaths to end. DC is fine and knows the difference between fantasy and reality. DC has yet to attack anyone with an axe or a fire-breathing dragon. From the sex POV it's going to be a lot tamer than any porn they can find on-line.

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 10/06/2019 10:33

I think you are being a bit disingenous freaks

Yeah, OK, sitting watching squashed latex on the telly - through choice - is just as awful as children being sent to war and experiencing true horror.

DrinkSangriaInThePark · 10/06/2019 10:34

No way would I let my daughters watch it at that age. It gets very sexually graphic in season one. There's a girl on girl scene in a brothel which goes on for ages while they have a conversation with the brothel owner. I actually found that uncomfortable and I was watching with my husband!

Why the hell would you want your 15 year old watching that? Isn't there enough suitable stuff out there for her? Be her mother, not her friend!

Fibbke · 10/06/2019 10:35

I think the PP was trying to say that her teen was unlikely to have seen a head cave in before. As you said teens would have seen it all before. I don't think anyone was saying watching GOT was worse than child soldiers. Are you actually OK?

Confused
TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 10/06/2019 10:38

Fine, thanks, and you?

Except they’re not seeing a head cave in, are they?

The child soldier comparison is utterly crass and belittles this horrific practice.

Glitterfisher · 10/06/2019 10:42

A mature 15yo should be fine watching it IMO.

itscallednickingbentcoppers · 10/06/2019 10:43

I would have thought 16 would be ok. Some scenes are disturbing but they'll be disturbing whenever they watch it. A lot of it is hyped up but some scenes have stayed with me..Joffrey and the two prostitutes being one.

PeggySuehadababy · 10/06/2019 10:58

She will watch it somewhere else even if you don't allow it. My mother never allowed horror or thriller movies at home because she doesn't like them, and we used to watch them on the computer (streaming or downloading, when it was easier).

Different people have different sensitivity, at 16 is practically impossible to stop them watching something.

Yeah, OK, sitting watching squashed latex on the telly - through choice - is just as awful as children being sent to war and experiencing true horror.

It's absolutely NOT the same thing, as the actor in the scene is probably fine and continuing his merry life, a child soldier risks to have his head squashed for real. Don't be ridiculous.

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 10/06/2019 10:59

You have completely misunderstood my post, Peggy

Tedtedandfred · 10/06/2019 11:04

Some of the scenes are very disturbing such as Joffrey forcing one prostitutes to beat one another to the death.

skippy67 · 10/06/2019 11:05

Well, only you know your dd. I started watching it with mine when she was 14 I think.

catsmother · 10/06/2019 11:25

I absolutely adore GoT - read all the SOIAF books, watched from the start (and have rewatched countless times).

But I won't let my 15 year old daughter watch it despite repeated badgering. Not necessarily just because of the explicit violence in the notorious scenes like the Red Wedding but also because of what I think of as 'verbal violence' … the language and the concepts/attitudes expressed by it. It's not as simple as saying 'oh there's swearing in it' because of course my child hears that from me, when I'm driving but there's real menace and intimidation in much of the script. Adults calling children c*nts etc. This is totally in keeping with the overall story and that universe and therefore doesn't faze me, and in fact, the show is toned down by comparison to the books but I don't want to run the risk of my child being traumatised by it. It might go over her head, she might not care, but why take that chance?

Then there's a plethora of arguably (by the standards of the show's violence) 'less' gory scenes which are chilling nonetheless. Shireen being burnt to death comes to mind. Theon's torture. Viserys' crown.

Look, I love it and am quite evangelistic in trying to get friends to give it a go but I think most kids wouldn't get maximum enjoyment from it in any case because it's so convoluted, and that's before the sex and violence. I would rather my daughter was that bit older and might get some appreciation of the story and all the interwoven and repercussive events rather than watching it for the sake of being able to say she'd seen it. I'm sure she asks because she's heard other kids at school claiming to have seen it (probably a minority anyway) and no doubt, teens being what they are, there's been much made of the shock factor so she naturally wants to look 'cool' by joining in. Well tough … she can wait until there's less risk of upset.

Fibbke · 10/06/2019 11:44

Fwiw, dd (19) watched it and found it horrible - couldn't get beyond Viserys crown plus all the cunts and fucks

I have really old fashioned children though Grin

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 10/06/2019 11:53

?SOIAF

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 10/06/2019 11:54

Song of Ice and Fire. 🙂

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