Being a boring wife...

[Alicewond]

So I don’t want to bungee jump, I hate heights. I also don’t want to swim with sharks. Also terrifies me. Should I feel bad that I’m withholding experiences from him? I’ve been told I’m boring. Maybe I am

Also skiing unless it's heli skiing it's not exactly adventurous

Did he say you were boring specifically in relation to those activities or was it more of a general 'you never want to try anything new or exciting' comment? It's OK not to want to do extreme things that terrify you but on the other hand if he's trying to suggest exciting experiences that he would like to be able to share with you and you are shutting every idea down you will come across as boring to him. Maybe suggest something a little out of your comfort zone that you are willing to try that you could do together or you might end up stuck in a real rut?

@mumto2babyboys it wasn’t a made up thread, we are simply now in the position for such holidays are adventures money wise. We have discussed it though and compromised, he is looking at a more adventurous holiday with a friend, he still sees me as thinking negative though because of my phobias. But I’m working on my issue with flying so hopefully soon

So is this about swimming with sharks or flying?

Do you refuse to pretty much do anything?

Suggest you go with him in the uk to watch, there are extreme zip lines, bungee jumps here and sky dives. Sharks at sea life and at the Bear Grylls attraction

You can watch him here then he can go abroad with someone else if you genuinely hate flying

Are you actually stopping him from doing these things? Tell him you will travel with him and hold his bag while he has the experiences he wants!! In context my ex moaned I was boring for wanting to go to bed before midnight or not wanting to be pissed on a school night (I have a progressive condition that at times I am very unwell with) it was infact he who was boring and stuck in a rut but it was easier to blame me for his lack of life than look at his own shortcomings so this may be something similar!!!

I have zero interest in either bungee or shark swimming and I'm quite exciting :D

DH can do those things with someone else, you're not boring just because you don't fancy risking your life!