When your 1 year old likes olives

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NC in case she's on here

Scrolling through the dreaded Facebook and one of my "friends" has added a picture of her kid eating a plate of salad, olives , pitta etc. with the caption, "When your 1 year old likes olives 🙌.

It really grates on me, like some weird form of mum shaming. We've just got past the stage of her doing the "13 month old" thing. She's one and so now it's this hand clappy, look at me shite. (I know, I just need to unfollow)

In the comments some people are like, wow, mine won't even try (probably feeling a bit shit that little George will only eat quavers now), and her reply is, really? We're just introducing coriander and feta

AIBU to think this mum is just intent on shaming other mums and thinks she's superior cause her kid eats olives?

I think more kids like olives than don't because of the salt, as pps have said.
Unless I were very insecure about my own parenting, I'd struggle to be offended tbh.
I did hide the "aren't Sundays with my boys having an organic roast then playing Scrabble while listening to radio 4" twat of an acquaintance quite early on in the post-partum brain drain months though.
These parents tend to chill once they realise their kids aren't as unique and amazing as they think.

“oh I wish my children would eat chicken nuggets but I am such a wonderful mum they only eat fresh home cooked food”
We probably have same Facebook friends, this is almost verbatim. Also "oh it must be amazing to have a child who eats at McDonalds, my little one is so fussy she eats only mummy's twenty-veg and quinoa soups". Crying emojis, carrot emoji.

She's pleased (for some weird reason) that her kid likes olives.

It's far too mundane to even think about, let alone start a thread

I hate any caption that starts “when...”

Chill out Ellis. Like I said I was having a rant. I do think it's after 18 months it's irritating.

I don't think her, oh really? He won't eat anything? Well we are introducing feta. Reply was just excitement. It was bragging.

This is why I don't follow my friends on facebook. I keep it because I use it for groups I'm in but I unfollow literally everyone and never check my feed because people invariably come across as twats on social media.

Just reply and say - that’s a lot of salt for a one year old 😁

I have one child who loves olives, smoked salmon and bacon and one child who won’t touch anything that isn’t beige. I can’t take credit for either. Fortunately the more adventurous eater came along second so I didn’t get a chance to be smug.

Lucky kid to get food that she likes. I'd have loved those things as a kid, but my mother was very anti salt in all its forms and a very, very bland, beige food liker. It took until I was about 6 and had started going to parties to find out there were foods that I liked - things like peanut butter, gefiltefish, marmite and suchlike. And smoked bacon was a flaming revelation that I didn't discover until I was an adult, as she despised the stuff whilst I hated unsmoked, especially as it was soaked overnight to get the salt out and then served pretty much poached in its own water.

Your 'friend' just had a child who has the strong, earthy and salty type of palate. This isn't a bad thing, it's just convenient as they obviously have the same. One of mine would describe herself as a supertaster once she'd heard the word - she couldn't even tolerate carrots, peas or bananas as a baby, never mind peppers, eggs or sweet potato. But she did love ham, bacon and sausages much to her father's disgust, as he was a strict vegetarian.

I'd shrug it off. She thinks she's achieved something. Let her have that triumph.

My teenage son loves to cook and I post all the great dishes he makes. Guess I’m bragging too but I am proud that he does it. But it’s a skill he’s taught himself, not just an ability to eat.

Does she chop the olives ? they are similar size to grapes and imo a choking hazard.

If she doesn't maybe point that out and wipe out the smugness.

I know someone on social media who only posts to get compliments and 'wow look at you!' Last week she posted a photo of herself pregnant, in lingerie close up. With some caption about baking a baby. I really don't get the oversharing, but she got what she wanted out of it. Lots of 'you're a goddess!'.

Actually come to think of it, my brother in law mentioned it was odd my children ate olives at 1 - I asked him why, he didn’t have an answer. I found its strange to even question - it’s just olives, hardly caviar and escargot!

Like a lot of these things, you need to pick your audience. She may not mean to brag but a lot of kids really battle with food at this age and it can come across as gloating to share a picture like that, even if she means it differently.

My DS went through a phase of only wanting to eat salmon, berries and 70% dark chocolate when he was one. It was extortionately expensive and a real PITA that he wouldn't touch anything normal like toast or chicken as I either had to make him tiny packed lunches or plan trips out around his gourmet tastes. I went from feeling a bit smug to despair within a couple of months! Your friend will be sorry if her toddler ends up demanding obscure swanky food every meal. My youngest has always liked toast, bananas and yoghurt and it's FAR easier to feed her when we're out and about.

so what?

Why do people take absolutely everything personally? It's unusual, so worth for the parent to mention if she wants. It's not about you.

I have a friend whose kid absolutely hate chocolate. Again, because it's unusual, she jokes about it.

It's quite sad if you think talking about a kid weird preference is bragging. Unless you think olives are "posh" and pretentious maybe? Good grief.

oh I wish my children would eat chicken nuggets but I am such a wonderful mum they only eat fresh home cooked food

I put something slightly similar up once, but it was more, have spent time sweat and blood doing homemade chicken nuggets DS is crying because they are not macdonalds.

I agree with PP once the child reaches a certain point and they decide what they can and can't eat its gets a lot more difficult, at the moment for me its onions, cooked pepper, mushrooms and a few other things

My DS loved lots adventures food from really early and still does but I don’t see how that effects anyone else.

I'd be feeling superior too if I was her, but only because some silly person feel the need to compare themselves to me.

I wouldn’t say it’s shaming anyone at all.

But I do think it’s a bit odd that she thinks a one year old liking olives is noteworthy. If they’ve been introduced to a wide range of tastes and textures why on earth wouldn’t she like olives? It’s really weird the way people limit their kids’ palate from day one with this whole ‘kids only like beans and chips’ nonsense when children all over the world somehow manage to enjoy curry, sushi, spicy food etc...

I’d say the best response to her would be ‘what one year old doesn’t? Have I missed the point? Seems perfectly normal to me, did she struggle with them for a while? :(‘

My DD loved olives when she was one. They used to give her a bowlful free at Pizza Express every time we went in and she would happily trough her way through them. Social media didnt exist back then, but I cant imagine it would have been post-worthy if it had, it was just something a bit unusual she enjoyed. She loved cabbage and sprouts too, so clearly had a very strange palate

You’d hate me, but I’ll give you a giggle.

My dd loved olives at that age. She’s use them as rings on her fingers. She is now a fussy arse so won’t eat anything that isn’t to her liking, she’ll be 10 this year.

But I do think it’s a bit odd that she thinks a one year old liking olives is noteworthy.

because for her it is?
when children all over the world somehow manage to enjoy curry, sushi, spicy food etc... bollocks, all over the world people have preferences. A lot of food are an acquired taste, and eating to survive is not the same as having preferences.

I know lots of adults who can't stand olives, why should it be different for a 1 year old?

I think people read way too much into certain facebook posts but how we perceive them says much more about ourselves than the person writing the post. Why do you care so much about her posts?

People do brag on facebook but one of my friend has a real issue about it. I will read the offending post and will not really see a problem - Is a mutual friend not supposed to mention her husband treated her on her birthday because my friend is divorced? Is she not supposed to be happy at her promotion?

We should be happy that our friends have good lives not jealous and being mean about it. I've noticed my jealous friend scour facebook constantly and forever casting judgements on her facebook friends. I don't understand why she doesn't just delete it as it seems to cause her so much unhappiness at reading about other peoples successes and good lives. It's not all good news but my friend seems to almost take delight when she reads something going wrong in supposed friends lives.

Life is so much simpler when you delete Facebook. You will be amazed how much more chilled out and focused you feel. Your senses don't get assaulted with this sort of crap, it's wonderful.

I'm jealous a 1 year old eats olives. I wish I did, even my cat eats the sodding things.