Aibu to feel so fat

[user1471514421]

Evening all

Not sure if aibu or not

After a week of heavy eating, i am feeling crap this evening. Mother of 2, 5ft 4, weighed today at 8st11 and just measured waist at 25inches. I haven't done any exercise since before my eldest was born, who is over 3 now.

Need some motivation to get my ass in gear and tips on how you all who keep slim do it

Has OP answered what she wants from this thread yet? It's not immediately obvious.

My DC teens are bigger than you..😂

@wildcherries

Why is it upsetting though?

Without being inflammatory, if Op saying she feels fat makes a few overweight people feel a little bit bad about their weight isn’t that a kick up the bum to consider loosing to weight and not view their extra pounds positively?

What I wanted from the thread??... I wanted to know if aibu

I obviously am

Are seeing anyone about your disordered view of eating / body image OP?

if Op saying she feels fat makes a few overweight people feel a little bit bad about their weight isn’t that a kick up the bum to consider loosing to weight and not view their extra pounds positively?

Er yeah, that's not how it works

Having been overweight, lost it and kept it off, I can safely say that a post like this would have just made me reach for the chocolate.

Some horrid comments on here

Ignore the dick heads, if you’re not comfortable with your body that’s absolutely fine, though you definitely aren’t fat. Getting a PT was the best thing I’ve ever done. I’m the opposite at the moment though, and trying to put on weight, as muscle though rather than bf. I’m the same waist size as you but 106 lbs.

And the claims about OP having an a potential eating disorder sound ridiculous. Where have they stayed how much they are/aren’t eating?

Yes
HTH

What I wanted from the thread??...I wanted to know if aibu

I obviously am

But you can't possibly be unreasonable in feeling anything. Your feelings are your feelings and that's that.

However, from past threads you know you quite likely have an ED because you've said so yourself.

So 'reason' doesn't come into it.

It just seems unnecessary. And of course, feelings are just that. But if OP just wants to know if she's is being unreasonable, then yes, objectively, she is.

And by unnecessary I mean posting the stats. Anyway, I'm out.

op youve also taken on people giving you advice on how to lose.and washed over ones mentioning your potential ed and your previous threads very mugh highlighting you have one.

please can people stop posting on how she can lose weight.
if someone feels fat on these stats tey have a problem.
with ops previous threads it became clear to those who read it that she does indeed have one.

Get some help Op

CorbynsComrade I am shocked you are the same waist size but weigh much less. How many pt sessions a week do you do? If you dont mind telling

I dont think I have an ed, I just want to be in the best shape I can

The fact that you’re on here. Talking about it. Worrying about it. When you’re 8.11
Means there is an issue.
The issue could be you’re a goady fucker who wants to make herself feel better by making others feel crap.
Or you could have some serious issues around food and body issues. Which probably stem from other issues in your life.

Only you know the answer to that one.

I’ve got a really small frame naturally and really low bf at the moment, though I’m looking to put some fat on but mostly build muscle. I train 4 times a week. 2 times with a trainer and 2 times without. Exercise 1/2 body parts per session. If you feel you have a little extra weight you can turn it into muscle via weight lifting

@user1471514421 in your other thread you talk about wanting to be 8 stone, thinking about your weight a lot and obsessively checking your hip bone. These are red flags to me.

YABVU, or stupid.

And the claims about OP having an a potential eating disorder sound ridiculous.

Do they?

Where have they stayed how much they are/aren’t eating?

They have said other things that indicate a possible problem. They don't have to list what they eat for ED to be a possibility.

OP,
I am very very small. Yet, I have fat days too. It’s entirely emotional. When I feel fat, it’s normally a sign that something else is going on. Perhaps I’m stressed at work, or worrying about my health, but in those moments I look in the mirror and I hate what I see. The only way I have learned to manage it is to look after myself. Not punitively “best get down the gym and fix this mess!!!” or with judgement. Not with any goal in mind, nor armed with statistics about my weight or measurements. Just with the understanding that I don’t feel right, so I’m going to eat the most delicious healthy foods I can find with ALL THE COLOURS and listen to music and do nice things. But most importantly, say nice things to myself. Is it possible that you’re telling yourself you’re fat because it’s the thing you’re most scared of hearing? If that’s the case, weight is irrelevant, because it could just as easily be telling you you’re stupid or unpopular or anything else at all.

By all means eat healthily, exercise and take care of yourself. But do it because you are incredibly precious and your body works hard for you, not because you hate it and wish it were different.

I hope you feel better soon!

Ok, so I’m coming at this from the position of a recovered anorexic- I’ve been recovered for 10 years now, and I think I have a fairly healthy attitude to my body now. I’m 5ft6 and 9 stone 6lbs.

Generally when I feel ‘fat’ now (and it’s very different to how I felt when I had an ED) , it’s because I haven’t been active, so I feel sluggish and a bit blergh. Upping my activity always helps.

If you are worried you might be unwell though OP, please seek help. I’m kind of coming at this from both sides really- I think it’s ok to feel ‘fat’ when slim, BUT I am aware that this can be a huge red flag too. It’s so sad that the vast majority of women are insecure about how they look.