Aibu to feel so fat

[user1471514421]

Evening all

Not sure if aibu or not

After a week of heavy eating, i am feeling crap this evening. Mother of 2, 5ft 4, weighed today at 8st11 and just measured waist at 25inches. I haven't done any exercise since before my eldest was born, who is over 3 now.

Need some motivation to get my ass in gear and tips on how you all who keep slim do it

YANBU

Being uncomfortable with weight can happen at any size. People bashing OP because they don't think she is heavy enough to feel insecure is just ridiculous. My mum is 5ft 2 and feels uncomfortable at 9 stone! I'm the same height and would love to be 9 stone (working to get there as that's my goal weight). It's subjective! She's also had 2 children and inevitably her body shape has changed, which can be a shock!

OP, you are a healthy weight so I would focus more on exercise and getting fit and toning up. That will help you feel better about your body.

Try the Fast Diet - read the book/website to get all fired up about it and do it for a few months. 800 calories a day for 2 days a week

I'm sorry but this is awful advice to someone who clearly has issues surrounding their weight.

Im also 5"4 and weigh 8st5oz. My BMI is healthy, but if I drop one point it would be considered underweight. I look fine. I think YABU as some people have a genuine problem with weight and it's insensitive of you to say that you feel 'fat'. However, if you want to feel fitter and don't have much time on your hands, I suggest one of the 7 minute workouts on YouTube. ()

Wish I felt this kind of fat :(

I think this is an irresponsible thread and have reported it as such. OP, you know that you are not an unhealthy weight as any BMI google search would tell you. YANBU to feel anything, but posting your exact statistics and using them to justify why you feel ‘fat’ serves to make others feel as if they should be questioning their own weight. It has trigger written all over it.

Anyone suggesting any type of fasting diet in this situation is also being irresponsible. Come on.

• Try the Fast Diet - read the book/website to get all fired up about it and do it for a few months. 800 calories a day for 2 days a week

I'm sorry but this is awful advice to someone who clearly has issues surrounding their weight.*

It's also unhealthy and doesn't work.

And meanwhile in the real world some people have actual problems...

I agree it’s an irresponsible thread.

I worry about people who need to post this shit - OP you KNOW you are well within normal weight range so what did you want? people to validate your fatness? People to praise your thinness?

as a recovering anorexic threads like this trouble me - and can be triggering - cop on OP

Not sure what you want from this thread OP.

You're getting the same responses as when you posted last time.

You don't need to lose weight. You sound at risk of developing an eating disorder/body dysmorphia, if you haven't already.

Either that or you're trying to be goady.

I will reiterate it was not my intention to make anyone feel bad or be irresponsible

@user1471514421
What are you trying to get out of this thread?

So I cant struggle with weight just because my numbers are not the same as others?

No, you can't struggle with your weight with those numbers. Categorically, you can't. You can struggle with your perception of your weight though, and your mental health. I hope you're ok - you don't sound very happy. Why not try eating only lovely healthy food for a few weeks (NOT low fat but whole foods, fruit and veg, try lovely recipes, superior cuts of meat if that's your thing) and taking some nice walks outside. Treat your body with the love and care you deserve.

So, you know you’ve eaten badly all week (no judgement, my diet isn’t the best), I’m the same height as you and five pounds lighter (NOT A FUCKING BOAST), the easiest and best way is to eat less/much more healthily and move more.

You don’t need to lose loads of weight, maybe half a stone max? Just cut out the crap and get moving

You don’t need to lose loads of weight, maybe half a stone max

Op doesn't need to lose ANY weight, she is a healthy bmi for her height.

Anyway op, assuming this thread is serious then you need to seek professional help for your body image issues. Obviously most women, regardless of size, struggle with how their bodies change post pregnancy but surely you can see that at 5ft4, 8st11 with a 25 inch waist you are, objectively, not even close to fat?!

You are not fat. However, you might have the beginnings of an eating disorder.

I am shocked and the anger and how horrible some posters are being. Wannabeyorkshirelass I think maybe you are right, my perception may be off

YANBU.

Sorry you had so many mean spirited comments. I suspect many of these come from jealousy.

I totally get where ur coming from. I’ve never actually been “fat” always slim but there have definitely been times when I’ve felt “fat”.

I’m assuming you don’t have actual body dysmorphia or anything medical but obviously if you do see a doctor but rather more the feeling.

If it’s the children getting in the way of exercise, I like to go for a run really early in the morning. I know it sounds awful but it’s a habit for me now!

Getting tone back also removed those feelings of feeling fat and lazy etc

@WheresmywandHarry

Sorry, I’ve read that back and I’ve not explained myself enough. What I meant was is, as I’m a similar weight and height (obviously I don’t know the *OP’s build etc) and I know how I feel when I get to the same weight and I would feel as if I wanted to lose a little weight. So I should have said that if she wanted to lose it, not that she needed to.

Apologies for any offence to anyone

sincethereis thank you for your kind post

I suspect many of these come from jealousy.

Not from me mate, I'm the same height and weight as the OP and I feel I'm verging on skinny most of the time.

I am shocked and the anger and how horrible some posters are being.

Let them work themselves into a froth. You're not responsible for their feelings or their bodies and you're not forcing them to read the thread.

However, I don't think this thread is going to do you any good at all. I'm not even sure exactly what it is you're hoping to gain from it?

Maybe you don't mean the post to be upsetting, but it is.

If you genuinely feel fat, you need to speak to somebody about your body image issues.

Posting here with your perfectly healthy stats is not helpful to you, and may, as PPs have pointed out, be triggering to others. It's not a great thing to do.

wildcherries almost every thread on the internet could be a potential 'trigger' for someone in some way.

The OP isn't responsible for what other MNetters choose to read and respond to.